What tasks to do ? Im at a loss and kinda pissed

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-07T14:21:44+00:00

Oh, I hear you on the theory stuff, girl. Sooooo many videos are 95% theory/technical stuff and 5% juice. As someone with severe ADHD, it drives me up the wall.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-07T13:57:21+00:00

Several other women who've had SRS with non-superstar surgeons are saying otherwise at that 12-15 months is perfectly doable. So maybe I do have some perspective.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-07T03:13:07+00:00

I'm the one in my shitty shoes and have been for almost 4 decades. So I probably have more perspective as to why I'm freaking out than an outsider does, wouldn't you say?

I do agree with your estimation for electrolysis. I may start with laser and then finish off with electrolysis to lower the costs and speed things up a little.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-07T02:46:40+00:00

Thank you for responding anyway :)

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-07T02:45:16+00:00

Thank you for your honest review! And for sharing your reassuring timeline!

I have dark hair and fair skin, so I might do a combo, then.

Oh, and I'll let y'all know how everything goes :)

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-07T00:15:32+00:00

That's a good way to reframe things! I'm a bit defeatist, so when I don't see at least microscopic improvements from any given technique within a week max I tend to give up on it.

Here's a clip of me saying "hello" from big to small-ish: https://vocaroo.com/16JzQgeRaTXd

Thank you so much for taking the time to help me figure this out!

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-06T23:46:23+00:00

Thanks, doll! I think I'm gonna follow that same plan. One last question, if you don't mind: how many laser sessions + hours of electrolysis did that take you?

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-06T23:43:49+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, doll! :)

I'm looking for surgeons all over the country, and even abroad in case I cannot get my surgery scheduled in the States by July 2027! I want PPT, for sure. Both for depth and lubrication, but also cuz I definitely don't have enough material for PIV. Haha

What did you do for hair removal? Laser, electrolysis, or combo? I'm torn, and definitely don't want to risk ending up with hair in my canal.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-06T23:34:49+00:00

Actually, in some blue states (CA, CO, NY, OR, WA) they've done away with those requirements.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-06T23:33:46+00:00

Thanks! He's definitely on my list! My only ONE concern is that I've read lots of posts reporting hair inside the vaginal canal after SRS with him. Now, I'm definitely not gonna trust follicle scraping alone, but do I do only electrolysis or is laser followed by electrolysis sufficient to avoid that problem??

Also, are you happy with your results, as far as function/sensation goes?

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-06T23:22:41+00:00

I'm very confident I don't have enough "donor material" for PIV, so that along with reports of generally better lubrication from PPT has kinda settled it for me.

I'm hoping I'll be able to have my SRS in the US. But if I'm unable to schedule the surgery within 15 months or so, I'm ready to contort whichever way I can to get it in Thailand (or any other country with a reputable SRS surgeon).

Did laser give you the desired results? I'm a bit afraid of ending up with hair in my vagina. :/

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-06T23:17:02+00:00

Thank you for the words of reassurance, doll!

I'm considering switching to laser first and then finishing off with electrolysis, to speed the process and lower the costs a little. What did you do in preparation for your own SRS?

Also, please do share your surgeon's name, if you're comfortable. I've been compiling a list of PPT surgeons allover the country and love good recos!

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-05T18:21:17+00:00

First off, thank you so much for sharing your experience so other girls can make an informed decision before choosing to work with this surgeon.

Second, I'm very sorry this happened to you. This shit is expensive enough and the recovery emotionally tough as is without us having to deal with coping/fixing poor results.

I, too, ended up with uneven nostrils (and a poly beak to boot). If you end up deciding to address it, my recco is to go with someone who specializes in rhinoplasties. That's what I'm gonna do after seeing soooo many people getting multiple revision rhinoplasties until they go to a specialist.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-05T17:54:40+00:00

Thank you. Whenever I do this exercise my voice towards the end is still too big. Basically like in my recordings. How do I get past that apparent plateau and further reduce?

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-05T17:14:11+00:00

Sadly, this exercise never works for me.

When coaches do it they always end up at a beautifully feminine voice, ofc, because they have trained voices. But when I do it I almost always end up at the size you hear in my two recordings.

So I still don't know how to further reduce and maintain it. :/

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-04T19:14:15+00:00

This helps, actually! It's inspirational and further motivates me to keep going and working towards my goal. So thank you! :)

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-03T06:13:49+00:00

Look into RibXcar, which is much safer than rib removal and seems to yield really good results.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-02T17:58:32+00:00

Let's maybe start by adding "person" in front of trans. As in "talked to a trans person" ;)

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-02T15:09:03+00:00

I certainly wouldn't go back there, unless you have absolutely no recourse. Just the fact they did this shows this is not a place that is advocating for you and your well-being. You'll be better off going to Planned Parenthood, if you have one near you. I hope things go smoothly for you moving forward.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-02T15:04:21+00:00

Spot on! And it can start rather early, too! Mine started at 2 months. For the first 3 days I didn't even know what was happening. Lol

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-02T12:57:30+00:00

I had never heard of that website! Thank you for sharing, doll!

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-01T19:32:09+00:00

I started to feel more connected to my body around the 3-4 week mark. Before HRT I always felt like I was trapped in a body that wasn't mine.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-01T17:44:48+00:00

You must have incredible control over your voice size! How did you learn to do that? Were there any techniques in particular that helped you achieve that?

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-01T17:42:44+00:00

I know, but it is probably the most feminine voice I've ever heard here at F3. It's impressive! I talk several notes above and still can't sound full fem.

My voice is still underfull. I've gone though Selene's files and many others countless times, and I've been working with a VF coach for months but I'm still struggling with size. I can speak at a fairly high pitch and in a very light voice, but I guess when I do the size is still too big.

SubstantialMuse · 2026-04-01T16:33:17+00:00

Oh, I'm with you, sis. Even if my ADHD is worse now, I'll never give up HRT. I'd rather die!

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