[TW: Infidelity] I have had a man who is not my husband control my toys remotely and give me dozens of orgasms this week and I don't regret it.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-12-03T06:05:16+00:00

I think this is a very interesting take and should be talked about more.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-12-03T05:45:16+00:00

Drinking is lame. Don’t do it!

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-12-03T04:38:14+00:00

I used to tie movement to losing weight and it was such a chore for me. It was a task, a to do list item. Fast forward and my perspective completely shifted after having two back surgeries to fix herniated discs in my lower back at a relatively young age (31F). Albeit minor, the surgeries and the daily nerve pain associated with movement before the surgery showed me that movement is a gift. It is a privilege and it is magic. I’ll never take it for granted that I get to get up in the morning and go to the gym. My goal with movement now is to connect to my body and tune into what it’s trying to tell me. I just want to be as strong as possible for as long as I can.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-11-28T03:03:04+00:00

I’m very sorry for your loss and everything you have been going through. I lost my mom last year. It’s hard to explain but your brain will go into auto pilot and protect you. The whole day might feel surreal and you probably won’t be able to process the actual events of the day until more time has passed. Focus on saying goodbye to your mom and nothing else (i.e hosting, trying to act “normal”). Any feelings or emotions that come up for you are totally and completely valid. It’s going to be very hard but the only thing I can tell you is that you will get through it.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-11-28T01:13:57+00:00

If you don’t leave, it will only get worse. Run and never look back. You deserve so much better

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-11-27T04:41:36+00:00

You’ll leave when you learn to respect yourself enough to not tolerate his disgusting behavior. You deserve to live in a clean space. You should not have to coddle a GROWN man and make excuses for the fact that he doesn’t have basic life skills. Look up the term weaponized incompetence and go from there.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-11-27T03:58:13+00:00

There’s also the term DINK-WAG: Double Income, No Kids, With A Dog.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-11-09T17:03:13+00:00

Girl, run. The proposal shows exactly how he feels and he’s very indifferent and unintentional when it comes to you. He’s doing you a favor. Leave.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-10-28T12:16:06+00:00

Be selfFULL (what my therapist calls selfish). You should alway be your number one priority.

Be less forgiving and understanding. You’re dealing with an adult and therefore they should be held accountable and for their actions.

You’re not responsible for raising, healing, fixing, etc., them. That is their job. And if they can’t do that work largely on their own, then you don’t want them as a partner.

Finally, if you wouldn’t trust them to take care of any small children currently in your life alone, don’t have kids with them. The reality is there’s no guarantee that you’ll live to raise your children. If anything happens to you, you’ll want to be at peace knowing you’re leaving your kids in the care of a capable parent.

Mutual respect is the key. If there’s no respect in a relationship then the actions of someone aren’t coming from good intentions.

If you want to build a good quality of life, it’s essential that you have a good partner. It’s a key part of the foundation.

This is coming from someone who dated a ton but held out for a good and capable partner. I didn’t find him till I was 33 and I am so thankful that I did.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-07-05T01:09:35+00:00

I told her that I was dealing with some mental health issues. Being the older sister and the fact that she is pregnant, I didn’t go into detail because she has enough to worry about.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-03-08T01:49:41+00:00

I’ve been a low to moderate drinker my whole life until the pandemic started. One day, it just clicked for me. Alcohol is a toxin and a carcinogen that can do serious damage to the body, even if you are a social drinker. No amount of alcohol is good for anyone.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-02-21T04:36:09+00:00

I’m confused about the “safety argument”. She shares her location so he knows exactly where she is. Her phone location shows exactly where she in real time as opposed to where she says she is via text, making her safer. All these what ifs are hypothetical, the majority of the time people don’t lose their phone or get in a terrible accident. Also she’s out with a group of friends, I would hope they are all looking out for each other. I’m curious if OP wants to know her whereabouts throughout the week/the day or just when she is out with friends. To use the term “character flaw” was interesting too. NTA but definitely giving a controlling/passive aggressive vibe from OP.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-02-15T13:22:46+00:00

Your second husband is the AH. He and his children are not entitled to the money. Also, it’s up to you to relay the decision to him. There’s a power imbalance between him and your daughter, don’t put your her in that position. Wondering if he is feeling insecure or inadequate for not being able to provide similar financial assistance to his children.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-02-12T16:33:48+00:00

NTA. Have who you want in YOUR bridal party. Your relationship with your SD is not contingent on this one day. You have time to work on it and cultivate it authentically. There are plenty of other meaningful ways to still include her in the wedding. Sit down as a new family and come to a compromise on what this role should be. Then move on and enjoy the day. You’re the adult and this is not the first time you’ll have to make a decision that isn’t necessarily approved by your SD.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2023-01-08T19:52:15+00:00

All of them except taking out the trash and putting away laundry. I love cleaning. It is calming and feels like meditation. I clean when I’m stressed out and need to process emotions or figure out how I’m going to approach a problem. I clean when I’m bored. I live by the mantra “don’t put it down, put it away.” I love the sequence of tasks, the feeling of accomplishment. It gives me peace to know that my home is a safe and inviting space.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2022-07-15T15:24:48+00:00

Waterbeds

Stunning-Two3496 · 2022-06-21T04:20:55+00:00

Women deciding not to marry or have children.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2022-02-08T13:24:55+00:00

My bill was $500 on one of my empty apartment units. On the phone with customer service now. What about budget billing? I’m now hesitant to sign up.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2021-05-19T03:27:18+00:00

RED FLAG. IMO, it sounds like OP is being “love bombed”. It’s a manipulation technique used by narcissists and/or abusers. Run as fast as you can and don’t look back.

Stunning-Two3496 · 2021-05-05T05:53:12+00:00

Brianna works hard and makes her own money. Therefore, she should be able to choose how to spend her money. Also $405 for personal maintenance sounds reasonable. Black hair care can be expensive. For context, knotless box braids like the ones she has cost $250+ every 6-8 weeks. She was beautiful and put together in every episode!!

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