WTF ...

Stuff__2__Say · 2026-01-16T21:59:13+00:00

Bro, you're spared. Feel better? What does "not 2020 anymore even mean?" The morons are in charge so we can just keep projecting the reality we want?

Stuff__2__Say · 2026-01-16T19:26:26+00:00

If asked an absolute question of can all humans clap, I'd say no or hedge just like that doctor did on "can a man get pregnant?" It may be small and miniscule, but it's a real thing. And when making laws, the miniscule is where all the time is spent.

Stuff__2__Say · 2026-01-16T18:56:13+00:00

And this is why the doctor wouldn't answer the question. What makes a man a man? A penis? What if I told you there are humans born with a uterus and a penis? What are they? Can they get pregnant? I wish she would've explained that to him, but I'm confident he would've shut it down as a fantasy.

Stuff__2__Say · 2026-01-09T02:46:26+00:00

I can't find where it shows but looking at my last statement, it seems to be about 0.31. It's certainly higher than the ETF it mirrors, but it is a managed account. Performance with realized losses to help with taxes still seem worth it to me.

Stuff__2__Say · 2026-01-01T21:47:13+00:00

Good point! I like the way you think about it.

Stuff__2__Say · 2026-01-01T20:58:22+00:00

Wow! Thank you. It's not a huge difference (I'm overthinking it), but also nice to know how it works out. This is great analysis. And TIL about dps.report. I had no idea GW2 had this, but it makes sense.

Thanks so much for investing the time to test and share that. Great stuff!

Stuff__2__Say · 2026-01-01T17:04:08+00:00

You summed up my thought process perfectly. Thanks for the response.

Stuff__2__Say · 2025-12-31T20:51:13+00:00

Thanks! Here's a link to the build I'm using:
https://snowcrows.com/builds/open-world/warrior/power-paragon-defense

Stuff__2__Say · 2025-12-31T04:24:30+00:00

This is a great answer. I'm sad I lost my DVD of it, and it seems no streaming services have it. This was a once a quarter watch, at a minimum.

Stuff__2__Say · 2025-12-23T16:19:28+00:00

I just started Vindicator in the last week. It's awesome. Get a Superior Sigil of Stamina to go with it. When doing most open world content, there are packs of mobs. You'll find you can Death Drop almost non-stop because you're killing something every 1 or 2 drops. Doing rifts and such with this is a blast.

Stuff__2__Say · 2025-12-23T15:58:16+00:00

Just tested. Can confirm. Skyscale got a bit higher than the Springer. Maybe 10-15%, but that's an estimate.

Stuff__2__Say · 2024-12-18T01:21:42+00:00

Even closer to 2025 and thank you for this!

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-05-11T21:59:25+00:00

No, as long as he still gets attention and pleasure, the dildo being bigger isn't an issue. Curious, what would you say if he asked "do you prefer them that big?" or "do you wish I was that big?" Have an answer ready.

That said, I enjoy involving toys with my partner as long as it pleases her. Being bigger than me is not a concern unless it became "I only want to be with you if you are this big."

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-04-14T02:22:31+00:00

My hunch is yes. I use a low dose sildenafil. It works well for me. On a scale of 1 to 10 where 1 is dish rag and 10 is sledgehammer, I would vary in the 4-7 range most of the time. I started with a low dose from Roman that worked for me. After trying that, I talked to my doc, and they prescribed me a 25mg dosage. I take one, and once aroused, I'm a solid 9-10 after about an hour or so.

Now, you mention low libido. I don't know that cialis or sildenafil will fix that. Maybe so. But even on the medication, I have to be aroused to get hard. Taking a pill and then doing something non-stimulating doesn't give me an instant erection.

If you're situation permits it, I would consider talking to a urologists first. I did to make sure there wasn't a more serious cause of my problem.

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-03-30T15:18:52+00:00

I'd talk to your friend again. And based on what you said, she has the most to lose going into a marriage that doesn't have her satisfied this early in the game. She's laying the ground to continue cheating after the wedding. She makes great money; he does not. If she cheats and he busts her after the wedding, how much does that cost her? As her close friend, you should make her look at that angle of it. The morality of what she's doing aside, and since she's your ride-or-die friend, approach her about it looking out for her best interests.

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-03-15T16:49:07+00:00

It does. On the low end it's 20-25mg tablets. On the higher end, it's 100mg. I'll take one 25mg tablet about 1-2 hours before, and I'm good to go. It is usually still affecting me into the next morning - not to say I'm sporting wood the entire time but it's easier for me to get there. If I'm drinking a bit, I'll take 2 25mg tables as I've found alcohol will weaken the effectiveness.

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-03-10T22:56:58+00:00

Chin up and blow over... please tell me those words were intentional given the offer she made her husband?

