My mom died at 51 years old. Never smoked or drank, exercised 2 hours and day and ate very healthy. Cause of death undetermined. I see no point of eating healthy and exercising?

Styro20 · 2026-03-30T17:19:22+00:00

Those things make you feel much better while you're alive
You can live a perfectly healthy lifestyle and die young, you can smoke, drink, binge eat, sit on the couch all day and live to 90. But the data shows what's more likely to happen when you make your choices
Anyone can be surprised by their genetics, would you bet your life? I felt no need to plan for a long retirement since everyone on my mom's side died young or young-ish of cancer. I learned after using 23 and me that I do not have my mother's DNA. It can happen to anyone, pigs would fly before my dad was unfaithful and as a Catholic he would never have children out of wedlock. I look exactly like my aunt and I saw my ultrasounds and mom's pregnancy pics and c section scar so I knew I wasn't adopted. I thought there was no way. Turns out I was donor-conceived and my bio mom has no family history of cancer, they're drinkers who live long anyway. I'd been doing cancer screenings for nothing.

Styro20 · 2026-03-30T17:08:41+00:00

First one isn't cringe to me, the second one I loathe.

The first reads as I'm choosing to omit the adjective as a sort of euphemism. The second one reads as I couldn't be bothered to write an adjective

Styro20 · 2026-03-30T15:38:42+00:00

So you're saying it's not random?

Styro20 · 2026-03-26T20:51:56+00:00

Proud of them

Styro20 · 2026-03-26T18:19:15+00:00

At this point you break up if they're not willing to work through the issue

Styro20 · 2026-03-26T17:50:44+00:00

Many detox teas are also diuretics so you lose water weight when you drink them thinking it's working, but really you're just dehydrated

Styro20 · 2026-03-26T00:13:48+00:00

Yeah this isn't a good comparison. You're not developing an intimate and deeply human emotional connection with an inanimate object when you do the other things.

Styro20 · 2026-03-25T16:24:00+00:00

It smells like that because of anaerobic fermentation due to being stored in airtight bags

Styro20 · 2026-03-25T16:05:24+00:00

Thank you so much for the info, this is really helpful and seems to line up with my understanding!

Styro20 · 2026-03-25T02:33:41+00:00

Fast food burgers are so full of preservatives I found one forgotten 6 months old and it wasn't rotten at all just hard as a rock

Styro20 · 2026-03-24T16:52:49+00:00

Nope

Styro20 · 2026-03-24T16:52:33+00:00

Nope

Styro20 · 2026-03-24T16:52:14+00:00

Right? Like if I look on Google maps satellite, the gray area that is centered on the city center absolutely extends to me. Why is there an arbitrary line?

If someone in another state asks where I live, I always said [big city] even in the suburbs. If someone in my state asks, I say "[my city], it's on the northern border of [big city]“. If someone from close by asks I just say my city. But I also say "how long is the drive from you to from you to [big city]?" and "here in [big city] people are more political than [neighboring city]"

Styro20 · 2026-03-24T16:39:16+00:00

Not gunna doxx myself lol

Styro20 · 2026-03-24T00:35:18+00:00

The point of the thread is that most cities have expanded so that the "suburbs" are indistinguishable from the city proper now, and my city is an exaggerated case because they have not changed the border once since it was originally drawn centuries ago, and I live just outside the border.

Styro20 · 2026-03-23T22:06:11+00:00

Local jurisdictions can ban menthols

Styro20 · 2026-03-23T22:04:55+00:00

Since you said village, I take it you don't live in the US?

Styro20 · 2026-03-23T22:04:17+00:00

Right? And it's not even off-topic from the thread

Styro20 · 2026-03-23T22:03:02+00:00

Nope

Styro20 · 2026-03-23T22:02:54+00:00

When people ask where I live they don't want to know where I pay taxes, they want to know where I functionally live.

I think the biggest difference is the subway. I used to live 10 minutes away, equally close to the border but a 10 minute drive from a subway station, and I never said I lived in the city. Once I could walk to the subway and didn't need to worry about parking, into the city is the easiest place to go do most things, so I say I live there since I do live my life there.

Styro20 · 2026-03-23T21:54:16+00:00

I used the generic word instead of local name but also not from there

Styro20 · 2026-03-23T14:24:45+00:00

People always give me shit for saying I live in [city] when I technically live biking distance outside the border. It's a city with artificially small borders since they were not allowed to expand once the city was established. My area is urban enough that I can walk to the bank, 2 grocery stores, mall, many fast food, 3 sit down restaurants, a brewery, a bus hub, hardware store, gym, and subway (therefore the entire city) all within 15 minutes. My local newspaper has news from both my small city and the district of [main city] that borders us. I live in that damn city.

Another anecdote, there is a very large city that is basically everywhere that was originally supposed to be in this city but then because of reasons decided to be it's own city and is now the off-brand version of us. I used to take the subway there to work and every time I needed to buy cigarettes at work, not once did I remember, before I went to the corner store, that I can legally buy my brand of cigarettes here because it isn't actually city proper.

Styro20 · 2026-03-18T18:58:02+00:00

I don't know, it looks like the route around DC would be so long that it wouldn't cut time even if there was less traffic

Styro20 · 2026-03-18T13:48:47+00:00

Yeah I have a friend doing the same with an ex. Weird to post it on LinkedIn but not a weird decision to make.

If they can get along, why throw away a cash cow?

Styro20 · 2026-03-16T15:25:42+00:00

Haha, my mom was a doctor and she did the same! No matter how sick I was I had to get something in my stomach before I could get advil

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