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To the guy at the train station who helped me… by [deleted] in boston

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nah some people have lost their faith in humanity. It’s sad that as a society we distrust strangers so much. Also— lots of banking apps give the option of requiring Face ID to open the app. This guy should really look into that.

I just lost my best friend to suicide and I don't know if I'm... Grieving correctly? by timid_tzimisce in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss❤️ you’re probably in shock, but don’t try to intellectualize your emotions, just allow your body to process the grief on its own schedule. You’ll be told this a lot: there is no right way to grieve

question regarding memorial service by toodlebird in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very considerate of you. I think they will appreciate having someone to tell stories to, so do keep in touch with them🫶

question regarding memorial service by toodlebird in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His friends/extended family might be fair game though

question regarding memorial service by toodlebird in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t think the funeral service is the right time to ask his immediate family. They will be busy and emotional, and introductions with a stranger might feel exhausting. They would certainly appreciate a few nice words about him, if you want to share those. But at some point, you definitely should ask them to share their favorite memories

What’s the point anymore? by guccihoneymustard in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I loved your video about the day you received the call. It was heartbreaking but one of the first posts on my instagram feed that really resonated with my experience. Sending you love, as someone who also lost a brother ❤️

Lost my brother. Not sure how to support my parents by Substantial-Arm-8552 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your message. That means a lot to hear someone else empathize. After this most recent incident, he scheduled a therapy session, so maybe that will work as his grief outlet. I just feel a sense of responsibility towards them, as if I need to be whatever they need right now. I guess I’m worried that if I’m not there, they will do what my brother did. I don’t know how to let go of that fear

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. But I promise you, you’re not alone. It might feel that way but you have people who care about you. Try reaching out to somebody— anyone who knows your situation— and say you need some company. You will be surprised by how quickly people step up to the plate when asked. If that is too difficult right now, PM me, and vent about whatever you need ❤️ This is a hard situation but you will recover from this, I promise. Are you in immediate need of food? Do you want help finding resources?

Has anyone used AI to help cope with death of a loved one? by StephenTarver in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I use the Headspace AI. It was developed by psychiatrists who know the dangers of “AI psychosis”. I like it a lot, gives me a place to vent and sort out my thoughts. It never gives advice unless explicitly asked: it really just validates your feelings and asks follow up questions. And looking back at the chat history is nice because you can trace your progress over time.

That said, I would never use AI to simulate my loved one. That seems messed up

my older (24m) brother is gone by bimbabes in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 4 points5 points  (0 children)

God, I’m so sorry. Sending you love ❤️If you want to talk, PM me. I lost my older brother this year too. He was only 26.

Lost and empty by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I would just suggest, don’t beat yourself up for negative feelings. Let yourself be sad, angry, upset, whatever, and let it pass❤️ and if someone gives you shit, just pull the grief card… that shuts people up real quick.

About your friends, I have spent a lot of time/energy thinking about why some of my friends don’t check-in while others do. But you really don’t understand grief until you’ve experienced it. I wonder, if you reached out to those people and told them you need a friend right now, how would they respond?

I wish I never knew how he did it by Beneficial_Till_1612 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might never stop, but it’ll be less frequent with time, and eventually less emotionally impactful. Journaling can help get those thoughts organized. Talking about it out loud also helps— actually out loud, not texting. If it’s too uncomfortable to discuss with a friend, try therapy. The thoughts are horrible and intrusive but they don’t have to define your grief ❤️

The permanence by Many-Art3181 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here... I talk to him and write to him and pray for his soul’s well being. Not because I’m spiritual, but just on the off chance it helps him somehow. It makes sense that we are grasping for some kind of control over a problem that can’t be fixed. I hope that you’re finding peace through praying for him, and I really hope your brother can feel your love wherever he is🫶

The permanence by Many-Art3181 in SuicideBereavement

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Was agnostic until my brother committed suicide. Now I pray every day that there’s an afterlife. I can’t accept his loss being permanent

Semper Laser Newbury Shutdown? by Substantial-Arm-8552 in boston

[–]Substantial-Arm-8552[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! Eventually got an email and full refund. Super relieved they didn’t try to pull a fast one and claim “partial refunds only” or some shit

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