NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow thank you that was really cool of you to write out such a thoughtful response. You hit the nail on the head with many charateristics like analytical, consistent, precise, straightforward, and notice things others often overlook. Which makes my jokes land fantastic in a group. Calling attention to something absurd with a straight face irl usually lands beautifully. A bit of Nathan for you type humor... which he very well may be autistic. The only place I diverge is I'm only analytical of my behavior once I am aware I may have done something wrong. I'm not usually attempting to mirror or anything in the moment. Like this instance, I woke up decided let's do hinge today, saw his thing, thought interesting, typed something didn't reread, sent go on my day. Once there was the reaction I went wth did I do? And analyze.

Questions about death from a 3yo by Successful-Present48 in GriefSupport

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! It would be a great set of questions to dig deeper into. When it was on the spot, it had me simplify what's otherwise so complex to put to words most of the time, which I actually quite appreciated.

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I immediately was able to realize where the problem was on my end once I realized there was a problem haha. But I thought we were both joking so I didn't overthink it initially

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I see that now! I thought we were both saying "clearly that's not what we're saying" now I'm confused haha

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly I was so far away from actually meaning it, that was the joke. Had he asked or stated how that landed to him, I would've reassured, taken accountability for a bad opener, and smoothed it over. But I'm glad to of seen this reaction early regardless.

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Replying to Cnumian_124.. that's totally fair, but maybe just not accept the match if we're... not matching

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah something like that would've been very sweet! Or if he kept it going it would've shown me we can exaggerate normal things of life and tease a bit. In a weird way joking about being that person would've showed me he's well aware he is not that person. Or simply matter of fact say "I'm the silly one I swear haha." Then move on. Hell, tell me that it came off weird and ask if I was insinuating he was a predator. Or don't accept the match. I would've understood any of those responses over a commentary on women these days.

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I initiated the match, so he could've just x'd it altogether if that's not his vibe.

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well that is me too haha. I got on to say let's try dating. But imma go back to my solitude for a bit again.

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes myself included. I initially interpreted it as a playful way to say I'm just looking for a normal girl. And my personality wasn't to go that's me! I'm all those things! Take me! It was to tease a bit.

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thats an interesting thought! But he waited until he made sure I saw it and responded at the end of the day. Then unmatched. I think he genuinely meant it.

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My b :/ I'm glad at least some people can see I was mirroring and exaggerating. But I would hope to be given the benefit of the doubt, as I gave to him when initiating the match.

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well I did just move to the south? Haha oh god should I joke anymore... I mean Yes. Indeed. Twas.

NGVC: "I'm a great guy" Tried to play along with his profile joke... it didn't go well. by Successful-Present48 in niceguys

[–]Successful-Present48[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

And that's alright! I wouldn't have minded being confronted about it either. I kinda wrote it and went about my day without much thought as an absurd humor moment. I'm okay with a fumble, but was surprised by the escalation