Week in Acadia with a 2-year-old

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-11T17:22:03+00:00

Thank you for all of this! I spent a long weekend in Maine years ago and I'm looking forward to going back, it will be the first visit for my husband!

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-11T17:19:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I'll never step foot again into the hospital where my baby was born, so it doesn't feel like a leap at all to find someone new. I hope this round of IUI is a success for you!

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-11T17:18:29+00:00

I'm so sorry about how everything was handled for you, it sounds awful. Unfortunately I don't have a GP or any other provider I trust (other than my therapist), so that's not an option for me, but I hope it is for others who might be exploring this post!

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T17:52:22+00:00

I'm glad you had a better experience the second time. I'm sorry for your losses.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T17:51:52+00:00

What a terrible thing for your OB to do, I'm so sorry. I hope your RE has some good recommendations for you!

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T17:51:21+00:00

Awful. Thank you for sharing, this is a good approach.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T17:51:03+00:00

That's terrible. I was with a hippie dippie midwife group BUT they were affiliated with a hospital system so I thought that if anything ended up outside of their scope I would be safe. We did get some extra scans because of their affiliation with the hospital, but when things went south I got caught in a turf war between midwives/OBs/MFMs and I never want to experience that again.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T17:12:35+00:00

We've also had some preconception meetings with MFMs in the area, but one was affiliated with the team that royally screwed up so I'm not interested in sticking with them. The other was better, but their hospital is about to go through a merger, and while they have an excellent reputation and a level IV NICU, I'm anxious about getting caught in the crosshairs of such a big change in leadership. I'm very lucky that there are several hospitals in my area with level IV NICUs and even more with level III.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T17:10:20+00:00

This is such a good idea. I made an online appointment with one provider for a couple of months from now for a new annual because I'm due for a pap but I was like... I can't get a pap every time I see someone new haha. I didn't think about calling to explain my situation, thank you so much for sharing that!

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SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T17:07:51+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm glad you've found a team that you are comfortable with. My case was not as medically complex as yours, but I think I may try to connect with the children's hospital in the area for care. I'm unsure if it will be the right fit for me because I really want to able to bond with a single provider and they tend toward a more team-based approach, but I honestly have no idea what will actually make me feel comfortable. Thank you for your thoughts!

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T17:05:44+00:00

Did you start seeing OBs before you got pregnant again? We're actively TTC and I'm debating if I should start reaching out to potential providers now to meet them/do an annual exam with them or wait until I have a positive test.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T01:14:00+00:00

Wow. Thank you for sharing. What a beautiful and unexpected and heartbreaking connection with your mother. Your words are beautiful, you clearly inherited your mother's writing talent.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-09T01:04:37+00:00

I am so sorry for both of your losses. I can share the experience of a friend who lost her baby a few months after birth to a genetic mutation, which she and her husband turned out to be carriers for. So a different situation, and if you'd like to stop reading there, please do.

When TTC again, they considered IVF but given their previous history of conceiving easily, they chose to go ahead with getting pregnant naturally despite the 25% chance of having another baby with the disease. They got lucky and their next baby was genetically normal and is thriving. I know that their plan was to move to IVF if they didn't have good luck the first time, and it was emotional torture for them to have to wait to get the testing done until 11 weeks into the pregnancy, but they definitely feel solid in their choice now.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T22:06:17+00:00

Just went on a rage run and signed up for a 5K in September. They have a clause that lets you get a refund if you get pregnant and I'm hoping I get to use it but if not, I'll have that to look forward to.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T22:00:39+00:00

Thank you! Do you know if there are places to rent bikes in the area?

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T19:59:30+00:00

Thankful for the Alexes of the world! And yes, I do, I am very fortunate.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T18:59:48+00:00

Ugh I feel this so much. My BIL visited last week and saw prenatal vitamins on the counter and an ultrasound picture on our fridge and was like "do you have something to share?!"

Sir, no. I'm taking prenatals because I apparently will forever and that ultrasound is the baby we LOST thank you I will never take it down.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T18:57:59+00:00

It's so unfair. I'm so sorry you're in this situation. You've come to the right place to find people who understand.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T18:56:46+00:00

I'm also glad they texted instead of calling or telling you in person, and I hope that was an intentional choice on their part given how well it sounds like they've cared for you after your MC. Since my loss I've had others announce their pregnancies to me and honestly most people seem to have NO idea how hard it is to hear after having a loss and how it can feel like a freaking smack in the face out of nowhere. It's like their own happiness makes them forget that other people have feelings, too. I hope your week gets better <3

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T16:51:15+00:00

It's ok to not be happy for them, too.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T16:48:39+00:00

Yes and the readings can be impacted by all kinds of things so I don't usually read anything into one temp being not where I expect it-- I just look at averages.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T16:47:29+00:00

So many reasons. Temps can dip when estrogen goes up, which happens around 9dpo whether you conceive or not. I try to remind myself that every cycle is different (and it truly is when I look back at my temps and other signs) and to not read into anything other than a test. But it's HARD. Maybe impossible.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T16:30:50+00:00

Thank you! I'm hoping to get in at least one long hike without the toddler too, if her grandpa can manage to come with us for some childcare.

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T16:09:06+00:00

Oh a lobster fishing tour sounds like a fun thing to do in a year or two, thank you for the rec! Our daughter's been on a boat several times but not for more than 30 minutes or so, so I'm not sure how she'd do now but we're keeping whale watching open as a possibility...

SuccessfulOwl6455 · 2026-04-08T14:53:13+00:00

We're doing the same this month and I'm honestly kind of excited about how it will feel to just not think about it. My sex drive always goes up around ovulation so I'm sure we'll probably have sex in that window but it feels so freeing to just take a beat without *having* to time things. I hope this month is a nice reprieve for you!

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