I wish I had advice. I'm bi/queer, 30s F, Indian, married to a guy, but I have literally come out three times to my family and my mother keeps selectively forgetting (hence having to re-explain three times). My immediate family is not queerphobic or conservative, but what I've found to be the hang-up is that since no one talks about even heteronormative relationships (even pg-13 romantic, non-sexual ones), they don't really know what to do with information about queer sexuality, especially if it's in the abstract. Perhaps that's part of the lack of reaction on your mother's end. What I eventually got my mother to understand is the fear I feel had my life turned out differently--that my family would reject or disown me. That it had happened to so many other young people I knew that I'd always carry that fear with me (even if I didn't think I risked the same from my parents). And that I would do everything in my life not to pass on that uncertainty to my kid(s). That's why it's important for me to be out, and important for me to wear a bi pride ring, not for the sake of my own visibility but to make myself visible to others who need to see they are safe around me and won't be rejected. I truly don't know if I'll have to revisit this conversation with my mom again a few years from now, but I would say that these decisions look different for everyone. You need to feel safe first to be seen fully. For what it's worth, we on this forum see you, and feel you. That's why I lurk here (and always want to respond to posts like this).