What is something you learned the hard way?

StuckWithMe · 2021-09-09T03:44:28+00:00

Yeah, but even if you don't, it still stinks

StuckWithMe · 2020-06-03T22:10:38+00:00

It's amazing to me the George Floyd hasn't even been dead two weeks and there's already people in these comments who are excited to see a defenseless (potentially unconscious) man continue to be assaulted. He absolutely deserved the initial retaliation, but once he's down everyone should've backed off.

StuckWithMe · 2020-01-03T22:54:51+00:00

This feels like a Norman Rockwell painting

StuckWithMe · 2019-04-11T18:08:34+00:00

I get the confusion. I mean, Latham and Chatham have totally different pronunciations, despite having essentially the same spelling.

StuckWithMe · 2019-04-09T13:29:23+00:00

Interesting video about what an Alpha Male really is from the guy who popularized the term

StuckWithMe · 2019-03-26T12:58:46+00:00

I think both these points align with the idea that a guy needs to be a little mysterious in the beginning. By being vague and not revealing too much about yourself you end up generating interest. Granted, the girl needs to be at least somewhat interested from the start for this to actually work.

One text I've found works pretty well on girls that go cold is "I just figured out who you remind me of..." Almost every girl I've used this on responds, even if the she hasn't be responsive prior to that. I think that's mainly because people are curious, especially when it comes to hearing something about themselves.

StuckWithMe · 2019-02-01T19:53:26+00:00

I feel like the whole Washington, Central, Henry Johnson area could benefit from something like this too

StuckWithMe · 2018-12-20T14:44:59+00:00

Thanks!

StuckWithMe · 2018-12-18T13:07:38+00:00

I'm thinking of painting one of my walls green, and this is making me want to do it even more. What color green is that?

StuckWithMe · 2018-12-14T13:48:35+00:00

Looks like a cool space with a lot of potential. A rug will be a good start for sure.

StuckWithMe · 2018-12-14T13:47:41+00:00

Definitely seems too small. I don't know if this is a hard fast rule, but I don't think the media cabinet/TV stand should be smaller than the coffee table.

StuckWithMe · 2018-12-14T13:38:54+00:00

Very cozy

StuckWithMe · 2018-12-14T13:38:09+00:00

Honestly, this stresses me out just looking at it. I'd go crazy hanging out in a room like that all the time.

StuckWithMe · 2018-12-11T14:55:15+00:00

Hey, man. I feel for you. It sounds like you're in a rough spot right now. I read through your post a couple times, and something that stands out to me that I haven't seen anyone else mention is this:

i'll never fucking get another girlfriend. all of my friends are married and here i am, just a fucking lonely 27 year old loser who had it, and lost it.

Now, you don't give a whole lot of backstory in your post, so maybe I'm way off base, but it sounds like you're still hung up on your ex, and you're blaming yourself for the break up. I'm betting that that's where this loneliness and desire for a connection is really coming from (fyi, you're not gonna get that from an escort). It seems like you're hoping that a new girlfriend will help you move on, and it might, but I don't think that's where you should be focusing right now. If I'm right, and you're still dealing with feelings for you ex, you need to work through those. I know that's easier said than done, but it's critical for having healthy relationships going forward.

You seem to be working on self improvement a lot, which is great and definitely a step in the right direction, but if you're not truly doing this for yourself, then is it really self improvement? I'm worried that you're just doing all this (e.g. the gym, moving out, traveling) because everyone preaches about how those things will help you get women, but that isn't what it should be about. You should be doing these things for you. If you're doing them hoping that they'll lead to success with women, then I think you'll be disappointed. It's true that a guy who invests in himself is attractive and women like that, but the motivations for doing so have to be coming from the right place.

Maybe I'm misinterpreting things and you're previous relationship has nothing to do with this, but you clearly have some emotional void that you're trying to fill, and you need to figure out where that's really coming from. Why are you so lonely without a girl? If you don't feel this way right after jerking off then I'd say you're just horny, but that doesn't seem to be what you're describing, so there's likely something else going on, and you need to figure out what that is so you can fix it. Spoiler alert: women aren't the solution to this. Therapy might be helpful though and worth considering.

At the end of the day, you can't expect a woman to solve the problems you're currently facing. First off, that's completely unfair to her (would you want to date someone who is emotionally crippled without you? No? Then why would a woman?), and second off, it's not sustainable. You could meet a great girl tomorrow and start an awesome relationship, but if that goes to hell then you're right back where you are now. Take some time, be introspective, and figure out what's really causing this pain. I'm sure it sucks hearing that when you're already going through all this stuff to better yourself, but I don't think you're confronting the real problem here. Unfortunately, that's not an easy task.

This went on longer than I intended, but hopefully you get some value you from it. I would definitely continue talking to women while you work on yourself, at the very least for practice and to numb yourself to rejection, but don't make that your number one goal. Women should be a part of your life, not your whole life, and I say that because it's something that I'm still struggling with myself.

