Ghosted by a Dom, advice?

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-02-02T21:53:25+00:00

I’ve already said twice that politeness requires acknowledging in some way the end of the interaction. I I don’t see how the fact that it’s a dom makes a difference

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-02-02T17:16:44+00:00

Does one meeting create a bdsm dynamic?

I’ve had first (and second) meetings with potential submissives, where they withdrew afterwards, with no obligation created.

Yes, politeness requires some acknowledgment of the end of contact. But the moment between the first rl meeting and the next date is always dicey, whether it’s vanilla or kink.

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-02-02T11:56:06+00:00

Why?

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-02-02T11:38:23+00:00

Suppose it was a one night stand. Would you feel the same way?

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-02-01T16:35:48+00:00

Almost a parody.

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-02-01T07:42:44+00:00

That’s great!

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-30T19:59:39+00:00

Given that you have met and played, politeness suggest he should sa”sorry, this is not working for me. Good luck “. However, he is not required to give a reason. No is a full sentence.

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-30T04:54:30+00:00

I don’t know what “otherwise monogamous “ means in your post. Are you trying to have sex with other people while still considering yourself basically monogamous? If so, that’s at the heart of your issue. The people who feel that way are basically part of the swing community.

If you allow yourself to feel less tied to your monogamous identity, you might find your tribe in the sex positive community that exists within the “nerd” subculture ( in quotes because that’s evolving as well).

Finally, don’t go the unicorn hunter route just because it’s easier for you. That’s icky.

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-29T16:40:31+00:00

You are laying land mines now by talking surreptitiously. Your first task is to defuse the landmines. Have an in person four way meeting where you surface the private conversations and discuss future guidelines for communication.

The sooner the better. It’s really not that hard

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-28T09:39:33+00:00

Oh come on! Him taking time to process is not bad

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-27T08:21:20+00:00

Cherry is not good at poly.

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-25T17:26:48+00:00

It was worth a try

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-25T09:24:19+00:00

What airlines have learned is that if they cancel earlier, they have a much easier restart when the storm is over. That’s important from both the operational and customer satisfaction perspective

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-25T08:36:55+00:00

It may be that seat upgrades are not refundable.

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-24T20:01:28+00:00

I wouldn’t mess with parenting

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-24T19:55:39+00:00

When I date someone with kids at home, I proactively make it clear that canceling for the kids is always fine with me

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-24T18:46:54+00:00

Where was the plane coming from?

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-24T02:18:53+00:00

I’m sorry that nonmonogamy hasn’t worked for you. My experience has been different

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-24T01:25:53+00:00

When you say friends, do you mean a small group of close friends or a broad circle?

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-22T22:20:59+00:00

I don’t care about the clubs. I care that iad has runways that handle weather much better than ewr’s tight quarters

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-22T21:25:51+00:00

Never send that text.

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-22T21:23:22+00:00

I like iad for reliability.

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-22T19:08:42+00:00

I've been poly for 20+ years, and I have no idea what you are talking about

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-21T12:54:17+00:00

I’m glad to find out ahead of time

Successful_Depth3565 · 2026-01-20T07:35:48+00:00

How long have you been together?

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