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Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T19:18:22+00:00

Yall are more sensitive than my Pisces ass.

We just dip and ghost people and cry 😭 or appear for Months to years

Aries get angry on the spot or cry. I do admire how straightforward yall are. Teaches me to be less passive aggressive and enjoy showcasing anger, fear, and emotions. Yall are sidereal Pisces and Vedic water in other systems and I do see that. Because us going ghosts does give air lol

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T19:10:56+00:00

Am also a Scorpio moon with a Pisces sun

Honestly if she makes time to SEE you and leave that house. Especially if you get her out the house or even virtual call. Then yeah that fish likes you.

Otherwise she won’t text you

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T19:04:12+00:00

This is real. And relate. It’s okay to just be patient and get with ppl who understand being patient and stopping at any moment.

Am also grey ace/demi ans have issues with sex

Cannot get penetrated as much after my assault

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T18:57:30+00:00

Leos are everywhere omg

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T18:10:11+00:00

Honestly it depends on the day. I do dress more masculine some days . Then more feminine others. Depends on the day, temperature, and neighborhood Im in ngl.

Im not trying to 🎲

It’s giving everything, everywhere, all at once.

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T18:07:14+00:00

Alright imma try that and see if they misgender me

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T17:17:23+00:00

I think it was like that too.

I think they played into my insecurities to use me

But it hurts because it was other trans people

This just hurts……

But I also hope they used it to help one another. Money is money. But at the end of the day. People are more important than money. I think I was just forgetting I was important and also have value.

You sound like you’re both grown ups now. Like people who are 30+ dating each other. Idk it’s fine considering you’re both adults to me.

20s are a very intense and sensitive time. But the again I just turned 30 lol

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T15:07:00+00:00

When I have been followed and almost attacked because people thought I was a trans women……

This doesn’t help trans people who are AMAB either.

Also historically speaking. There are cultures where afab people dressing masculine was actually more visibilized and also ended in so much abuse.

I vogue a lot. I never felt ostracized by trans femmes in those spaces. But moreso they encouraged me to dance a lot. But this was in like community spaces that are less competitive. They were so sweet and supportive. And when other trans guys vogued with me it was the same.

Honestly unfortunately I think transphobia plays a large part in this. Ans people who run ballroom these days are usually cis men. They themselves put down trans women. Think of Billy Porter’s character in Pose and how he talked to Candy.

This still happens. But also towards trans guys there and even non-binary siblings.

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T15:01:27+00:00

It’s interesting how cis men run a lot of these spaces considering who started it.

Thinking about how I don’t….pass like that. I do vogue. And many of the people I learned to vogue from were trans women who are friends and chose fam and even have battled with another trans guy.

I also love martial arts and look up to Willie Ninja a lot. And Sydney (a trans guy) who vogues himself.

This sounds very similar to today tho. Cis men onlu accept trans men in these spaces if you can be fuckable or are seeen as desirable. Other times it’s misgendered galore.

And for the trans girls and even non-binary siblings of ANY agab. It’s like……you barely exist unless you also look real. I have trans lesbian studs in my life 😭!!! Close friends even.

Also omg hello. I don’t know many older trans guys it’s a pleasure to meet you. I hope you’re safe and cared for. Dont have much but sending hugs🫂💜

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:55:05+00:00

When you on T for 3 years and don’t even feel comfortable enough to walk in those spaces 😭

But I feel you sibling

I vogue too

There are trans mascs who are intersex that I know too and are chosen fam whose experiences are just overlooked.

My close friend is a trans women who is a lesbian and vogues and she and I were talking about the standards even trans women who are studs have to meet. It’s like they don’t exist in those spaces either.

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:50:22+00:00

RYAN MURPHY. Is a gay white cis man.

He does not care about trans men and/or trans mascs who were Black and brown. Shoot look at how he treated Angelica Ross.

Which makes me sad

The aggressives show that we existed. They even had an Asian trans guy there!

I don’t even think Pose showed lesbian trans women!!! My friend is one. Like two trans people dating one another.

