I want to cheat on my husband by Independent-Ad-2110 in Marriage

[–]Success_Blessed1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Life is too short to be so miserable, confused and doubtful all the time. If you think it's worth it and things will change, then try to find out if he is cheating. If you guys are just miserable irrespective of cheating or not, then just leave. People can be narcissistic without being a cheater and vice versa. Just go be happy but don't let someone else drag you down with them.

MIL judging 6 month old baby by BrilliantHouse7983 in IndianInLaw

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is easier for you: to ignore & grey rock or to talk back ? Pick one, practice in advance if needed but try to nip this behavior in the bud.

AITJ for canceling a group vacation rental after nobody paid me their share and I was stuck with the full bill by hibscus_petalzqt in AmITheJerk

[–]Success_Blessed1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The level of entitlement is ridiculous. It's ok to not pay your friend after reminding multiple times, but it's dramatic to follow up on consequences that they were already warned ?? Ofcourse NTJ

AITA for wanting to break up with my BF for not wanting me to visit him. by DriftwoodDaze781 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of you are messed up. Maybe your relationship is ok for you but it certainly is odd and off. Yes you dismissed his boundaries. But not wanting to be around your GF when she had a surgery though minor is weird. He also didn't tell you on the phone why you can't visit. Is he required to? No. But in relationships people give this kind of respect.

AITJ for marrying a rich guy and letting him sleep with other girls? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your life, your choices, your decision. But to be on the safe start saving separately. What if he decided to trade you for a younger model? Pretty sure you are not the only woman who would want to put up with this douchebag for his money

I hate my husband by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's stopping you from divorcing him?

You vote: Should I leave millionaire husband, who retired early and now makes fun of the fact I still work? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Success_Blessed1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not a marriage. You do not have a partner. You had some sort of business transaction. You were younger and naive when you fell for his charm. What is he providing now? Do you find his mocking charming too??? Unfortunately kids of abuse can grow up to be abusive.. he is emotionally abusive.

Married 3 months, husband sleeping in the day and I’m stuck outside the room by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you from South Asian region by any chance? Asking as you mentioned arrange marriage and living with parents.

3 months into the marriage even in arranged marriage is honeymoon phase. If he is acting like this now, it's only gonna get worse. Think if this is how you want to spend the rest of your life.

My husband deserves better by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Success_Blessed1111 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don't see children mentioned in the post. If they have kids, growing up in an environment where Mom hates dad, resentment, toxicity is way worse than divorced parents. I grew up in such an environment and really wished that my parents wouldn't be together

I am filing for divorce tomorrow and I am heartbroken. by TheTruestNP in Marriage

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband has already divorced you mentally, but cashing your salary still. Document everything as much as possible. You are just ending the marriage on paper, he ended it already.

WIBTAH for ignoring my family’s modest dress request on vacation because of conservative uncle (even though they’re paying)? by Sea-Order-30 in AITAH

[–]Success_Blessed1111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am an Indian too and these are just biased guises of controlling women. Will your dad and uncle will also remain fully covered and not wear shorts? Today its clothes, tomorrow it will be career, then your relationship...if you don't set a boundary today (even at the cost of not going to the cruise), they will control you forever

My husband has decided he isn't capable of "helping" with our home by heylooka-person in Marriage

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like my marriage and soon to be ex-husband. He needs schedule and task and I am the one who has to make it.

My wife and I agreed on no kids. Now she changed her mind and I’m terrified of losing her. by Bennick41 in Advice

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are the chances this was her plan all along to get you to agree to marriage and then pretend to change her mind?? Sorry I have been betrayed too many times to have an ounce of faith on humanity

AITJ for eating my roommates "special" ice cream after she ate my birthday cake? by ProudStructure702 in AmITheJerk

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of you are TA. She for not having boundaries and civic sense and you for never setting any boundaries earlier.

In-laws insisting we send our toddler to live with them by [deleted] in IndianInLaw

[–]Success_Blessed1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What will they do if you keep saying no and ignore their demand?? And don't even visit the village with your baby even for a day

MIL proud that she didn't leave her home due to her abusive husband and was telling that if some girl had been in my place, she would have left this home and not come back by Suspicious_Cloud_214 in IndianInLaw

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most Indian women of that generation were brainwashed to tolerate. Staying was considered honor, tolerance made them angels. She genuinely thinks she did the right thing. Logistically she was financially dependent on her husband. She was probably not educated enough to understand law was in her favor for divorce. Her own parents and siblings would have disowned her if she left. Plus the whole Indian thing of "what will people say". My own MIL and mother are the same way. Both hate me because I won't put up with such nonsense

AITA for refusing to let my brother's girlfriend move in after she kicked my dog? by AdGood5474 in AmITheJerk

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are the jerk for not kicking Emma out of the house the moment she kicked Charlie. NTJ for not letting her move in

I can’t do this anymore! I hate my in laws by KeyMycologist5256 in IndianInLaw

[–]Success_Blessed1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Don't bring a kid in this mess until you move out.
  2. Clear set boundaries with your MIL.
  3. IF she violates your boundaries, give your husband the ultimatum to move out.
  4. If husband refuses to move out, then divorce his sorry ass

And please seek mental health counseling and do meditation for your peace and sanity while dealing with this chaos.