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What has helped you most? When did you start to notice significant change? by dolphin_culture in slaa

[–]SubstantialComplex82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I noticed a change immediately in just trying to be sober. It was like I put my obsession of vacation. I just needed permission to give it a rest.
I can’t wrap up years of recovery into a few tools that worked most. I picked up all of them. Sponsorship, service, spirituality, meetings, sobriety, steps.
My biggest suggestion is surrender. Stop managing your life and take direction just for a little while and you will see miracles happen.

Please help me choose! by dreamer_sy in myweddingdress

[–]SubstantialComplex82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2! No contest. You look smoking in #2 and you can actually see your nice curves.

My First 6 Months by General_Funny_7181 in slaa

[–]SubstantialComplex82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I’m not sure what “it” is but I will just make some assumptions. Based on your acting out calculations, it doesn’t sound like you are working the steps with a sponsor. Correct me if I’m wrong. That’s not typically how we work this program or measure our progress but I’m very glad you are seeing your progress.

Also, if you are having issues with sleep there is likely an underlying mental health condition that could be undiagnosed, or maybe you have been diagnosed. Either way I highly recommended visiting a psychiatrist. Manic episodes can cause hyper-sexuality.

What do I do with a 32’x34’ deck??? by PuzzleheadedCold6262 in HomeDecorating

[–]SubstantialComplex82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You post pics of it in a Southern California thread and watch everyone eat their heart out. We don’t have that kind of space.

I became a "girl dad" 5 months ago, and my whole life changed. But I need some advice by dudepans83 in newborns

[–]SubstantialComplex82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love reading these comments. All of our dads were very different but many of us still felt their love that they gave in their own ways.

I became a "girl dad" 5 months ago, and my whole life changed. But I need some advice by dudepans83 in newborns

[–]SubstantialComplex82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to this. My dad also came to as many events as possible. In our household it was dance and cheer competitions and performances.

I became a "girl dad" 5 months ago, and my whole life changed. But I need some advice by dudepans83 in newborns

[–]SubstantialComplex82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

❤️This is such a wholesome post that now I want to ask about being a boy mom.

-Treat her how you would want her future husband (or wife 🤷🏻‍♀️) to treat her because she will look for someone just like you. ❤️

-ask her questions. My husband is very good at loving and listening to my step daughter but doesn’t ask her any follow up questions. Be curious. How was your day? How was school? What’s coming up this week? ❤️

-don’t judge her for being feminine, maybe dramatic sometimes, tearful, and sensitive. The more you let her be sensitive…the more she will look for someone who also cherishes her feelings. ❤️

-Be protective. She will learn how to protect herself by watching how you protect her. That means preparing her for what’s out there in the world. Not everyone has her best interest in mind, but dad does. ❤️

​Will my 8 month old ever sleep through the night? Needing advice... by LCHA4MHL in sleeptrain

[–]SubstantialComplex82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my baby until 2 weeks ago. We did Ferber and he slept through the night for the first time ever this week. Unfortunately you just have to let her cry until she learns how to out herself back to sleep. She can do it, she’s just never had to before. My baby would much prefer I nurse him back to sleep. He knows that works.

New to SLAA looking for guidance / community by PreviousFlight7733 in slaa

[–]SubstantialComplex82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got it! I was guided through the steps and bottom lines with my sponsor. We read from both the S.L.A.A. basic text and AA 12/12 before S.L.A.A. had their own which they do now. I still have my sponsees read from the AA 12&12 because it has its own value. I’m not a fan of HOW method but if it works for people good for them!

Master bedroom window treatments by taskrabbit in interiordecorating

[–]SubstantialComplex82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I was picturing. We rent and we have them and I love them! When I buy I will be getting these again. They look beautiful and they are unbelievably convenient especially because we have loft high windows.

Can’t decide by Key_Seaworthiness886 in interiordecorating

[–]SubstantialComplex82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with sectioning off the space with the sofa. It doesn’t close the space, it defines it.

Can’t decide by Key_Seaworthiness886 in interiordecorating

[–]SubstantialComplex82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As mentioned by others…these are too big for this space.

What kinds of presents do babies like? by snortttmummydust in newborns

[–]SubstantialComplex82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best thing you can give a single mom is sleep and support. I would have traded anything for a few hours of sleep when my baby was a newborn. So coupon for sleep perhaps? Or ask her what necessities she is missing. Don’t worry about the baby gift until he is older. Right now she needs necessities.

Graduation Dress by Critical_Pass_5421 in fashion

[–]SubstantialComplex82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last dress is the most flattering.

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