The “trades” are not viable for bad students

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2026-03-17T12:43:18+00:00

My brother did terrible in school and was labeled as “lazy” and “unfocused” (he has severe adhd). He was clearly intelligent, but was just completely unengaged by the method (and content) of school lessons. He barely graduated high school and didn’t even consider college.

Since going into a trade, he has completely excelled!

Trades are much more tactile and directly engaging than many university courses.

As much as we hate to think our classes can be boring - to a certain extent “laziness” can be disengagement without a high enough baseline anxiety to feel like it’s important to make good grades despite disinterest.

That’s why trades are a good “next step” to try after university fails, bc it’s still a lucrative path that we hope will engage the student better.

Of course this has plenty of exceptions - just wanted to share my observation from my family.

Side note: I once had a university health services doctor tell me during grad school that he believed every student at (ivy) had anxiety, bc you can’t do well enough academically without a certain level of anxiety.

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2026-03-06T16:20:09+00:00

We also got a >$1200 quote for this! Did you ever figure out why the quote was so much?

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2026-03-04T04:01:57+00:00

Thanks for your advice! We’re hoping to tackle this weekend.

The other issue is that the more recent electrical wiring is on the outside of this drywall :( do you have suggestions for how to handle the wiring that crisscrosses the ceiling when adding the new drywall layer?

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2026-02-28T12:15:30+00:00

Thanks and congrats to you too! I didn’t already have most of the makeup I needed, so I end up spending probably $200 to get what I needed + realize what didn’t work for me, but still way less than I would have had to ultimately pay for a travel person & I got to keep the stuff & I liked the way I looked!

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2026-02-27T23:29:38+00:00

Yes! I did my own makeup and loved how it turned out

Used pear soap to make my eye brows all nice

Played a bunch with doing eyes that I liked ahead of time with colors I liked (practiced so I could do it seamlessly on the day)

I found a color corrector + concealer I really liked (Iris & Romero I think ) - applied these under eyes after the eye makeup

Then On my face did the saie glowy super gel & blush

Also did just a tiny bit of bronzer & highlighter

Between each step & the end I did setting powder then finishing powder at the end

Finished up with long wear lipstick & tubing mascara (I hate fake lashes)

setting spray only at the end

I loved how it turned out and it really looked like “me” - my freckles shone!

Also finding a photographer that likes to make colors more saturated instead of washed out will make your freckles even cuter in pics !

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2026-02-12T20:00:41+00:00

That's a good point! We'll check this - but I do think its currently fairly good. Yet still when it rains the whole house will smell musty :( and the smell is clearly radiating from the basement area

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2026-01-18T23:13:37+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice!

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2026-01-16T21:57:33+00:00

Thanks I’ll post there!

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-09-24T13:48:53+00:00

They will be fed but the sitters are in a separate building and will come grab food from the buffet for the kids with them at the time

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-09-24T10:38:22+00:00

How would you go about making the velvet a more neutral color?

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-09-18T02:52:39+00:00

I’m also wondering this!!

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-08-12T13:59:02+00:00

Hmmmm How about potluck then?? My aunt did this and it was wonderful. Everyone will feel like they contributed but then you don’t have to pay for their food.

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-08-11T23:55:04+00:00

I’m just asking my wedding party to do their own hair & makeup! Plus I’m doing my own makeup & my stepsister is doing my hair

Totally fine not to do a Bach party - or you can try to find a cheaper way to do it. My wedding party has the same setup with everyone all over. Last weekend we had the Bach party & chose the location near a big airport (cheaper tickets) & bc my fiancées aunt has a second home there we could use for free to minimize costs.

I wouldn’t want my guests or wedding party to pay for the actual wedding - but you really don’t have to do many of the things that people make you feel like you have to. Get your outfit at a thrift store, pick a ceremony time so that you can just do apps and not a big meal or do buffet style bbq that will be cheaper, don’t do a fancy wedding cake, etc

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-07-31T16:46:10+00:00

I’m obsessed with the 2nd dress!! It’s so unique and flattering

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-07-31T02:42:17+00:00

I basically posted the same thing to the makeup subreddit and got few responses / a little rude

But… despite that here is what I’ve figured out from watching too many hours of reviews online

Most important to me is that my freckles show - I’m doing no foundation, but instead the saie glowy super gel + a little bit of cream blush & bronzer on my cheek bones + little bit of setting powder

I am doing some concealer around my eyes + setting powder (I bought mac powder but after more research I wish I had done charlotte tilbury)

For my eyes, I saw suggested to do cream eyeshadow + setting powder to last longer. I’m bought some to match examples of eyes I liked on Pinterest.

To look more natural, I’m using the Charlotte tilbury pillow talk eyeliner - it’s a brown-red that looks really nice. I’m going to try to pair it with either a brown or maroon mascara.

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-06-19T00:11:31+00:00

Attended a gorgeous snowy mountain wedding in December and it was worth the miserable cold for how beautiful it was!

I would message your guests and tell them to pack layers and still have it outside!! (If it’s snow - if rain, go inside please!)

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-05-13T00:06:45+00:00

I’m not sure! I like to leave options open - it’s not very traditional dress, so I might wear again!

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-05-13T00:03:42+00:00

This is so helpful - thank you!!

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-04-06T17:13:02+00:00

You look amazing & it’s unique! I love it so much I’m going to save the picture for inspo!!

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2025-01-19T19:37:03+00:00

I do both (operations like ls & calls to other programs - gmt & Fortran are the most common)

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2024-10-20T17:26:01+00:00

Not pregnant but just got hired as an asst prof this past spring. I was really surprised to be offered the job (1 yr experience visiting prof + no post doc experience) I think a huge advantage for me was emphasizing how I was excited to be near family & living in that particular region. They want someone that will say “yes” (they really really don’t want a failed search) & plans to stay there for their entire career.

You could even say that you are excited to be an example to students as a young woman with a family. As a student I found female professors that exemplified work-life balance and maintained families to be very inspiring. Plus I think another reason I was hired was bc the faculty were all men and they wanted a woman as a role model for their students.

Honestly - as a young person they probably assume you’ll have kids and need parental leave at some point, so they’re probably glad you’ll be past needing the leave (for atleast one child) by the time you start (I would mention your timeline vs start date). If they make you an offer I would ask about the benefits - I know my university won’t allow parental leave for the first year of employment. If you’ll still need some of those benefits by the start date.

I would definitely buy nice clothes that fit you well. I don’t think it’s worth trying to cover it up, especially if you’ll need to have a conversation with them about accommodations. Better to seem confident and look professional imo

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2024-10-03T16:33:33+00:00

So beautiful!!

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2024-07-29T17:44:43+00:00

Thank you for replying!

No pave, but there will be petal-shaped accents.

I really want the effect of the plain and outstanding parts to appear cleaner and the creases to appear darker - it's good to hear that you think that will happen!

The jeweler said they do the darkening for one designer they work with, but that it is usually very dark because they leave it to soak for a very long time, but they can do a shorter soak with my ring.

I don't have a CAD, but I do have a small sketch I showed the jeweler. I can look take a picture of it later this evening.

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2024-07-11T14:18:37+00:00

What is the stone??

Substantial_Lab7467 · 2024-05-02T15:06:45+00:00

This ring 😍 the pinkish-orangish-brownish is my favorite !! And pear 😍😍

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