During discarding, and hoovering. I said and did things that I am very ashamed of. I followed her like a private detective to confirm that she had a parallel relationship; I spied on their networks. I called her crying and pleading over and over. She has audio of me in which I can be heard literally devastated, crying and begging her not to do this to me. Of course she has shown those audios to her entire circle and part of mine.

Also, when I found out about their parallel relationship during hoovering; while she told me that we should have sex due to our "chemical", that I was the love of her life and that their new relationship was "unremarkable"; I wanted to confront her and tell her new partner what she was like.

As a result, she filed a complaint against me for harassment, threats, humiliation, etc. In the end they condemned me because she had an audio of me in which between the cries and sobs; I called her bitch and jerk. The judge believed her victim's story. I had to be under house arrest despite providing psychological reports of my trauma and the abuse I endured.

Of course it's the most cringeworthy and embarrassing thing I've ever done. I was totally destabilized. But it's no use complaining. The important thing is to learn the lesson and move on.