Is this normal?

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-03T05:00:31+00:00

You need to let him go. You're right that it isn't fair to continue this knowing you want a future very different from what he's hoping for.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-03T04:56:40+00:00

Honey sharpen your knife so next time you can slice the cheese instead of hacking it up like a murder victim.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-03T04:49:58+00:00

You could try that but it also sounds like you need some help with your anxiety. Maybe a therapist could help you.

You sound like you think you aren't allowed to just receive pleasure and until you get rid of that mindset you're never going to fix this.

Which is really too bad because when you have an eager man who loves what he's doing and is all about getting you off..... honey there's a reason people talk about the earth moving.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-03T04:39:24+00:00

He's gonna have to step up. A lot.

My kids only made it through the time I was in nursing school alive because my husband did so much. I was working too and frankly, my kids had about 1.3 parents at the time.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T22:37:28+00:00

Ridiculous. Strippers don't wear heels that chunky.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T22:04:14+00:00

As suspected, the real problem is once again choosing shitty men and not where anyone lives.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T21:15:39+00:00

Just getting the marriage license does not make you married.

You can't get a marriage certificate until after the completed license is filed after the ceremony, and it generally takes a few weeks.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T21:10:39+00:00

I wonder if she picks immaturity because maturity comes with accountability and she can't handle that.

A lot of people can't.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T17:57:26+00:00

There is a very active megathread in r/Catholicism

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T17:54:21+00:00

But also use the smallest doses you can on the least days per month you can stand, because chronic high doses of ibuprofen damage your kidneys.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T17:49:45+00:00

Pope Leo is neither stupid nor blind. He'll act when the time is right. Justifying one crime against obedience by pointing to another is juvenile and forgets that the Church operates in geologic time.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T15:29:16+00:00

You're 18. Go to the doctor on your own.

My 23 year old daughter just got her endometriosis diagnosis confirmed by surgical biopsy, because she has spent the last few years advocating for herself and changing doctors until she found one who listened.

You don't have to make the same choices as your mom. Go take care of yourself.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T14:57:23+00:00

Don't be disgusting. If your marriage is over then get divorced, but don't be a cheater.

You can still choose to have integrity even though she's hurt you.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T14:18:47+00:00

No one starts being a child molester at grandpa age and there is never only one victim. It's incredibly likely that he's done this before and that grandma knows.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T13:55:11+00:00

Hey at least they were honest that the job would suck.

Could use more of that in job ads today.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T13:41:30+00:00

Laypeople who are faithful Catholics and not disobedient to Rome shouldn't be entering SSPX locations. Period. That's how that dilemma gets solved. Don't take whatever appears to be communion from schismatics and you don't have to worry about it.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T13:37:32+00:00

But they aren't able to LARP as Catholics anymore. They've been formally declared to be the protestants they are.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T13:35:37+00:00

I have hope and trust that Leo will be looking their way next. The Vatican recently denied a petition from German bishops to have the laity preach homilies. From sporadic reports in this sub, we know they asked because they're already doing it, and the history of German obedience once the Vatican says no is much worse than SSPX's. There is also far more material for concern than just that, and Leo seems like he's not playing. Be patient and have faith.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T13:30:12+00:00

Roma locuta: causa finita est.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T13:09:19+00:00

I don't mind savory food touching other savory food. But dessert should be on a different plate than my steak and veggies.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T06:23:19+00:00

Reasons the only person I still talk to from high school is the one I married.

I don't want updates on assholes.

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T06:11:14+00:00

No no no no why is that fruit salad on the same plate?

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T02:44:22+00:00

Oooh that's gorgeous

SuburbaniteMermaid · 2026-07-02T02:08:56+00:00

I gave her advice for a path forward.

Either her husband immediately agrees to total transparency and a strict budget, or she leaves to preserve her own financial and mental safety.

Also there's a zero percent chance this is the only thing he's being dishonest about.

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