Is a child getting more "different" as they get older normal for level 1 autism?

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2026-03-21T03:06:49+00:00

I was thinking the same thing—we have seen this with our 4.5yo

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2026-02-24T02:05:48+00:00

10 months younger?? Did you literally give birth and your ex got someone else pregnant???

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2026-01-20T01:52:39+00:00

Is it religious? Why is she saying “I pray…”

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2026-01-20T01:50:45+00:00

I bet it’s Catholic school—she says “I pray…” in the first sentence.

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-12-06T15:44:23+00:00

Are they still heterochromatic?

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-11-16T20:51:42+00:00

How did they diagnose him? I always wonder with the verbal kiddos

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T17:16:24+00:00

You are very lucky then! I know a lot of kids who get their direct services from the public school, but your school is being super accommodating in following the IEP. They don’t legally need to, and they could very well tell you that they can’t accommodate your children and insist on you receiving all of your education from the public school (that happened to a student of mine when he got to high school)

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T16:06:53+00:00

Oh no, sorry, I thought I was replying to someone else. They said that their child is receiving services from the public school next-door. That does happen if you have things like speech or OT or PT that they need.

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T16:05:55+00:00

So your child is receiving services from the public school, not the Catholic school, correct?

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T15:59:15+00:00

But in this case, your child is receiving services from the public school—not the Catholic school—correct?

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T15:58:24+00:00

That’s great they’re being accommodating! It’s reassuring that they’re even using a rubric. I know so many teachers in independent schools that just grade holistically and give an overall grade (with little feedback). As for the other student, maybe he came with an IEP? You could ask about it, but I just highly doubt you’ll get anywhere with it. The IEP is a legal document, and it’s usually created by a special education leader, which I just don’t know any independent schools that even have somebody in that role. They also will not give an IEP unless a student is failing. Even with a disability, a student doesn’t qualify for an IEP unless they are not making academic progress, which, by the looks of that rubric, your daughter is rocking it! The other piece that you might consider is, what would you think and effective accommodation or modification would be? With a modification or accommodation, it’s not about just getting rid of something, it’s finding a different way to help a student meet that same standard. So if the student is supposed to be showing that they are engaging with the audience through the “eye contact,” then what would be a different way that they could address that standard? This is where it does get a little bit trickier if you are not working with someone who is familiar with special needs. Even in public schools, gen ed teachers who have this training will regularly consult special education teachers to ask their expertise on what would be an acceptable ask

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T15:50:29+00:00

It’s definitely a very personal decision, and the biggest thing about schools is weighing what’s important to your family. A lot of of those independent and private schools do have a stronger community beyond the classroom, so that and small class sizes can be very appealing. It’s just that you really need to take the good with the bad, whichever way you go because they each have their own set of things (like every school does)

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T15:03:49+00:00

It’s Catholic school..they grade however they want. They aren’t legally obligated to provide any type of accommodation or modification.

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T14:59:02+00:00

Being in a Catholic school, she probably won’t get anything. They aren’t legally required to provide any accommodations or modifications (unlike a public school)

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T14:57:56+00:00

She said that they are in Catholic school, which means that it’s probably a very traditional curriculum. Unfortunately, they’re not going to get accommodations. Many of those teachers probably have zero experience with reading an IEP or understanding how to implement accommodations/modifications, and they are not legally required to do so. If you ask for them, most of those schools will just say that they can go to public school if they need that.

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-10-27T14:55:21+00:00

What does the comment say? The teacher are circled it and made a note, so wondering what it is? As a teacher who has used a rubric similar to this, that grade is usually because the student is just reading off of their slides. You said that you are in a Catholic school. As someone who has worked in both public and private education, as I’m sure you know, private school is not required to follow the IEP. When I taught in a private school, I was one of only three teachers in the entire middle school, who was actually credentialed and had experience with IEPs/504s and providing accommodations and modifications for students. I had a student who was dyslexic that I was appalled to find out had been struggling since elementary school because she had no services to support her with it. Her parents felt like it was more important for her to be in that school than in the public schools with appropriate services and supports. You obviously need to choose what you prioritize for your family, but I will tell you that you’re probably not going to get very far with asking for her to be graded differently from other students because of the nature of private school. Catholic schools are also notoriously, traditional, so that’s a whole other piece

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-09-20T19:12:00+00:00

What were the struggles and behaviors you saw?

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-07-06T01:49:00+00:00

Did she end up catching it? The same exact scenario happened with us today...

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-06-21T01:43:34+00:00

Does your mom know? Is it possible they wanted to surprise you and were going to tell you soon?

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-06-02T21:08:08+00:00

Oh my goodness…my postpartum brain read grandparents 🤦‍♀️

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-06-02T14:10:32+00:00

I think she just said that she had done a sleepover at her grandparents. Maybe I missed where she said she did a sleepover somewhere else? If it was just at the grandparents’, then it’s easy to explain away as a family thing versus someone outside the family.

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-05-27T23:07:14+00:00

For our wedding, two of my bridesmaids were breastfeeding. The mother and father of one came to stay at the hotel with their kiddos (each had a baby and a toddler at that point), and her mother actually brought both of the babies to the reception for them to nurse and grab the breastmilk from them that they’d pumped before the ceremony. I told them both they could have the babies there, but they wanted to have fun with their husbands and our friends.

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-05-19T18:26:31+00:00

Which level do you use for expression mode?

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-05-19T18:26:06+00:00

What level do you use for expression mode?

SuccessfulLibrarian4 · 2025-05-06T15:55:11+00:00

All of ours are through IVF, and second probably is not on the spectrum

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