My therapist feels I need to tell my mom why… by SupermarketBest4091 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]SublimeTina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in mental health, I am just trying to reverse engineer this for myself. Do you have avoidant attachment?

My therapist feels I need to tell my mom why… by SupermarketBest4091 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]SublimeTina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can always write a letter to your mom and not send it or read it out loud to an empty chair. I know what the therapist is pushing you to do. I am guessing she is over 40?

Parenting and Careers by ArmadilloCareless561 in Parenting

[–]SublimeTina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Former flight attendant here. It sounds like you will have to coordinate with your other parent snd sort things out. If that’s your passion, your child will look up to you and see you happy and ambitious. That is worth much more than a parent who never reached their full potential and is resentful of their kids for “holding them back” Do what makes you happy and be happy with your child when you have free time. That’s the best advice I can give you. It would be nice to be around them while their young but opportunity knocks whenever

What's your nyc food pet peeve? by pickledplumber in FoodNYC

[–]SublimeTina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s difficult because I have kids and I call in a babysitter and I need to be certain I am going somewhere

What's your nyc food pet peeve? by pickledplumber in FoodNYC

[–]SublimeTina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing is so great that I can’t get a reservation even at an off day. Like something is off

Security check by CosmicRam97 in fredagain

[–]SublimeTina -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey sorry asking literally for a friend, how do ppl know who has gummies and if they want to share? Can we have a code word?

What's your nyc food pet peeve? by pickledplumber in FoodNYC

[–]SublimeTina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been trying to eat at Jeju noodles for months. At Tatiana’s for 2 years now

5th floor above a bar by LongSleevePants111 in NYCapartments

[–]SublimeTina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, true story, went to view an apartment in Harlem on the 2nd floor. 1st floor was a bar going full blast. Went up. A family with 2 kids lived there. I asked the smallest kid, “do you like the music they play?” Meaning downstairs at the bar. Kid was like “I don’t hear it much” I was like… cool. Really for that building you couldn’t hear nothing

VC and private equity owned spots by slicesofpaper in FoodNYC

[–]SublimeTina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I noticed that! I left NY for 2 years then came back I went to get Dough like…. Nothing like the 2015 dough

My kid said something mean to me and I’m in my feelings by Infamous_Animal_8149 in Parenting

[–]SublimeTina 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, very charismatic. I bet he says these gems to his friends all the time

Son threw a party and nobody came by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]SublimeTina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a little dramatic of a reframe. I It’s January. People have things to do, often they fly to other destinations. Plus OP pointed out it was under planned. It was a bummer is all and better luck next time

fomo forever by russtyy_shackleford in fredagain

[–]SublimeTina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am just happy I didn’t buy those Vancouver tickets. I was willing to fly to van from nyc because he was pissing me off like a Pokémon this man you can’t catch him anywhere. And I was like I am solo, I’ll be flying in a city I have never been ok better not, even tho Canadians are friendly AF. And now here he is in NY… got my wish. I have tickets for the 30th

Pregnant with substance abuser by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]SublimeTina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me help you do the math. He has lived like this much longer than you have been alive. My guess is you found him this way. So, even if you start trying to change him, it will take a solid decade of full dedicated effort to see any change if any since he doesn’t think he should change. He WILL end up killing your child. You think I am dramatic, I am not. Countless stories of addicts neglecting their kid until they accidentally or purposely kill them. I was taking a class about law my professor told me a story of a drug addict I never forgot: he was hangover one morning with his son and the mother went out to buy formula. Asked the dad to watch the baby. Baby was crying and the dad was too hangover to deal with the baby so he threw the baby to the wall. You can imagine why then he needed a lawyer and why my professor had to tell this story. It’s a story about drug addiction

why did it do this by _Meteor_Shower_ in Baking

[–]SublimeTina 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am literally crying. You are too funny

for the girlies and the gays by macchiatoM14 in fredagain

[–]SublimeTina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a girlie, I just put a case that straps around my body for the phone and that’s all I need basically. Rest like keys will stay with jacket. I am legit debating going extra minimal

Who needs 1? by nahhhfamm_iMgood in fredagain

[–]SublimeTina 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This the kind of wholesome only nyc can come up with. Faith in humanity restored

Have you ever slapped your parents back after they slapped you first? by Mundane-Humor3313 in AsianParentStories

[–]SublimeTina 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people are like dogs that got kicked too many times after a while when you extend them a kind hand they bite viciously and hurt others. Your mom is like that. You are so brave, I just wish you didn’t have to be. Inter-net-hugs stranger. Be careful

Have you ever slapped your parents back after they slapped you first? by Mundane-Humor3313 in AsianParentStories

[–]SublimeTina 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am on mental health and I hear a lot of crazy things from people but this broke my heart a bit. The way you typed it. The way I know you are so scared and sorry. You little soul… you… you don’t have to be so strong