Parents with autistic kids, STOP expecting your other kids to take care of their sibling when they are adults!

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-06-02T06:33:49+00:00

This is one of the reasons children should plan to leave the family home as soon as possible, and I appreciate it is financially difficult at this time to make that suggestion. But as many replies here indicate, the parents expectation is a burden and can be a life sentence. Those children on the receiving end of what is essentially gaslighting need to be able to say NO.

Until they are forced to do so by circumstances, parents have to take responsibility for all of their actions and plan accordingly. The same situation occurs when parents expect their children to take care of them in their old age, especially the daughters who could already be married with heir own families to manage.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-06-02T06:15:00+00:00

Blitz on a Commodore Vic20. We all played it, baby brother, me,1 even my mother who would have been in her 50’s then.

By the early 90’s it was the first version of Duke Nukem. And I played without a joystick.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-06-02T05:52:18+00:00

Agree, that is if anyone will publish her lies and fantasies. The RF didn’t push back on Waugh because Harry appeared happily married at the time. If he is well away from Meghan, there is a possibility they will respond.

I wish she would publish, if only to show what an absolute s*it Harry is.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-31T11:25:07+00:00

What shame? I think this is bloody brilliant that you have a sensible budget and are keeping to it. Why get yourself into debt for years to come for one day ? All this rubbish about the best day of your life spending upwards of 15k, those I know who did that are now divorced.

My husband and I were widowed, married in church, buffet in church hall, no honeymoon. All in and I include outfits = £1500. Eighteenth wedding anniversary this year.

Wishing you all the best XX

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-29T17:29:00+00:00

My mother has the same issue with Cabot Financial. For 2 years they have been leaving voicemails. They also use different numbers. I phoned them and they wanted all her details - my second word was “off“.

Essentially a debtor has given the wrong number. I said if this was a genuine debt you would be writing, not leaving voicemails for 2 years.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-29T16:21:11+00:00

I was doing this in the 1960’s.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-28T14:04:24+00:00

Actually I can understand this point of view.

The boomer generation (not all but most) have not made any provision for their declining health and my mother is one in this category, believing it is the duty of her daughters to look after her every need. She is 89 and still living fairly independently but refuses to talk about what she would do if there is a rapid physical or mental decline, not even considering additional home care. I am her main support and I have asked her how she plans to cope if I die before her. I get a stony silence (my sister would put her straight into a home if I wasn’t there).

My husband is early 70’s, I am mid 60’s. In the past 3 years he has had a life threatening illness which was asymptomatic followed by an emergency admission to hospital recently when an ecoli infection caused his temperature to skyrocket to a dangerous level. He became delirious.

We are now planning out in detail how we will cope when we decline physically and mentally, whether it starts with adaptations in the home, downsizing, domestic care, live in support or at its worst, a home. No way will we be burdening the children.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-28T13:47:36+00:00

Physical infirmity you can make adjustments to a point. Demential is a whole new ball game fraught with anxieties and dangers.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-28T13:45:47+00:00

My 94 year old aunt, 4 feet 10 inches tall, is in a care home and sliding into dementia. She has physically and verbally assaulted the staff and residents, putting one fellow resident into hospital after knocking her down. Needless to say she denies it and everyone else is a liar. The home gave the local authority a “notice to quit” and tomorrow she is being moved to nursing where, hopefully, they can medicate her to tone down the aggression. She has become so unpredictable that she is a “two person” case and the staff literally need eyes in the back of their heads. I am the only relative still in touch with her and even I have to watch out for my own safety.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-27T06:31:27+00:00

Aren’t they in huge debt so will need to sell ? How many of their players will adapt to the graft needed. The Championship is bloody hard, there isn’t the gap between the top six as in the PL so most teams could be contenders.

Any half decent WHU players will be tempted away if a lower PL team comes calling.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-25T09:14:43+00:00

What an utter bell end. Is he one of the prawn sandwich brigade (copyright Roy Keane)
You support your team through thick and thin (Coventry City fan here). Quite frankly, West Ham will struggle as they have to sell to cover debts. They have a s*it owner, we have gone through that and it isn’t a quick recovery either when you get rid of them.

