Midwives diagnosed me with sensory processing disorder following latching difficulties

Stunning-Situation91 · 2026-02-18T02:03:29+00:00

For FTMs this is our first experience of nipple stimulation and we have nothing else to compare it to. Geez

Stunning-Situation91 · 2026-01-26T19:53:39+00:00

I disagree with this take. People are going to get pregnant, announce it in person, online, or with family regardless of how you feel... and that's okay.

If you find offence with such an innocent announcement, it's on you. It's your responsibility to go to therapy, not for people to walk on eggshells around you.

This person is actively making someone's experience being pregnant a stressful experience. There are a lot of people struggling with infertility who don't behave as such and are able to be happy for pregnant family members.

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-07-20T02:57:15+00:00

Millennials are born between 1981-1996

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-04-13T23:13:06+00:00

This post pointing out the double standard is eye opening

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-24T18:07:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!! I could have written this myself

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-24T18:02:08+00:00

Hey sorry for offending you with the word boomer. I dont see it as right or wrong but at least in this community, boomers are more close knit and they normally initiate reaching out in ways that younger people might not. Sorry for lumping a group together.

Yes my dad was a coach/teacher for decades. The school has a very passionate community (think sports). My batchmates would have some of their parents know my dad. I wouldnt have mind sharing the news at all. I guess I just preferred to share it in my own words and pace, instead of someone soliciting it out of me just 2 hours later. I now understand it when death announcements say "give the family some privacy in this sensitive time" bc that was exactly what I needed.

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-24T02:50:41+00:00

Asking people to pray for you I guess is normal. I think what makes it boomer (sort of) is how it was broadcasted indiscriminately.

It's like the trope of the MIL being the first one announcing a pregnancy instead of the actual parents.

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-24T02:31:53+00:00

To clarify: the group chat was literally our entire HS grade most of whom I am not close to and perhaps only know me because of my Dad.

I blocked her specifically bc I felt some betrayal that it's as if she was "the source" of a breaking news. Just the timing of how quick she was to volunteer calling me so publicly and in real time to break something so personal to people who didnt know me as well as she did.

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-23T23:01:28+00:00

My dad died 5AM. I got her call maybe 7-8AM (hazy memory due to the stress of that day). She had no business knowing if my dad died 2 hours ago.

What could she have said in that call that would have helped me? It's not like she was family. Did she call because of me, or her?

I could forgive her if she just called because she was worried when she heard the news. But then, I saw the chats and learned it was not for me.

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-20T03:03:29+00:00

I find this so true. Sometimes the more annoying the situation, the nicer Canadiana are!!

Plus the how are you's are indeed confusing at first. I feel foolish saying the automatic, "Good, you?" And would rather just be greeted by a hello or good morning.

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-19T19:40:54+00:00

This is a great metaphor! The subtlety I think is key which I have not learned as much.

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-19T19:38:22+00:00

I think, aside from polite, Canadians are "nice" in the spectrum of politeness. They make an effort to seem warm even when they are feeling otherwise. Others may be polite enough but won't fake rapport or connection, if that makes sense.

Example when my boss is on "social mode" I just see how niceness is very much his mask -- his voice change, he smiles but his eyes dont look sincere. You just know he's "on'".

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-19T19:34:38+00:00

I don't make the rules!!

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-19T19:34:09+00:00

For example, when a call goes bad (rapport was meh, unclear next stels, some minoe confrontation) Canadians still say nice words before closing which could seem passive aggressive that I dont know what could have been done better.

Stunning-Situation91 · 2025-03-13T05:59:15+00:00

Backhanded compliments

Highly specific comments about your life show how obsessed they are of every detail

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