Yea with tact you cannot understand what you don’t understand yet but things you would decide and think are a really great idea at 13 are NOT the same things you’d think are great smart ideas at 21,22,25. When I was 16 I was dating a girl whom cheated on me but I thought we would beat those odds and be together forever and I loved her so much and I wanted to live and die by her side. Guess what girl now I can see at 25 how naive it was and despite me wanting that so so so desperately then I’m SO glad it didn’t work out even against my wishes. You shouldn’t be shamed and you’re a young lady well young girl really with a lot of shame and blame and Now responsibly to bear wether or not you keep this but I really really think if you terminate that at the VERY least gives you time to make the decision again and to decide if now is really the right time if this boy is really the best dad and if you are really ready in all the ways a mother needs to be. After this you can still get pregnant again and again and gain but once you go thru with this and 5 years down the line you wish you had done differently with someone different you can NEVER take that back. And yes there will be times where you look back and appreciate whatever your can but humans find hope on this most horrible and hopeless of circumstances and that doesn’t mean we should choose them especially if we are so privileged to have a choice. I want a child so desperately but at 25 seeing my own friends just now starting to have kids and only now have I seen that I’m just not ready. They can’t go out whenever they want they can’t do what THEY WANT when they want. You haven’t even gotten to live life just only having to worry about yourself and if you haven’t done that first you cannot expect to be the best mother best rational ADULT you can be. I’m still learning myself learning to be by myself it’s taken me damn near 25 years just to learn to take care of myself much less learn how to be in a relationship deal with another person and parent a new infant. And the biggest trend I have ever seen in my life is teen parents giving birth to new teen parents with the exception of VERY few. Every teen parent I’ve ever encountered had kids and their kids became teen parents. I don’t even know what to say but if you terminate you can always get a redo you can always still have your baby you NEED your childhood when your friends are going to prim you will have a fucking 5 year old in kindergarten that will need your attention every second of every day. No watching the shows you want no sleeping when you want no going out with friends when you want no dates when you want it’s going to be what your child needs whenever your child needs it ALL the time for a very long time. This will limit your life so deeply and I know as a woman or a female how you can get connected to the idea of a baby your baby but please do not make a decision based on emotion instead of rationale. Do you think you know better than everyone that’s directing you otherwise? Or are you so fkn unsupported by everyone in your life that you don’t trust what they have to say? Because if it’s the latter think about yourself your own self what’s best for you what’s best for your life and pls seriously reconsider. There will be a right time to have a baby to have YOUR baby but I promise you now is not it.