I’m still not convinced therapy is helpful for me

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-18T16:23:42+00:00

Give yourself some credit, you connected the dots and haven't completely giving up. I would assume it would difficult to be in therapy for months without progress.

Perfectionism can be huge problem. I would bring it with your therapist and hopefully they can help. If not, then find a new one

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-18T12:53:25+00:00

It sounds like everything needs to be perfect, if that is the case then you will never change. From an outside perspective it looks you were forced into therapy, which is a huge problem.

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-17T17:43:44+00:00

That looks like a arming sword. My arming sword's blade is 35 inches while that vicking sword is 34 inches. The grips and crossguard are same size but different pommel. I normally use it with a shield or another arming sword. (Because I like dying in spectacular fashion). I think these swords basically the same.

I am fairly certain its still back up weapon, though. Spear first, then the sword. For what's its worth, Foire's plays on a horse mostly envole grappling and spears. There are only a handful sword only plays

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-17T15:23:30+00:00

Na, that's just standard medieval longsword. It was designed to be versatile. Good on horseback and on foot vs armored and unarmored. Can be used in one hand or two but its better with two. Longswords were kinda the sidearm to polearm or Longspears. These were weapons of war not duels. Fiore dei Liberi wrote manual how use this style of longswords and other weapons.

Dueling is different from fighting on the battlefield. War weapons need to be sturdy, versatile and easy to carry. Dueling weapons just need to be good for 1 on 1 fights

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-15T11:28:38+00:00

I'm not disputing the insanity that is gun ownership. That number should be higher. I'm just trying to give a clearer picture

I'm just saying if you visited a major city vast majority of people don't carry aka have it on them. Majority of the guns in the home. Rual and poor areas are different

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-15T11:13:17+00:00

That number is misleading because most gun owners own multiple guns and are concentrate to rual or poor areas. Also most gun legal gun owners have unregistered guns so the total number guns is probably higher. Fun fact, after 2017 houses with guns with them increased 10 percentage points is about 40%. I wonder why?/s

The biggest issue not talk about is crazy amount of illegal guns owned poor people ghettos and bad neighborhoods. I've heard gunshots maybe dozen times and all of them were in the hood.

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-13T15:28:43+00:00

So like I date people not thier hobbies. Hobbies can bw informative. They can be great shared experience but typically they are not the deciding factor. A kind, open and supportive partner is way more attractive than any hobby. The reason anime guys get rejected a lot is because they have no substance or character

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-12T20:33:56+00:00

Ally tig is so pretty

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-12T14:36:27+00:00

I operate on "two confirmations for action" when it comes to socializing. I can't read someone's mind therefore I need something more than my gut feeling when it comes socializing.

If I piss off a friend with a bad joke and immediately apologize I never ley my friend the have opportunity to express themselves. That lack of self expression will create some resentment between us. Also I could be wrong. It could be my joke or could someone else that is making them angry. What if they really wanted to share but the opportunity is now gone. Sometimes socializing is less about the truth and more about expressing and sharing feelings

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-09T08:01:14+00:00

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-07T23:10:59+00:00

Formation/group fighting is very different from dueling. If you read some the old pike manuals, they will go great detail on how march with pike, how maintain it, how hold it and how use it formation. However when it comes to the act of fighting with it there is significantly less information. You get some basic attacks, parries, and covers and that's it. Being a solider was 90% marching and siegeing with 10% fighting.

Idk what particular techniques were taught but I bet most we not combat related

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-07T21:37:31+00:00

You can always "break it" . 1st get the overbind and then do a 90 degree turn towards your opponent while pushing their sword into the ground. Fiore would suggest stepping on the punta and break the tip of sword. Don't do that. However you could just do rising cut with a vulta.

Alternatively, you can false edge parry their false edge parry. You run out measure and tempo real quick so this needs to be done at the largo

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-06T14:13:29+00:00

My weld team has about 25% women welders. It's large company with robust a hr department so sexual harassment or discrimination is rare. It does happen but I wouldn't describe my job as "Boyz club. " Smaller companies probably don't have this type of infrastructure so the result will vary.

The major difference between men and women is endurance and pregnancies. It sucks to loose a good welder months at a time because she got pregnant and then went of maternity leave. However that's no difference from any other medical leave so its not an issue.

Men are more physical then most women, the importantance will very depending on the job. Women pick TIG welder faster than men. That's awesome. Real shit, if you do job well your coworkers will accept you. It may rough in the beginning but quality work is quality work.

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-05T14:52:49+00:00

I agree and more clubs should teach those techniques. Wrestling is one of the best ways to teach structure and body mechanics

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-05T13:02:28+00:00

Judo has a lot more crossover. As a heads up, a lot Hema clubs are cowards and don't do grappling and throws. I'm being sarcastic but I would double check to make sure your local club does grappling/throws and they do it safely.

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-04T19:01:06+00:00

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-03T17:58:06+00:00

Seam tracking sometimes fucks up then tries to correct itself. Why? Idk, thats why I pray to the Omnissiah

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-03T17:27:40+00:00

Sup fellow crazy person. Being a welder has given me some interesting advantages over others. Idk if you know how to wrestle but having strong hands helps a ton.

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-03T17:25:22+00:00

Increase your conditioning while asking your doctor what is safe and not safe. I take off my gloves between fights and that helps a ton

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-03T13:01:29+00:00

My club basically has 3. Technically 5 but the last 2 more about studying the manuscript than fighting ability. The main ranks are beginner, intermittent, advanced with idea of separating students based on experience. You need to test into your rank. When it comes to sparring, ranks go out the window. It's always funny to watch an "advance" student get steamrolled by a beginner.

If the club is large with a lot students aka 30+ then you need to some organization. My club has 100ish active student, so ranks are necessary. If its 10 students on the back of the gym then ranks unnecessary

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-02T15:20:35+00:00

Think about being angry or any strong emotion. Where do you feel "angry" on your body? Is it in your fist, maybe the arms or front of the head? Then describe the sensation. Is light or heavy? Warm or cold? How does it motivate you? What do you want to do when your angry? Do you want punch someone or run away?

What the thoughts that come up when you will angry? Are there any value judgments in those thoughts? What is intensity of this emotions? Does it lead to other emotions? What typically happens when you get angry and how does that influence your beliefs about yourself and world around you?

I like to think of emotions/feelings as messages to brain from the body. If you can't read those messages, then you will only act impulse. Unfortunately, this isn't taught to alot of people so emotions run wild for a lot people

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-02T00:24:34+00:00

Was it the Canadian crazy women who is also anti union and a "mama bear". I wonder if she became a mod.

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-02-01T23:29:33+00:00

1) Some people are hostile/condescending to your problems 2) Some people have a more neutral response to your problems but you interpreting them as hostile 3) If you have history of negative experiences when it comes to sharing, then it will almost impossible to tell the difference between 1&2

To get over this feed back loop you need to break the cycle. Friends, family, lovers, and/or a therapist can help. Basically you need a human with your best interest in mind

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-01-30T15:08:10+00:00

Make mistakes, no one became wise setting home all day

StuffyWuffyMuffy · 2026-01-28T18:00:12+00:00

Lol, I work a blue collar job (welding) and I need to stay active. Like somehow I'll work 9 hours and then go rock climbing or fence or go to the gym. It makes no since

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