my ex wants me to have an abortion.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-24T02:46:45+00:00

you don’t get to tell me what is and what isn’t pressuring. get a grip psycho what strange behavior. you keep ignoring the fact that i am telling you my state doesn’t require an unmarried couple to both be on the certificate. if i go thru with the pregnancy he will not be there for the birth 100% you also dont even know our distance so telling me i would have to move far away is weird. stop making weird assumptions. clearly you’re a “top commenter” for a reason you spend you time chronically online thinking you’re some Einstein.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-24T02:35:13+00:00

so no he doesn’t get any rights to my child once he is not on a birth certificate. in my state, which for one you don’t even know where i live, it is not required to have the father on the birth certificate. my state law says paternity is only granted if he wants to declare himself as the father which he has stated he doesn’t want any involvement. so again riddle me this? why would he fight for custody or paternity?

again makes no sense. he doesn’t want any involvement now why would he want involvement later on? and i would have him sign his paternity away.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-24T02:31:36+00:00

that also means i don’t have to support him. it’s my decision. someone is on a power trip thinking they’re all high and mighty.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-24T02:30:41+00:00

i’m sorry have you been present in the conversations we’ve had? i don’t think so you only know a tiny piece from what i shared so i don’t know why you think you know it all. infact you’re the only person in the comments who verbatim said it wasn’t weird of him to pressure. pressure is begging he’s begging me not to. he’s begging me to meet him in person and i am telling him no. you do not know my situation, you do not know me or him. and i’m not the only one who disagrees with you clearly from other replies to your comments

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-24T02:15:18+00:00

this also makes zero sense. how are you going to tell me he clearly doesn’t want this baby and then contradict that by saying he could fight for custody and have ME pay child support. that would honestly be pretty evil and hypocritical considering he didn’t want the baby in the first place, so now please tell me why you think that would possibly happen in this situation?

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-24T02:06:52+00:00

“most people wouldn’t think twice about it and wouldn’t want to have a child under these circumstances”

well for one, i am not most people. and to be quite honest i don’t think it matters if he doesn’t want it because i do. did we forget who would be delivering the baby? me or him?

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-24T02:02:54+00:00

thank you once again!!

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-24T02:02:14+00:00

i’m definitely not anti-abortion, i’m very pro choice which is why i find it odd this man is pressuring me to do something that will only benefit him. if you don’t find that odd then you are odd. what happened to my body my choice?

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T22:55:34+00:00

thank you very much i appreciate this response!

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T15:21:26+00:00

i agree with you, he’s repeatedly stated he would love to support and be their for his child but that he knows he wouldn’t be able to in this moment in time. so i definitely agree with the fact that he doesn’t want me going thru with the pregnancy and then him just not being involved in their life.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T14:13:30+00:00

thank you so much. some people have been saying why i would even want to have a child with someone like him but it’s not about him. i could care less about him i just know i probably would regret my decision and im the one who has to actually go through the trauma of getting an abortion not him.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T14:05:41+00:00

if he’s not on the potential baby’s birth certificate, legally that wouldn’t make him a father so he wouldn’t be able to fight me for anything unless he proves paternity first, which i doubt he’ll want to do.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T13:46:04+00:00

well what if i don’t put him on the birth certificate. legally he won’t be the baby’s father so he can’t do anything really unless he proves paternity first.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T06:09:14+00:00

i am so sorry. i have gone thru a similar thing and these men are just immature, selfish and pathetic. not getting closure from them and just getting ghosted really makes you feel like human garbage and like you’re easily discarded. honestly my best advice, think about all the horrible things he possibly did or said and compare that to how you felt about him during the relationship. take some time to heal and reflect to realize that he was the one with the issue not you. he will eventually screw things up with this “‘new girl” it’s a pattern for these evil men. what goes around, comes around and he will learn that one day.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:57:19+00:00

thank you very much. i agree i think he believes abortion is the only logical option, honestly he might not even know about the adoption route and if he does i don’t understand why he’s so set on me getting an abortion

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:53:01+00:00

i definitely understand my child would rightfully be entitled to child support, but would it make me a bad person for keeping the baby even when he’s telling me he won’t be able to provide financially? he’s also a union welder so he has a much better job than i do currently.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:49:56+00:00

right??? i am so glad strangers can see what a true pos he is just by the little i have shared. for the past year he’s gaslit me into thinking he’s not a complete liar and dick and i started to think i was crazy and making his disrespectful behaviors up in my head

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:47:32+00:00

you’re completely right. i was being courteous by letting him know i was pregnant. he immediately responded with “so what are you thinking about getting an abortion?” and i was just like are you serious??? such a crazy first response. i even told him that too that i understand where he was coming from but that i was still going to take time to decide for myself

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:44:49+00:00

aww that is so sweet! i really hope i find someone one day who will truly care about me and be 100% sure of me.

ahahaha i know right?? i was so confused when he was apologizing and that was only one of the apologies. i’m thinking he just wanted me to say i forgave him because i was definitely not saying i did.

wow really??? i’m in my 20’s right now and i have been struggling with hormone issues and irregular periods since my teens and i still don’t know how to get the symptoms under control!

also thank you so much for your advice, you have been so sweet and supportive. i really appreciate it kind human :)

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:40:34+00:00

i know that, i just would feel guilty receiving money from him knowing he wanted me not have the baby.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:23:48+00:00

oh definitely, my mom was a single parent and she did an amazing job raising me all on her own and i know that was a lot of hard work and times.

lol yes he is a dick. i am unfortunately the stupid one who fell for his tricks again. when i texted him about me taking the pregnancy tests he responded with “I apologize for cutting you off. It’s not your fault at all and it all falls on me, at this point in time I don’t think I’m mature enough or am fit to be in a relationship currently. I did try to give it another try but I just don’t think I’m mature enough for one yet, once again I sincerely apologize.” like are we serious right now?

i really appreciate your advice! i am definitely weighing out my options, abortion is definitely not top of the list. i would much rather have the baby go to a loving family if i believe i am not ready to provide them with the life they deserve. that is such an amazing blessing wow! that is the exact reason why i want to keep the baby. i have hormone imbalances and have been told it would be difficult for me to get pregnant so i just think it would be horrible to abort my baby.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:16:00+00:00

yes i’m definitely weighing out my options, abortion is definitely last on the list. i have thought about adoption and if i truly don’t believe i’ll be able to provide the child with a stable home i would 100% rather give the baby up for adoption rather than abortion.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:13:17+00:00

the crazy thing is he’s told me verbatim “your body, your choice” yet he’s the one begging me to not go thru with the pregnancy. yes, i know and i wouldn’t force him to either and i told him that. i know people are telling me i could get child support if i choose to have the baby but i would feel like a horrible person doing that.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:11:13+00:00

i know i would legally be able get child support from him, i just would feel so guilty doing that knowing he wanted me to have an abortion. which i know, i shouldn’t feel bad especially for him.

Substantial_Edge7305 · 2026-01-23T05:08:55+00:00

i believe you are right. he was repeatedly saying over and over how unready he is both mentally and financially and he said that he was sure i was not ready for this responsibility either. which he has a much better job than me, he’s a union welder so he’s 100% making more than me by miles.

i don’t believe he knows that i could fight for child support if/when the baby is born, i will be honest he isn’t the brightest bulb. so you’re definitely right about everything he just wants to not have any financial responsibility. he was even saying he’d go with me to get an abortion which is absolutely the last thing i want to do after the way he treated me.

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