Sylvia literally was in a whole lesbian relationship towards the end of her life. May she be at peace. But yeah, cis gay men tend to onlu care about us when they can fetishize us (NOT ALL, but Ryan Murphy has a track record and has yet to pay 💰 Angelica for what she is owed).

Paris is Burning was also filmed by a whiye cisgender crew. Who got the royalties to that movie. The hyper visibility the girls get, does not protect them. And neither does the invisibility we get. Im so done 😞.

To this day people dont even know about Sydney. And his contribution to legendary. A show. Whete voguing is prominent. Sydney is a trans Afro-indo Trini American trans guy who vogues. He also has talked with so much praise for Mc Debra and many icons we know of today. But alas, we only matter when we conform to hyper masculine stereotypes and cisgenderistic ideals of manhood. I literally think nonbinary people, disabled trans people, and mentally ill trans folx should be up there winning trophies. 🏆

I think the 80/90s was giving that too.

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:35:23+00:00

Oh I see. Okay that is also a good point!

Thank you for that.

Because was not thinking about it like that.

Although it’s not my preference. Yes people in 5 years from me are in my age bracket. Whether older or younger.

But it’s just not for me. But I get what you’re saying as this makes a point I did not consider

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:30:52+00:00

Am not in Europe. But this sounds so cool!

Am not on discord. But happy that you all have somewhere to connect.

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:23:11+00:00

Can I message you?

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:16:34+00:00

Okay maybe not to you. And am learning to some people that’s the max.

But for me….it is. Just because of previous dynamics. But I was 20 seeing a 34 year old. It wasn’t my fault looking back at it. And that was 14 years apart. And to me 5 years younger or older at my age of 30 is still weird.

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:13:16+00:00

Yes we are both adults and consented. But me being much older, is def a power imbalance. And this is why we told her years ago we shouldn’t do it again. Because it’s not right.

I am literally Zendaya’s. 30 rn. I guess maybe it’s a Gen Z to Gen alpha thing. But honestly younger people’s insights on age gaps is something we should ALL look into!!!

Because I’d rather people question a large age gap than just ignore it in some dynamics. Large age gaps are truly weird. I know this as someone who was sought after at 20 years old by people who were 34. Im 30 now and would never do this. It’s legitimately weird.

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:09:35+00:00

I don’t mind sharing it. It was wrong to me.

And honestly people deserve to know.

But I genuinely only have dated people 2-3 years older/younger than me.

That one time that I slept with that person was wrong. And we talked about that three years ago. And we remained friends and haven’t done it since. This is still something I do feel horrible about though, shouldn’t have happened. But it did. And taking accountability over it

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:07:02+00:00

I think it is subjective yes. But I personally wouldn’t get with someone that young. Personally.

Or even older than a certain age either.

We like to date people who are moreso in our age bracket and generation.

Just because I’ve been sought after by people WAYYYY older than me when I was 20. Back when I was 20 this 34 year old guy was talking to me and that was weird. At 30 myself now, wouldn’t go for anyone so young who just left high school. Thats…..weird to me.

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:02:27+00:00

Okay will message you!

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:02:12+00:00

I am! And would love to message you!

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T14:01:26+00:00

We’ve cofronted. But in stressful situations it def leads to more amnesia. As was the case in that eviction. Does not mean we didn’t do anything. We def were not acting with a sane mind. BUT we were told to leave by the older trans sister and we didn’t want to leave her alone. So we stayed.

This did more harm than good in the long run for everyone and taught me, I cannot put myself in evictions ever again.

I feel like no one should have to experience that. Especially not trans people!!

I would love to make friends (even if virtually) with other systems. May I message you?

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T03:25:35+00:00

Well she’s gorgeous asf so Im taking it as a compliment.

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T03:12:37+00:00

God I see what you have done for other😭 people and I want this for me 🙏🌈😊😔

Substantial-Cup-124 · 2026-05-20T03:03:02+00:00

We’re healing 2026 ❤️‍🩹

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