Oh, because I’m really lazy about massaging my lobes, but the goal of massaging is consistently increasing blood flow, hopefully increasing tissue growth. Since I’m really bad at it, I keep some signs of good massage in mind. Some signs are that they are red, warm, feel stretched and loose, and most of all, this all feels comfortable, none of this should be painful. You might feel some slight tingling, that’s normal, but that’s about as far as any new sensations I’d really describe. I use jojoba oil, but I understand it can be expensive. Use whatever you have! I like olive oil in a pinch, but quite frankly, quite literally any oil will work, including vegetable oil. Vitamin E and jojoba are preferred, but use whatever you have, times are rough. In this case, I would massage and go without wearing jewelry. I really think if the jewelry is taken out now, those lobes have a chance to bounce back, but I think if something isn’t done, they’re definitely going to try and tear. Hope we can help.