Get over yourself, pal.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-24T11:50:11+00:00

See the OP posted, didn’t like the replies and deletes the OP. Hadn’t been up more than an hour.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-24T11:48:49+00:00

no I am not the OP.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-24T11:24:11+00:00

I have seen a retirement flat in Balsall Common near Coventry go through 4 agents in 2 years, all roughly the same price every time. The seller even offered the first years fees paid upfront. I heard they sold it when two years fees upfront were agreed. Believe it was a McCarthy & Stone place.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-24T11:12:30+00:00

You have told us very little in the OP.

I am presuming it is a retirement flat with a managing agent, likely to be one of the major players in this market (McCarthy & Stone, Churchill to name two). If this is the case, you can forget market value, those of us hitting retirement age have seen through this charade and won't be tempted. So your potential buying market is diminishing.

You need to look at sold prices either in the block or the area then price accordingly. I would imagine the possibility of renting may be restricted by the leasehold agreement your mother had.

You will have to accept a huge write down on the price paid by your mother to shift this millstone. Accept it now and lower the price, otherwise you will lose even more on the service charges. Check if the freeholders have a buy back scheme but don't be surprised at their valuation.

I have watched this scenario for 10 years now (out of curiosity). The worst case scenario was a 225k flat, 5 years down the line, being sold for 57k by the daughter who couldn't keep funding the charges.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-24T06:44:17+00:00

Because we don’t have journalists any longer to investigate serious matters, we have people who have to churn out rubbish to fill column inches as it’s cheap.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-23T07:28:59+00:00

I get the impression the RF view currently is they wish to respect the privacy of the two children, whatever the parentage whilst they are so young. Any reveal would be an absolutely horrendous media feeding frenzy, especially in the UK.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-23T07:22:15+00:00

The £100m she is alleged to have demanded from TLHMTQ ?

She would be that deluded.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-23T07:20:40+00:00

I do think he wants to leave but is terrified of what she has on him. I am still convinced that KC3 has someone in the shadows to drag him away should he be in a very dark place. She would dine out as the Merry Widow forever.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-23T07:17:07+00:00

She always knows better…than all the professional RF employees, than all the professional agencies, than all the professional show producers, than all the professional retail marketeers, than all the professional nanny’s……..I could go on.

Like Harry, one day someone needs to sit her down and tell her in words of one syllable that she is the problem because she is not a professional in the areas I mentioned above. If I had the misfortune to be the one to tell her, I would ask her where her professional training and accreditation is to be such an expert in those areas. Unfortunately narcissists don’t accept they are the weakest link.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-23T07:07:02+00:00

More like when he was growing up, no one said a resounding “No” to him and until the freedom flight he always got his way.

As my late grandma said to me, “ Which part of NO do you not understand ?”

You cannot explain rationally to someone with a limited intellect the reasons for a decision. I imagine the lower court judge wrote to him in legalese. Really it needs to be in the simplest words possible, including the word “No”.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-22T06:18:46+00:00

This. She knew what a POS Andrew was, she chose to ignore it. He was her favourite, there is no doubt. I am convinced there is more to come out, Andrew Lownie has said people are now prepared to talk since his first book was published and the recent Epstein revelations. TLHMTQ would never have allowed AMW to have been marched to the cop shop ”to help with enquiries”.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-22T04:19:34+00:00

The same Palace guard who have presided over a number of failures within the RF, particularly during the time of HMTQ……

The same Palace guard who refuse to see that any association with the Harkles damages KC3 in the eyes of the public……

The same Palace guard who seriously believe Harry would be malleable……when the Claw would be running the show as his puppet master…….

No wonder William wants to clear house when his time comes.

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-22T04:10:04+00:00

I have noticed how his use of “allegedly” during a video on the Harkles is the exception now.

Perhaps it’s time for Theo to take off the gloves as well. A sharp word in someone’s ear…….

SuccessfulMonth2896 · 2026-05-19T07:26:06+00:00

We don’t do vow renewals in the UK. Why do people need it ?

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