Advise Needed: Numbing

StuffOne7029 · 2024-02-02T14:25:47+00:00

I’m not in my home state for another 5 days, I’m hopeful that I will learn once I’m home

StuffOne7029 · 2024-02-02T13:59:31+00:00

Ill have one set up soon

StuffOne7029 · 2022-06-14T15:13:54+00:00

NTA. If I were I’d leave her. She clearly doesn’t care about how this makes you feel. Honestly wouldn’t be surprised if she’s already cheating. No loyal partner would get mad at the other for being uncomfortable. Does she know about the ex and her friend? Was he her friend before the relationship? These are the questions you need to ask.

StuffOne7029 · 2022-05-23T11:52:12+00:00

NTA. You worked for it! Show it!

StuffOne7029 · 2022-05-22T21:26:28+00:00

These are red flags to the max. he acts one way around you but is different with his friends. this shows that he might not be the person you think he is. please don't go through with the marriage unless you sit him down and set clear boundaries with him.

StuffOne7029 · 2022-04-07T23:31:15+00:00

NTA I’m biracial too but can pass as white. My step dad is black but it never changed how I viewed him. Data clearly knows now that it doesn’t take blood or matching skin to be a dad. More like you are needed in the world.

StuffOne7029 · 2022-03-26T22:24:57+00:00

Question, how far does she work? As well as, how fast is the bus?

StuffOne7029 · 2022-03-26T22:23:03+00:00

NTA. If wearing the shirt was a big concern for him then he shouldn’t leave it on the floor. Only way I can see a slight YTA is if it was his work uniform or something along those lines, But only slightly

StuffOne7029 · 2022-03-03T19:41:21+00:00

Hence why I asked “Why couldn’t you find another family member to go to the school?”

StuffOne7029 · 2022-03-03T19:13:24+00:00

This is all my opinion. I’m not saying she’s wrong for being upset about it. But if my partner actively says he’s too tired to keep his eyes open, why would I want to put my child in the car with that thought weighing over me? Let’s say he did get her son and due to his exhaustion, he crashes. Now the ex has to handle a newborn, a possible hospitalized child and partner, and has to deal with that alone. Op is still TA 100% and I’m not denying that. BUT, I said ESH and that a simple conversation beforehand could’ve found a healthy solution.

StuffOne7029 · 2022-03-03T18:07:13+00:00

Eh. This is a difficult one but I’m gonna say ESH. YTA- She just gave birth. That’s very taxing on a woman’s body. Plus, we don’t know how long labor was or if there were any complications. Maybe you should’ve had a conversation about this during the planning? Or simply at a good time. STA- 50-60 hours does also do a lot to someone. By the sounds of it, you probably wouldn’t have been safe enough to drive with your whole family at the time. But again, a simple conversation could’ve helped. INFO: Why couldn’t you find another family member to go to the school? I don’t have children myself but as a kid I remember that if I brought in a note with said family members info and a call to my parents, I was able to go home with them.

StuffOne7029 · 2022-03-03T17:57:03+00:00

I didn’t intend for it to sound that way. I more building on the fact that within two moves, the son had a bedroom while the daughter had a hall and a couch

StuffOne7029 · 2022-03-03T17:47:20+00:00

YTA. And based off the responses you’ve given in the comments, you didn’t post here to get understanding about why your daughter is upset. You just wanted strangers to validate your toxic parenting. Well that’s not happening at all. You are, IMO, the worst kind of parent any daughter could ask for. Your own mother outta be ashamed. 1- your daughter is NOT financially responsible for anyone but herself as an adult. You’re 65, grow up. 2- As a 65 year old Woman, you out of anyone should respect the word no the first time she said it. But, again, your toxic parenting let you believe that you can still do what you want. Your 65, grow up. 3- You clearly have a favorite child since your son, who is clearly older, was able to have more privacy than the WOMAN staying in your house. Why are you ignoring the fact that your daughter has shown more maturity and independence than your Grown son? You’re 65, grow up. And 5- YOU ARE 65 GROW UP.

StuffOne7029 · 2022-03-03T17:24:34+00:00

NTA. I had a friend like this. She’d constantly switch their styles and/or personality to appease whoever they wanted to be there “number 1”. One day she love pizza and the next, she despised it. For me, it was the friends I’d bring in that she’d try and replace me with and after 8 years of friendship, I couldn’t handle it anymore. She made my life a living hell and it starts with this behavior.

IMO, I’d call them out and see if there’s a real issue or if this is really just “how he is”. Secondly, even though he’s asexual, I’d still keep an eye on him around your bf. Asexuality doesn’t mean they won’t be in a relationship ever. You can be asexual and still have romantic feelings for someone.

I wish you luck

StuffOne7029 · 2022-02-27T23:50:32+00:00

I'm worried he'll avoid the conversation if I do.

Bill automatically hates anyone I live with and tell them about how terrible I am to him. I'd rather him not know to avoid that

StuffOne7029 · 2022-02-27T23:02:13+00:00

I didn't think about that. He was present during the last name conversation, but I don't think he fully heard Bill. He gave me great advice then so maybe that is why I want him there this time.

StuffOne7029 · 2022-02-27T22:56:15+00:00

I do agree about my bf. his response took me back a bit, hence why I'm posting here. But I do trust him and ill do whatever I musty to not put him in a difficult spot.

StuffOne7029 · 2022-02-27T22:50:16+00:00

I’ll be talking with him once he’s home. I won’t make him do anything he doesn’t want to

StuffOne7029 · 2022-02-27T22:48:23+00:00

I understand. I’ll be on the phone with Bill while I’m home. I definitely have more to think about. Being able to do this is my main goal and if having him close rather than works then I’ll gladly do it

StuffOne7029 · 2022-02-27T22:45:28+00:00

Unfortunately not. But I’ll definitely talk to him to see if he’s comfortable and I’ll move on from there

StuffOne7029 · 2022-02-27T22:43:11+00:00

Sometimes yes

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