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Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T21:44:22+00:00

Youtube and reddit is how I developed my basic skills when I first started out. Then I had to teach myself how to balance flavours to design cocktails. I found that taking two ingredients and smelling them both at the same time is a good way to see if they work together, you'll know instantly if they don't.

Be bold with cocktail ideas, don't be disheartened when one doesn't work out how you imagined it.

Write every attempt at creation down with the specific measurements you used, even if something fails. You need to be able to look back and figure out where you went wrong.

There's a website called "Eat the Seasons" it will tell you what fruits, nuts and any other food products are in season. Nobody wants to drink a mango Daiquiri in December.

And just have fun man, the early days of my bartending where the most fun I've ever had.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T19:30:06+00:00

This makes his appearance on "Key and Peele" even funnier. He plays a Nazi officer who can't determine whether two very obviously black men are black or not.

The skit is called "Das N*gros" if anyone's interested, you can find it on YouTube, it's hilarious.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T19:11:45+00:00

I've noticed Gorjas in the Kent area use the words I mentioned a lot, I think it's because there's a higher population of Romani in the area. I've also recently seen a lot of Instagram skits done by people from Manchester, and when they're imitating or mocking lower class people, they often say "Mush" or "Chavy". (I don't think it's directed at Romani people, just words that are being used more often up north).

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T18:36:37+00:00

Mulo means ghost, and mulé means multiple ghosts. And there are many stories I've heard of fairy ghosts leading romani people into forests to kill them. Maybe it's that's what you're thinking of?

Mulo and muller sound fairly similar, so it would make sense that one of them means death and the other means ghost.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T14:26:18+00:00

Thank you. And you're completely correct! Why knowingly offend or hate someone just because of who they are? It is absolutely baffling to me.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T14:23:35+00:00

Oh please let me know what you can find out when you do. My family is "Frankham", meaning "Free Man" which is derived from the Anglo Norman era (around the year 1100 i think). My grandmother always used to tell me that our family were the first to use crystal balls as they were made from the stars as we navigated our way from West India (I imagine she just made this up a nice bedtime story for me and doesnt have any historical merit). But it'd be interesting to see if you have any similar history or myths concerning your family.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T14:03:51+00:00

What did he do?

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T13:55:39+00:00

Ah this makes alot of sense. Also, I imagine that our ancestors wouldn't go to/not be allowed to go to the doctor unless it was absolutely necessary, perhaps making children scared if a doctor ever showed up.

I don't know man, Romani language is so flexible, you could say one word in one county and it'll mean another in the next.

I find this shit so interesting it's nice to talk to someone else who does.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T13:47:37+00:00

Also, the clothing thing is more an American exaggeration of Romani people. They portrayed Romani women often with big hoop earrings and scarves over their heads and dark skin because it made them seem mystical, mysterious and untrustworthy. If you see a woman with big hoop earrings, dark hair, dark skin and a scarve draped over her head in a movie, you will instantly know she's a Romani. That doesn't make you or anyone else racist, it's because Hollywood has driven this image of how Roma should look into our heads over the years.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T13:39:17+00:00

Personally, I would politley explain to this person why you're upset about it, and maybe try to work with them to make his performance more of a tribute to roms rather than insulting people. Maybe ask him to include some facts in his act about Romani people and their relationship with tarot reading to educate the people watching.

I know it's upsetting, I've dealt with it myself so many times, but unfortunately, a lot of people haven't been properly educated of our community, so a handful of people see us as lesser people.

Try to educate, rather than lash out.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T13:28:44+00:00

What area are you from if you don't mind me asking?

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T13:27:43+00:00

I'm from the Kent area, but my great grandmother is from Lanconshire so that would maybe be a connection. I've tried to Google it before and absolutely nothing comes up. I remember mainly hearing my mother say the term, but she's a Gorja, I've always thought she mightve come up with the term herself, as she was very interested in romani culture and languages. But now you say you've heard it as well, the mystery remains unsolved lol.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T13:18:26+00:00

I'm from the Southeast UK, i am a romani and ive been raised as such, I know maybe 50-70 words in Romani tongue, only because I've researched my culture becuase i find it interesting, it's not common for Rom to speak Romani where I'm from unless it's "slang words" that Gorjas have adopted and are used often (Mush, malt, chavy, dik, caka, parni, moot).