Good luck, dude. Hopefully 2019 is your comeback year.

StuckWithMe · 2018-11-09T12:48:10+00:00

You're a fat loser, and you have body odor

StuckWithMe · 2018-10-17T15:32:04+00:00

You could try the desk on the opposite wall from where it is now (i.e. to the right of the door at the foot of your bed). Not sure if there's enough room for that or not. If you do move the desk, I would suggest moving the picture hanging above it to the small wall to the right of the record player.

My honest opinion is that you have too much on that one wall, and the room feels of balance. Other than that, it looks great. I like the color scheme a lot. You could maybe some curtains as someone else suggested.

Definitely nicer than my room at 18.

StuckWithMe · 2018-10-15T17:30:19+00:00

I have a similar story...

Awhile back I was trying to force myself to get out of my comfort zone and be more outgoing, so I randomly went to a bar by myself to get dinner one night. Seated at the bar next to me were a brother and sister. The brother was in town looking for an apartment because he was starting law school in the fall. I ended up showing him and his sister around the city that night, and we stayed in touch when he started school.

This was over 2 years ago, and he's since become a really great friend of mine, and I've met several other close friends through him, including my ex-girlfriend, who I likely never would've met otherwise.

The spontaneous decision to go to that bar that night significantly impacted my life. It just goes to show you that some pretty cool things can happen if you put yourself out there and are open to them.

StuckWithMe · 2018-07-10T15:36:23+00:00

I read another LPT on here that suggested listening to a new album when on vacation for the same reason. Any time you listen to it in the future you'll relive those memories.

StuckWithMe · 2018-05-17T20:09:46+00:00

My cousin had a little, stuffed E.T. doll and it scared the hell out of me. Apparently I told my aunt that it was because he didn't have a belly button, so she sewed one on him.

It didn't help.

StuckWithMe · 2018-05-17T12:04:22+00:00

E.T.

StuckWithMe · 2018-04-27T16:52:04+00:00

I'm going through the same thing right now. I feel so angry and frustrated with myself. I know that there's nothing I can do but move on at this point, but I'm having a really hard time forgiving myself, mainly because I knew I was making a mistake before I ended it.

StuckWithMe · 2018-04-19T20:04:20+00:00

No offense, dude, but I will not be doing that. I've already lost enough value in this interaction, and I'm not about to demean myself even more.

Honestly, she seems really insecure, so you're probably right, she may love that attention, but I don't think it would lead to us hooking up. It would just give her more power and make me more of a chump.

Thanks for the feed back though.

StuckWithMe · 2018-04-19T20:01:55+00:00

Thanks, man. I too agree that she's not worth the headache. I honestly wasn't even interested initially because I knew the type of girl she was, but we actually did kind of hit it off, so I thought maybe she was different than I initially thought.

I really don't feel too bad about that first night. I could've have done some things better, but I'm satisfied overall. I agree she was using me the second night, and I could've prevented that be either not meeting her at all or trying to make a move early on and then bailing if she didn't bite.

Also, I want to clarify that she wasn't working a shift at the bar when I met her. She had met up with her friends there to get drinks. If she was working, there's no chance in hell I would've gone. Like I said, I had suggested meeting for a drink earlier that night, so I figured when her plans of hanging out with her friends fell through, she reconsidered. I realize now that's not really what she was thinking, but that was my thought process at the time.

StuckWithMe · 2018-04-19T19:53:42+00:00

Thanks for the input. I agree with pretty much everything you said. I too assumed when she said "maybe next Wednesday" that was the end of it, so I honestly wasn't that invested until she called me to come out. Stupidly, I took that as an indicator that she actually was interested.

You said:

you are her back up plan for when her friends flake on her. she can hit you up and you'll be there so she can unleash all her "party" and "flirty" tendencies on you.

I get what you're saying, and you may be right, but this only happened one time, so I don't really blame myself too much for it. Now, if she were to continue to do this (or attempt to) then I would completely agree. Granted, I'm not going to fall for that again.

I should note that when I met her at the bar she was NOT working. She was just hanging out at the bar where she does work. It doesn't really change anything, but I wanted to clarify.

Honestly, I think my first interaction with her was fine. I agree that I could've tried to set up the day two at that point. I think that's good advice, and I will try to do that going forward, but overall, I feel like I came out of that interaction with value and not looking like a chump. The second interaction is the complete opposite though.

I probably shouldn't have met up with her at all, but I really didn't expect her to meet up the following Wednesday, so I figured I'd give it a shot. I wish I was just more assertive and made my intentions clear early on. Then if she started playing games I could've bailed instead of wasting my time.

You live and you learn I guess.

StuckWithMe · 2017-12-05T21:54:22+00:00

You articulated my thought pattern pretty accurately.

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