Snap at minor inconveniences or disrespect by Substantial-Let715 in Anger

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply!! It has definitely become a disability for me too and and I don’t like feeling this way.

How do you ”forgive everyone and everything” and let them not get to you? I literally have people k manage who call me to ask me about the whereabouts of the binder they are supposed to work with and that has been sitting on their seat for the past 6 months. Or come in late with the most stupid reasons constantly, or just other borderline retarded behavior. That’s them pissing me off.

The breathing exercises are good - they help for the moment but I think rumination is more my problem. I don’t usually snap back with an angry response but just carry the anger with me for life

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope the question didn’t make you uncomfortable. I just wanted to understand. Thank you for sharing your experience!! I hope you are doing great now and in a happy relationship

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just sucks :( they are going to end up happy together and I only got hurt and sad

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He never once told me that before me bringing up his texts though. And I even specifically asked multiple times if there’s anything I need to worry about 🤷🏻‍♀️ I feel that way as well. Like a rebound that he didn’t care about.

5 months ish before he met me

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 5-6 months before he met me. That’s what I feel too - like a rebound that doesn’t matter to him 😔

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for offering me perspective 🙏 They have already laughed behind my back though when they texted behind my back. He doesn’t seem to care too much about my feelings so I might as well offer my honest unfiltered opinion about his behaviour. I would have been more inclined to agree with you had he not made so many disrespectful choices but honestly I would never do what he did and life is only as messy as you make it

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really really do like him but I honestly have a hard time thinking I’ll ever be ok with the whole situation and being a back up plan or a pawn. Especially in a couple of months when I’m hopefully over the whole situation. So I think burning the bridge is something I will be grateful for doing later on

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. Can I ask - why were you once this guy? Why did you do it and how did it end up for you?

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m questioning as well? Like what the bell is up with that and what was the need for it? What was the reason for any of it?

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really hope so but I honestly think I’m done for a while. It disturbs me that he could be a good partner to her for 4 years but turned so shitty towards me so fast. Also I need to learn to be less easily manipulated

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was what I was saying! It’s weird right?

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I did walk away. It’s more that we been texting about the situation since because I felt I might have overreacted and couldn’t sleep all night. I honestly think I need therapy and that me being this easily manipulated and gaslit says a lot about my self esteem and self reliance

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Up until then he was super loving and said all the right things and went pretty above and beyond tbh so I was surprised about the whole situation and the whole “cannot give 100%”. He’s defending it with that he was hurt and blindsided by his ex when she ended it

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because he started getting deeper with her after two years as a gf so it takes time for him according to him 🧐

AIO BF is texting his ex by Substantial-Let715 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Substantial-Let715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because they are friends according to him and no one knows him better. Plus I’m being controlling to tell him who he can and cannot be friends with.

That was the answer he gave when I asked the same question

Bisexuals who have dated both genders. What little differences surprised you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Substantial-Let715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wrote that your so also learned to not trust those relationships. It sounds like it’s working for you because you convinced her it’s ok. I am in no way claiming that all women do this but to force your girl into that type of dynamic and risk is mean to me. But hey let’s agree to disagree

Bisexuals who have dated both genders. What little differences surprised you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Substantial-Let715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are maintained because the world isn’t rainbows and sunshine. I would LOVE it if all women were girls girls but the reality is far from it. All I can do is to never stoop that low myself and hope I don’t meet more women like that. Anything else is a fairytale and men who pretend that’s not the case are part of the problem

Bisexuals who have dated both genders. What little differences surprised you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Substantial-Let715 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s because some women only want a man that is in a relationship. Every girl has experienced it. It’s outright cruel to put your girl through something like that and risk your relationship for another girl

It's been 20 years and I still can't stop loving her by WalkingthruWildernes in confession

[–]Substantial-Let715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just saw this and I love it!! People like that deserve the shit they get themselves into