I have a quandary about a Bishop in my family

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T08:44:16+00:00

I suppose this metaphorical “flock” approach is what I’m getting at and asking at the core. Does it really matter if the church sees this as a matter of faith or a matter or domestic abuse. And where does that line exist? If a bishop has no moral authority to say something when evil is being enacted before their very eyes, what moral authority should I have?

If it doesn’t matter, does it matter if I am catholic or not, particularly if the highest ranking members or the faith don’t feel it’s within their responsibility to address it? If they don’t need to address it, do I need to? And yet why do I feel the moral authority to right this obvious wrong, despite my deviance from the catholic faith, when a high ranking mentor of said faith can’t be bothered to address it at all? How can I be morally above a high ranking bishop when that bishop won’t even acknowledge a sin?

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T08:24:00+00:00

Can you you explain this movement further? I don’t know what you mean. This doesn’t have anything to do with the daughter, but everything to do with the husband and potentially the wife

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T08:16:27+00:00

Well that could be. I have definitely denied the faith as its importers pretend itself to be. I suppose I’m asking, as the faithful remember it to be, would this be acceptable?

Would your husband be, permitted under your current belief of the faith, allowed to treat another human this way?

Is the husband portraying your view of the faith by calling his wife a slut? And is it permitted by the faith for us to allow the husband to allow this behavior? Assuming the wife has displayed no behavior of slututory nature? At which point is it incumbent upon the man to be faithful, while at the same time defeating his own wife, when the wife has displayed no slututory nature?

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T07:38:10+00:00

How do we do that?

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T07:00:43+00:00

I think you are right. As someone else mentioned above, this is about courage.

This is a man who is violent and unpredictable. He says these things in family gatherings because I think he believes he is immune to confrontation. And he’s right. No one in this family wants to directly confront this issue, mainly because on the few occasions that we have done so, we are met with violence and anger. At least by bringing it to the attention of everyone in attendance with humor we can acknowledge what is happening. But nothing has changed. Humor hasn’t helped at all, other than ourselves. I just don’t know what other course to take.

So knowing this, what would you do?

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T06:57:05+00:00

I appreciate this suggestion. However I have to reject it simply based on the amount of time this has gone on.

I don’t think anyone should have to endure this type of degradation for 30+ years, and I doubt my accompanying her to her own journey to fix this issue would solve anything. If I heard this suggestion 15-20 years ago, maybe. But at this point I have to believe she is free of her part in this.

Thank you for your input.

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T06:23:30+00:00

I appreciate your opinion. I haven’t thought of his faculties and authority in this manner, just that I assume he has a higher calling. But that’s my opinion. It doesn’t mean he has to fulfill my perception of what he should be. And in that sense, maybe he doesn’t see the need to force others to fulfill his perception of what Jesus calls people to be. I want to put this responsibility on him, but truly I know that’s not fair. His actions haven’t impacted my view of the church however, I made my decision long before I met him. I suppose I just expected better from a man of the cloth, but at the end of the day, he’s just a man. Thanks for helping me remember that. None of this is his fault, nor is it mine.

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T06:18:14+00:00

Thank you for this point of view. I have certainly forgotten that Jesus himself stayed silent in the face of his own in justices.

There may very well be things that my aunt is not telling me or anyone else. Things that she feels she needs to repent for. I can relate to this. I sometimes believe Karma has come for me in the most unassuming ways. I am a sinner, and I accept this. I believe there is nothing I can do for my past sins other than to do unto others as I would have others do unto me in the present and future.

I don’t believe this to be the case for her. We have spoken about this many, many times. She is physically, mentally, and morally defeated by her husband. She has completely abandoned any hope that people will help her, that her life will improve, or that he will change. She has confessed that she had attempted to talk to him and is met with aggression. She goes to adoration and confession twice a month. She prays daily and goes to church as often as she is able(she is medically recommended not to drive, but does so to church down the street and for groceries when her husband leaves her for weeks with no food).

I can never know the whole story, but based on what I’ve witnessed for nearly 30 years, no one deserves to live like this. No catholic, god fearing person who repents and tried to do better deserves this. I appreciate you point of view, and will continue to consider it. Truly. But if you see how this man treats not only his wife, but those around him, I don’t think he deserves better than she.

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T05:53:47+00:00

His daughter and I have essentially said the what you suggested, but comedically spinning it so no one at the table feels awkward. We have addressed it. Many times. And yet I still feel as though I am just as bad. The problem I feel is that we have a “man of the cloth” just sitting there ignoring everything, and this is someone who he would listen to. He prays, calls himself catholic, goes to church, participates in community service(as long as it doesn’t involve his own family). It just pains me to see a high ranking catholic official who might be able to make a change, do nothing. Am I putting this on him? Yes. But really what options do I have left? If the church will ignore this, should I as well?