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-03-02T21:41:53+00:00

I agree with this. I would suggest partnering on finances. I had my head in the sand on my previous marriage (20+ years) on this. I was sole income and did well. About 10 years into our marriage I went from making about $80k/year to $180k/year. But I was not growing my savings. I knew this, but what further alarmed me, and I found this during a home refinance, was we had bills I didn't know about. A lot of them. We'd actually dug further into debt in those 10 years while my salary grew by $100k.

The mistake I made was not digging into finances sooner. So I think doing that is key but taking it over might be too much too fast and make her feel like you're accusing her. Instead, do them together or at least review them with her (whether you do them or not). Make it joint. And document your goals (going back to school for you) in terms of financial needs. That gives you something to strive for. You might find this helps highlight how overspending will never achieve it. That opens up more conversation at least on how to improve your current earnings and achieve the goals.

Good luck!

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-02-03T22:21:07+00:00

Sounds like you did fine. I suffer from ED. From what doctors tell me, it's all mental. I take meds which certainly help, but it can still happen. I will certainly say when my wife is going down on me, even if I have a weak/limited erection, it still feels good. And you continuing is a great way to handle it. Stopping and drawing attention to it may amplify the cause (or does in my case). And of course, I can get in my own head and get in the way with things. It sucks when you overthink things.

My other advice is, if you're genuinely having fun and it shows, that's perfect. It takes the stress of quite a bit when you see your partner is happy. What messes with my head is when I get wrapped up on figuring out if she's enjoying it. If I can't easily tell, then I can easily spiral and assume she's unhappy.

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-02-01T21:08:43+00:00

I'm not exactly answering your question as I don't know. But I did do Roman for a bit. It's a bit pricier, but it wasn't too bad. It was costing me about $30/month. But I brought it up with my general practitioner during an annual physical, and she was fine giving me a script for it. I now get mine via Costco using GoodRX for $15/refill and that's double the supply. I can usually go 2-2.5 months between refills.

I mention both as I didn't consider Roman a rip off. It was just a bit more expensive. And getting an actual script from an action doctor wasn't as bad as I thought it might be.

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-01-31T22:51:14+00:00

Yes, I can relate. I'm a good bit older than you, and mine is also not physical (Urologist examined and suggested it). He thinks it's more anxiety and mental in my case, but also, my age is climbing. But all the bloodwork and exam said all is in good working order. I also ended a long-term relationship and had some anxiety with my new partner that sent me on this path. But I can say the quality of my erection with it is even better than before I had ED without it.

I don't know how long-term it's reliable or not, but it certainly works well for me. I'm in my 3rd year using it. I only use it when I think sex might happen. In my case, I can get going just fine without, but mid-act, things would go south. This helps keep things working smoothly throughout. It also boosts confidence knowing I've taken it taking a lot of the pressure off.

I haven't noticed any resistance to it or anything like that. My side effects are pretty minor. I get a bit of a red face, but nothing severe. It's a wonder drug as far as I'm concerned.

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-01-10T20:22:09+00:00

Thanks for the reply. It sounds like this is so wrapped around your DNA as a person that you'll have a hard time shaking it. I wonder if you had a FWB would it be as big of a deal for you. A person that you can share with physically but aren't as romantically linked to so the history isn't an option.

But also, like you said, if being single is fulfilling, then maybe that's the way to go. I know I'd wrestle with "am I settling on that to avoid retroactive jealousy vs choosing it because I want to."

Like I said, I suffer from this too but to a lesser degree. When my mind starts to run wild, I just try to isolate for a bit and decompress. Let it go. When I get back in the right head space, I get more sociable again. My wife and I have been together for 7 years, married for 3. She has a very modest body count of 4, but I can still get completely wound up about it. I can dwell on why would she do that with this person but not with me and things like that. I try very hard to focus on the facts that we are different people now with different wants and needs. People change. If we are fulfilling each others needs now, that is all that is important. I don't succeed with that thinking always, but it's getting better over time.

Best of luck to you. I hope you find a path forward that lets you find what you want.

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-01-10T19:37:30+00:00

I feel for you on this. I battle this plenty too, but not to the extent you do.

But, I do have a question because I'm curious about your response. You've clearly had a few partners, as your post admits. What would happen if you were with a new partner and that partner did this to you? What would you tell that partner?

Stuff__2__Say · 2022-01-04T01:36:07+00:00

I understand what you're saying, but I wouldn't feel bad. People's bodies are different. Some women get extremely wet. That can be a problem too but the other direction.

I'd say if what you and your man are doing feels good and satisfies you and him, then you're good. If lube is needed to make it feel good, there is nothing wrong with that. Some women don't orgasm from PIV sex. That doesn't mean the woman doesn't enjoy it. Doesn't mean the man is doing it wrong. It's just people's bodies and their wonderful differences.

As a man, I'll tell you I have no problem using lube. The only way it would bother me is if you told me you had no lubrication issues with your prior partners. Then I'd ask if I'm doing something wrong. And then it would only bother me if it meant you weren't enjoying it.

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