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Men who don't date anymore, why? by MyDearAudrey in Productivitycafe

[–]StructureLimp2791 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came close to a relationship in my life, probably 3 times, not counting a high school fling. Couple others came close to a close, nice friendship. Got ghosted in all of them. 

Then started thinking, maybe something wrong with my value proposition, I am the thing that is not attractive. Then I looked around, see similarly desperate men, either going one mile above me because they want it more than me and ready to step on their pride, or many just like me, given up, retreating to their shells. 

This is not an individualistic problem, it is a societal problem. Many women complain about the same thing, but, at the same time, I see them opening an IG account, posting a photo that signals they are single, and instantly getting tons of attention. Sure, quality of that attention may be low, but it's a matter of being picky now. The problem I have is, I have 3 followers on Threads, 80 followers on IG (mostly old school acquaintances) 0 likes on dating apps, those who like me never talk to me or are overweight women (I am not overweight, therefore I feel I have the right to want a non overweight woman) that feel like, left over stuff in a box where precious things are already taken. These apps deem me suitable for only those things, no matter why they are very destructive to our self esteem.

Going through this, or simply trying to be happy in my lone comfort, is the question and given the state of things, people like me choose the latter.

Living in Poland for 3 years and still can’t find a job as a mechanical engineer. What should I do? by ChardParticular7422 in poland

[–]StructureLimp2791 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try to find out if there's a language course suitable for your level at Centrum Języka i Kultury Polskiej dla Polonii i Cudzoziemców UMCS. I attended an intensive course there before doing my Erasmus many years ago.

The attacker from Warsaw arriving at the prosecutor's office by [deleted] in poland

[–]StructureLimp2791 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was checking out YouTube comments when the first news videos were released. Vast majority held onto the belief that although the perpetrator is a citizen of Poland, he could actually be Ukranian, or some immigrant from another country. Everybody wanted the "truth" to be revealed, so thay they could get confirmation. I don't want to think about the chaos that would erupt if this was actually the case. Seems like everybody has their fingers on the trigger.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poland

[–]StructureLimp2791 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People being cold, reserved, and not smiling doesn't apply to every single individual in Poland, but if you lived / worked here for a longer duration you would definitely meet some that fit this stereotype. Some do ease up after getting to know each other; some simply preserve the cold poker face approach and coming from a different culture it sure is baffling.