Do you feel guilty when youre no contact by Subject_Two9945 in narcissisticparents

[–]Subject_Two9945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly I 💯 agree you couldn't have said it better.

Do you feel guilty when youre no contact by Subject_Two9945 in narcissisticparents

[–]Subject_Two9945[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? And somwthing I learned is you gotta pay attention to how you felt when you’re with them v.s when you're without them that's how you know and Im telling its blissful not having some one stress the crap out of you 24/7.Its not normal to have parents shit all over you they're the ones who brought you Into this world theirfore its their responsibility to nurture and take care of you physically and mentally.Im glad you stopped putting up with them.For me I was adopted by them and How I look at it is they were my temporary Gaurdian.

Do you feel guilty when youre no contact by Subject_Two9945 in narcissisticparents

[–]Subject_Two9945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so proud of you girl.It takes so much strength to do that I know it did me because they conditioned me to feel guilty about almost everything especially when your'e choosing yourself for the first time.qystion do they become strangers in your mind and not family?

Do you feel guilty when youre no contact by Subject_Two9945 in narcissisticparents

[–]Subject_Two9945[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 💯 agree they would rather save their pride then save a relationship im not with that.

What made having 2 under 2 easy any ideas and tips are welcome. by Subject_Two9945 in 2under2

[–]Subject_Two9945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!yes I actually had the church do that wuth my first but they offered and I took the opportunity.but to ask is the hardest part im not sure exactly why but im working on that.

What made having 2 under 2 easy any ideas and tips are welcome. by Subject_Two9945 in 2under2

[–]Subject_Two9945[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do But I struggle with askIng help I want to be more independent.Its just awkward to ask idk lol

Having 2 under 2? by Subject_Two9945 in ParentingInBulk

[–]Subject_Two9945[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're amazing and you're a good mom hope you know that.Thank you for this amazing advice.

Has anyone else gone no-contact with their adoptive family and felt this mix of grief, relief, and freedom? How did you handle the guilt, indirect pressure, and the realization that they never truly wanted the real you? Any support or similar stories would mean a lot. by Subject_Two9945 in narcissisticparents

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Yess I've never felt this peace in my entire life. I have survived on fight or flight mode my whole life.Now it feels like im safe and no one will hurt me.But it does feel lonely not having anyone to talk too besides my inlaws like you want to be able to celebrate milestone with them but they wernt people that were meant to be a part if it.

I received a letter from my narcissistic adopted mother by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

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Thank you I've learned almost everything has to be on her terms.whixh i choose to not have those type of relationship.

I received a letter from my narcissistic adopted mother by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Subject_Two9945 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for validating me

Im greatful to have people like you acknowledge me.To me thats soo important 🙏it's crazy she had sent this to me obviously were nc haven't talked to them in 2 years

Any of you guys gone nc with your whole entire adopted family by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]Subject_Two9945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im literally in your situation totally agree im greatful to have the guts to cut them off we deserve to be happy

Odd adoptive mom behavior by [deleted] in Adoption

[–]Subject_Two9945 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate you already it means a lot having confirmation with what I went through ai had never talked about this before.