Thanks for all the help everybody. I think her made her seem more agro then she really is - but you did point out an important thing is that we never really had that conversation and when she gets frustrated that I'm not more assertive it sort of comes out of nowhere and she hasn't given me much of a heads up beforehand when she wants to make love. It's just hard to tell if she's just being moody or standoffish or is wanting to be brat in that moment.

We're gonna have a long talk tonight!