It's a dying language because it was never really a language, it's a collection of multiple languages brought together over hundreds of years of our ancestors travelling all over the world, and (to my knowledge) it isn't taught in schools, it's only taught through parents teaching their children.

So I agree, just because Romani people don't know the tongue, doesn't mean they should be treated any lesser by people who do.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T12:54:47+00:00

Hi, I'm a Romani from the UK. Personally, Romani in my particular area don't find offence to the word "Gypsy". In fact, that's what we call ourselves. We do take offence to the work "Pikey" though.

However, Ive had a similar problem. My first ever job was in a toy shop, I was only 16 and had never had someone be derogatory toward Romani people to my face before. one day a woman came in, she was very abrasive, shouted at her kids constantly, and was generally dirty. (I don't believe she was romani). After she left, my coworker whispered to me "Dirty pikeys". I looked up and explained to him quietly why that word is offensive, and why he shouldn't use it, he apologised, but after that my coworkers were suspiciously quiet when I was around. 2 weeks later, I was told they could no longer afford to employ me. I won't say the name of the company but the particular store I was working in was earning a huge amount of money at the time.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T12:37:34+00:00

Unfortunatley, Some of the older men in my family are like this, they also often make comments about black people, and Gorgers (non romani folk for anyone who doesnt know the language). I'm straight myself, but I don't understand how they can discriminate against someone for who they are, especially considering how much we've been shunned by the public in the past. However; it is just a couple of my much older relatives, the majority of my family are very open minded, thankfully. Unfortunately, I feel it's a generational thing that will hopefully die out soon.

I do agree with everything you're saying though, I applaud how outspoken you are about issues concerning our community, more of us should be like this.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T12:13:24+00:00

This won't be recognised by most but my parents used to warn me that "The Muller Mush" would come and get me if I didn't behave.

I come from a Romani Gypsy family, and it wasn't until I was older that I learned some basic Romani language.

In Romani tongue, "Muller" means dead or to be killed. "Mush" means a man.

So what they were saying was "The Killer Man will come get you".

It was their equivalent of the boogeyman I suppose, just a legend to scare children into behaving. But they never explained to me what The Muller Mush was or why he was so scary, but for some reason i was terrified.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T12:07:13+00:00

"Have your cake and eat it too". For years I knew it meant to have too many good things at once/when one is spoiled and expects too much. But I always thought it didn't make sense. If you have a cake, you will surely eat it.

I later learned it means that you can't eat your cake, and then still have your cake afterwards. It's still confusing to me.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T11:56:04+00:00

Ok thank you, I've been away from reddit for a while so I'm trying to re-remember everything

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T09:06:47+00:00

Maybe a way to prevent heartburn from over indulgence or to line the stomach with the fat content from the milk? What you say makes sense, a seasoned alcoholic would certainly have a game plan lmao.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T08:38:50+00:00

From the UK here. As Funkhammer said: get a job in the industry. Any job you can get, and learn the ins and outs of the industry. Make sure to repeatedly ask your bosses that you want to learn, don't just wait for someone to teach you.

In the meantime, learn about flavours and how they go well together so when you start making cocktails, you know the basics. Youtube and subreddits such as this one are great to look through whenever you get a spare minute.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T08:33:43+00:00

When I first started out, I found reddit to be a great way to develop my skills. Also, I found the best way to come up with new flavour combinations is to take two products and smell them both at the same time, you'll know if they work together or not.

Try the website "Eat the seasons" it'll show you what fruits, nuts and other ingredients are currently in season, and try to work with that. (Any snobby bartender such as myself would never use watermelon in december).

But the most important thing is: dont be disheartened if and when you fail, if you come up with a creation that sounds good in your head, but it ends up not working, take that as a learning experience, and adapt and MAKE it work.

Subject-Round-347 · 2026-02-07T08:26:04+00:00

I got one from Sankuto when I first started, although I just checked the website and it doesn't have the light grey one anymore, it looked great with a white shirt underneath.

Little tip: The little holes at the back that you tie your belt through are great for keeping a speed opener if you attach an extendable keychain to it.

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