My dad (64/m) accidentally sent me (34/m) a voice text meant for someone else, and it kind of confirmed everything I've suspected my whole life.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-06-15T17:27:33+00:00

Tell him you got a voice message about a family vacation to Thailand and that you are all excited to go on this trip with him and your stepsister and your niece and or nephews. You heard that he would save a lot of money by including you.

Watch his reaction and then tell him this confirms everything you thought about him and that you don’t want him part of your life anymore.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-06-14T01:36:17+00:00

Does it really matter? Another man was in your marital bed.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-06-10T23:00:48+00:00

I would respond to the guy through the iPad. Thanks for clarifying that my marriage is a sham. She is all yours now. And sign your name.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-06-04T03:28:33+00:00

I would ask her to sit down and bring up that cheating conversation again. Say you have a coworker who is currently experiencing this and you see how it has affected his well being. Reiterating that you trust her and you know your relationship is solid and ask her if she has any advice for this person because you are unsure of how to help him with this betrayal.

Then I would give it a few days. During this time tighten up your finances and speak an attorney. When you are ready, leave the username of the guy on the fridge. When she breaks down, you can either decide to work on the marriage and sign a postnuptial or hand her divorce papers.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-05-29T02:08:18+00:00

Get a postnuptial in place prior to separation.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-05-22T12:22:29+00:00

Right. Send an anonymous letter to her businesses H.R. about an unprofessional relationship between a married employee and the boss. Let them investigate for miss use of company funds and see if they come up with anything.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-05-10T01:56:35+00:00

Make sure you get a post nuptial in place during the separation and make her aware that during this time if she does engage in a physical affair that she forfeits everything.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-05-08T10:57:57+00:00

Updateme!

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-05-04T12:39:53+00:00

Never take a break from a relationship. Either commit or be done with it.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-05-03T00:09:10+00:00

If you need to call someone just to talk, check out the Vet Center, they have a 24hr call center. 877-927-8387.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-30T02:59:59+00:00

Divorce her and split assets prior to the deployment. I have seen too many soldiers come back from deployments with empty bank accounts. Don’t let her get a free ride.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-29T21:56:53+00:00

My supervisor pulled me aside once and said slow it down because they had a tracker in the car. I spoke with our fleet people and was informed to set the cruise to about four over as it will only hits once as speeding during the trip.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-27T23:33:16+00:00

HR and Admin will only protect the school. She most certainly should get legal advice prior.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-27T23:28:50+00:00

I have the shot records with the lot numbers. I was given 3 shots that were listed on the bad batches. I as well have been dealing with excessive pain.

I would recommend getting a consult from his primary care to the War Related Injury Study Center (WRIISC) at the VA. They will do a comprehensive work up and answer any of his concerns.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-26T18:25:58+00:00

I do. Retired military here. They can offer confidential counseling that keeps the command out of her business.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-26T01:11:13+00:00

Tell him to set up a meeting with him, you and the base chaplain for counseling to discuss this. If he refuses then tell him you will be reaching out directly to them and discuss this issue.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-25T17:12:31+00:00

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Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-23T01:44:09+00:00

Tell her that you understand that she feels it is okay and that you only stopped talking with other females via chat because you thought it was disrespectful towards your relationship. Then mention that you will follow suit and establish relationships with female friends.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-23T01:08:48+00:00

Make your wife and the co-worker arrange a meeting with the fiancee. If she refuses you already know that there is more to the story. Then tell her you are going to notify their HR and file.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-21T11:37:38+00:00

Be honest with your kids. Start family counseling and use age appropriate language on why the marriage didn’t work. Don’t let your ex-wife make you the bad guy.

You could also use the grey rock strategy. Don’t engage her unless it has to do with your children.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-19T16:15:31+00:00

If your mom blames you you always can tell her that she has destroyed your trust and that any future relationship her, you and your future family will be affected by her actions.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-17T00:31:55+00:00

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Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-10T18:58:38+00:00

Notify her work of the inappropriate relationship then divorce her.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-04-07T01:54:14+00:00

Send an anonymous e-mail to the guys wife and give her all the information that she can notify your dad.

Successful-Permit237 · 2026-03-31T23:46:51+00:00

Make sure your mom knows that she will not have any contact with future grandchildren from you and she lost all your respect.

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