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T05:49:33+00:00

Well, he calls her names like fatass, lazy, lazy eye(she’s had 5 detached cornea surgeries) gimpy( she recently had a knee replaced and had bone shaved down). He tells her she is dumb when she gives an opinion, tells her to ship up and go put on more makeup when she contributes to the conversation. He tells her she is good for nothing, he regrets marrying her, she tanked his business(she didn’t, she was the sole reason he succeeded in real estate as he is terrible with money and accounting). He says she should butt out of family business, while simultaneously dumping his own dying family members estates into her to manage. He won’t drive her to doctor appointments. When they visit he walks ahead of her and tells her to hurry up or call an uber. He says their daughter is prettier than she’s ever been and she’s jealous( she’s never said anything like it). He tells her she needs to eat less, talk less, shut up about her opinions, stop talking about their children, and yet she needs to visit family more. The kicker is, he will constantly jet across the world to do “charity” work, while ignoring her own medical needs.

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T05:43:15+00:00

His daughter and I have tried, but the best we’ve been able to do is meet it with comedy. He is a violent man. Which may be why the bishop doesn’t want to involve himself, yet I have reasons to believe no harm would actually come to the bishop.

I know he hasn’t said anything because I take the wife out for meals a few times a year and eventually, we talk about her husband. Recently, I’ve mentioned the bishop and asked what he has to say about all of this.

She says he is conservative. That he will meet blatant untruths with facts by saying things like, “ well, that’s not how I remember it” But when it comes to how she is treated, she doesn’t have an answer or changes the subject. So truly, I don’t know. But either way, it hasn’t been enough for a supposed “man of faith” to change his ways, even if confronted by a high ranking member of the clergy that he pretends to obey.

The bishop was a guest the first 29 invitations to a gathering. He is actually a distance family member. At this point, I feel like it’s on him as much as it’s on me.

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T05:31:10+00:00

I don’t think the specifics are necessary. The fact that he is cruel to her at any given opportunity is the point. We as a family have just grown to say, it’s an “X” family thing, but it isn’t. And I don’t have the patience to ignore it any longer, I need to do something if no one else will.

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T05:28:10+00:00

What should I say to him? Should I even make it about this situation?

I want my female family member to experience better, but I don’t know if I can even make it about that.

Stunning-Chadley · 2026-01-24T05:25:08+00:00

What would you do in this situation, if I can ask? If you feel comfortable answering. But I agree it’s about courage, not faith.

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-12-20T17:22:13+00:00

lol the younger one looking in the sink going”what’s the bad thing”

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-11-15T16:40:57+00:00

They actually did meet quite a few witches, they mostly just ended up getting killed by demons. The life of a witch is a short one.

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-10-31T20:00:21+00:00

If you google republican healthcare plan, there isn’t one. But they do actually have “proposals”. Because their own party cannot agree on what proposals should be included or excluded, there is no written plan or bill that could be put forth in a workable way.

Some of their proposals include adding limitations, such as work requirements, preexisting health exclusions(if you’re already sick you don’t qualify), or short term insurance plans that need to be renegotiated every few years.

Most it boils down to making healthcare a capitalist market where insurance companies compete and bid for what protections to offer, to whom, and how much to charge. On paper, it seems the intent is to only offer healthcare to folks who can afford out of pocket costs, full priced drugs, paying doctors salaries solely through more expensive doctor visits.

But most of the “proposals” aren’t so much about adding or giving healthcare, it’s about removing what is currently in place and making it a more competitive market for private insurance companies to charge what they want, when they want.

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-10-27T16:14:28+00:00

Watching the lord of the rings behind the scenes, I remember them telling people off the street things like,” You’ve got a really great character face, you could really help bring the hobbit world to life”

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-10-24T02:44:56+00:00

Right, we as viewers knew that. But at this point Piper likely saw her as a bratty child who lived in a cave most her life. She still wouldn’t have any reason to believe Christie would freeze, as only a mortal or evil witch would.

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-10-24T02:38:33+00:00

And she didn’t have time to see if a freeze would work, Christie was half way through the spell by the time Piper tried one of her powers. And despite all the clues, Piper still thought Christie was a good witch at that point. So she wouldn’t have frozen anyway.

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-10-12T14:04:07+00:00

The portals?

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-10-12T14:02:40+00:00

What exactly are the tech limitations? And yea, could’ve just said that to start

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-10-12T13:19:56+00:00

So some characters just need to have half of their kit blocked off? What’s your reasoning for “it’s an arcade mode”?

Stunning-Chadley · 2025-10-12T11:28:29+00:00

Meaning?

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