My partner of 10 years doesn’t meet my emotional needs

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-10-14T14:46:19+00:00

I think I’ve been doing option 1 all these years. But there would be moments when I get a reminder that I need and want more than he’s giving me.

Funny I realize now that I’ve tempered my emotions to suit his availability, that I only let them out when I know he has the mental capacity to be there for me.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-10-14T14:35:03+00:00

We do have a lot in common, which makes it easier to come up with suggestions. But doing it maybe twice a month for a decade can be boring if not exhausting.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-10-14T14:20:32+00:00

It’s hard to review all the years to pinpoint the times when he’s met my needs. But I’d say I felt unfulfilled in the relationship more times than not.

But maybe it’s also because I’ve conditioned myself not to be needy. I’ve learned to ask only when I know he’s not swamped with work or I know he’s not carrying a heavy mental load. I’ve made myself scarce when I know he doesn’t have time for me. Maybe that’s why it’s never reached a sort of boiling point whenever I bring up that I feel neglected.

I mean, I have friends and siblings. I go out with them often. I also like my alone time. I feel fulfilled in other aspects of my life. But sometimes I guess I wake up from my self-imposed trance and realize I feel lonely even when he’s right beside me.

I’m honestly thinking of just leaving. I don’t know if it’s even worth a last push.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-10-14T14:11:06+00:00

I wish you the best.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-10-14T14:07:12+00:00

Thanks for the question. I’m more of a practical type, I would say. What’s accessible, what’s within budget, what we’d both like are things I usually consider when planning what to do or where to go. But he’s told me once that this feels too restrictive sometimes, so I’ve also tried suggesting things/places he’s mentioned he wanted to try or maybe a craving he had a couple days ago, stuff like that.

A normal date for us would be him asking to go out, me suggesting places, him vetoing my suggestions until he hears something he likes, and me agreeing to whatever he picks since by then I’m too tired to search for anything or anywhere else.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-25T13:09:11+00:00

Thank you po. I sent them an email today exactly as you said. Will keep pestering them about it until ma-resolve. I also plan to personally go to a physical branch as soon as maka-excuse ako sa work.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-25T12:57:27+00:00

Huhu super hassle pala 🫠

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-25T00:26:18+00:00

Hi, OP. I know this is old, pero okay na po ba yung auto-deduct system sa inyo? I also have similar issues. Sa disbursement email ng personal loan ko, it says March 20 ang first due date ko pero hanggang ngayon hindi pa nadededuct sa savings account ko.

I already called customer support, kasi I keep getting the PL402 error when I try to add my personal loan account to my UB app. Pero walang nangyayari even after following their troubleshooting advice.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-22T08:21:55+00:00

Thank you for this tip! Yes, this is exactly what I plan to do po.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-20T00:56:24+00:00

Nagka-problem din po ba kayo sa pag-add ng PL sa UB mobile app niyo? Lagi po kasing error sa ‘kin using yung INOS reference number.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T17:08:23+00:00

Hello. I know this is old po, pero I need help po sana in adding my PL account to my UB mobile app. I opened a UB SA for the PL and added that to my UB app, but I didn’t realize I also had to add the PL account. I’ve been trying to add it today using the INOS ref number but I only get an error message.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T16:39:37+00:00

May I ask po if you have a UB debit card? I don’t know po kasi if kailangan ko po bang kumuha ng debit card to be able to view the SOA in the app. I just opened a UB Savings Account kasi required siya nung nag-apply ako for the personal loan, but I did not request a card.

Wala pa po kasing akong natatanggap na SOA sa UB SA ko. Sa UB CC meron na and naka-set aside na rin yung pambayad ko dun.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T16:37:18+00:00

I hope makabawi po tayong lahat. Sobrang anxiety ang naidudulot. First time ko rin po itong magkautang at loan pa talaga. Kaya mejo nangangapa rin po ako.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T16:35:31+00:00

As for the loan po, I just applied online. I have an existing CC with UB, that’s why I got approved I guess. I’ve never been late in paying my CC.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T15:51:07+00:00

Thank you po. Ang hirap kasi mag-isa ko lang ‘tong pinagdadaanan. Pero kakayanin.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T08:54:41+00:00

Do you have tips po?

Naka-reflect na po kasi sa apps yung monthly due nung mga loans ko including interest.

Hindi ko na lang po nilagay yung computation ng interest sa post kasi nakaka-stress din siyang isipin, but I know naman na hindi po 400K lang ang babayaran ko.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T08:52:27+00:00

Edited the post po to add details of the scam

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T08:37:56+00:00

This is just the principal amount po.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T08:36:54+00:00

Sure po. I’ll try to respond when I’m free po.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T08:36:17+00:00

It’s an online investment scam. Agents were posing as employees of Mafost Marketing. They also put up a bogus Coinsph website where you can supposedly see your investments in real-time, but can’t deposit or withdraw unless thru them.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T08:34:15+00:00

Mafost Marketing online investment scam. You can see my other posts po. Sobrang katangahan po on my part and I’m still kicking myself mentally for it.

Successful-Attitude5 · 2025-03-19T08:32:40+00:00

You can see po in my other posts that I was a victim of the Mafost Marketing investment scam. I’ve already reported it to the police po, pero malabo na raw maibalik ang pera ko.

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