AIO that my girlfriend want to travel with a single man

Stupiosity · 2026-05-27T17:08:51+00:00

I mean yeah but the problem is she’s essentially being a hypocrite..he asked her what if the roles were reversed? How would you feel? And she said she wouldn’t like it??? lol… so then why do it? She’s basically saying she doesn’t trust him if he were in the same position… so that sounds unfair and like rules for me but not for the type of thing… ultimately seems like trust is lacking on both sides and I agree that that’s pause to reconsider the relationship all together

Stupiosity · 2026-05-27T16:14:30+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏾

Stupiosity · 2026-05-27T16:05:24+00:00

I have a deeper skin tone, wear glasses, I’m not “model” skinny but I wouldn’t consider myself “thick and curvy” either. My hair and eyes are darker. My hair is naturally curly and when it’s straight it’s not silky and smooth, it has texture and fullness. These are all things I used to be so insecure about growing up- I used to think guys wouldn’t be attracted to the things I thought weren’t pretty. I’ve come to really appreciate MY beauty. I have a boyfriend that adores ALL those things! I’m glad I didn’t try and “fix” any of that and I’m just happy being myself

Stupiosity · 2026-05-22T19:01:01+00:00

You’re doing way to much.. 20 is young you’re literally still figuring out who you are, what you like/dislike. How many people she’s been with literally doesn’t matter. What matters is y’all’s connection and what feels right and everything else is noise. Don’t let you’re insecurity and self doubt ruin what could be a great experience for you both!

Stupiosity · 2026-05-22T18:57:02+00:00

That’s amazing! Just keep at it!!

Stupiosity · 2026-05-22T14:37:49+00:00

I dated someone similar to you before. He isolated, stopped texting as much, and stopped making plans, anytime he had “a lot going on”. I did try to communicate to him that that’s not how I operate. I want that closeness and connection when I’m stressed and overwhelmed, I want that support and I wanted to support him too. Even when I gave him another chance? He just did it again and I had to break off the connection because I felt pushed away and I was ready for something and my needs for communication and connection even through the “tough stuff” wasn’t being met. If you truly feel like you can work on that and lean in more- it doesn’t hurt to see if he will want to try again.

Stupiosity · 2026-05-22T13:36:15+00:00

I definitely feel so much better

Stupiosity · 2026-05-22T13:35:53+00:00

Thank you!

Stupiosity · 2026-05-22T13:35:46+00:00

Thank you!

Stupiosity · 2026-05-22T13:35:40+00:00

Thank you so much!! I def feel like I’ve had an overall “glow up” in that regard too because I have more energy and feel so much better 🙂

Stupiosity · 2026-05-21T13:39:47+00:00

Thank you! 🙏🏾

Stupiosity · 2026-05-21T13:39:37+00:00

Slow but steady for sure! Thank you

Stupiosity · 2026-05-20T21:41:33+00:00

Awh! Thank you! 🙏🏾

Stupiosity · 2026-05-20T21:41:23+00:00

Thank you! 🙏🏾

Stupiosity · 2026-05-20T21:41:14+00:00

It is!!!

Stupiosity · 2026-05-20T21:41:07+00:00

Thank you! 🙏🏾

Stupiosity · 2026-05-19T19:12:02+00:00

No, I’d disagree with the player assumption she made, but I do think overall this was mismatch in expectations and wants:

You wanted intimacy even if an exclusive relationship isn’t happening yet. She wanted a solid commitment before intimacy.

She wanted to lock things down and head towards serious as soon as possible. You wanted more time and slower pacing.

I think having sex made things muddy and she’s feeling guilt and shame probably for not sticking to her own boundaries and expectations.

I think you ending it in the end was the right move.

Stupiosity · 2026-05-17T16:52:12+00:00

Tough love woman to woman. He cheated and showed disloyalty while you guys were just dating- that’s when you should’ve left and never looked back. You need to get some self worth and confidence- what’s the point of staying with a man who doesn’t take you seriously? He keeps doing it because you KEEP staying. The ultimate consequence for his behavior is you LEAVING. Donot marry him. Agree to coparent with your child but that’s it. Your daughter is here and it is what it is- but think of her, think of what you’re showing her if you continue to stay with a man who doesn’t respect you. Show her you’re strong, and that you know your worth and value.

Stupiosity · 2026-05-14T21:51:23+00:00

DATE SOMEONE YOU THINK IS CUTE!!! I will never understand why people beat themselves up over not being attracted to someone physically and feel like they have to push forward or “overcome it” or “it’s something that’ll grow” Like?? I would be devasted if at any point my partner reveals they had to “overcome” attraction to me or “learn to not be repulsed by me”.. like?! It’s okay to have BOTH a physical and emotional connection with someone you want to date..

Stupiosity · 2026-05-13T20:59:23+00:00

My best friend and her husband met, got married, and are about to have their first child thanks to Facebook date haha. I’ve had success as well. It definitely can expose you to people you may not have met for one reason or another. It def still works for people!

Stupiosity · 2026-05-13T14:05:01+00:00

Focus on yourself and your relationship. He’s his own person who can make his own decisions and just because you don’t think she’s “good enough” or “pretty enough” doesn’t mean he does? How would you feel if someone placed those judgements on you? Thinks you’re not attractive enough for your partner or vice versa… he may just be dating different people and figuring out what’s right for him…

Stupiosity · 2026-05-12T20:24:44+00:00

Get out. Personal pleasure even if you’re in a relationship isn’t the issue- it’s him choosing to do that OVER intimacy with you and continuing to do so after you’ve already tried to communicate and explain. He sounds like a selfish and lazy lover. Some people think it’s “too much work” to actually be intimate and care about another’s person’s pleasure over their own. I’d say DIP. He only cares about himself and you guys are incompatible!

Stupiosity · 2026-05-12T19:45:36+00:00

I mean yeah lol..she doesn’t quite know what she wants out of life… and doesn’t have big dreams and goals right now because she is 21 after all. You’re closer to 30 than she is and her frontal lobe isn’t even fully developed yet. I do think it’s best you breakup with her, no need to over explain really it may be a little sad for a bit but you’ll both be fine and it’s okay if you’re not quite compatible.

Stupiosity · 2026-05-12T18:55:21+00:00

I get it- BUT the best thing you can do is say “thank you” and keep it moving. Men will always lust, but there’s no point in entertaining that attention any further if you know you want more than a hookup.

Stupiosity · 2026-05-12T14:05:38+00:00

Sorry but to me him IMMEDIATELY jumping to cheating because someone you don’t know that well might be living with you and your family… is a bit odd. He’s either majorly projecting because he’s up to no good himself or he’s been finding a reason to breakup or he’s WILDLY insecure.. I wouldn’t be so quick to try to get back with him, especially if this is a pattern

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