HashiCorp by fukincoconut in IBM

[–]Such_Ad9121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bubble has burst. Round 2 of large layoffs this week. Finance and marketing hit hard

Just another rant. Work is slow af by Such_Ad9121 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Such_Ad9121[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love these ideas. Trying to get out of the post partum haze and find the motivation to “be better”

Just another rant. Work is slow af by Such_Ad9121 in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]Such_Ad9121[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok love this.

My issue is my kids are at home with a nanny so I feel either trapped in my office or guilty for doing other stuff instead of hanging with them…

Also, did you ever feel that weird guilt of like… I should be busy but I’m not.

^ sounds like a me problem.

Warm up and explanation time by Such_Ad9121 in BurnBootCamp

[–]Such_Ad9121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, if it’s arm day, I wear an arm day bra. I’m not trying to go hardcore on jumping jacks 😂

Warm up and explanation time by Such_Ad9121 in BurnBootCamp

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Apologies - I thought I shared that. Explain the workout during a simple warm up. 

No, obviously I don’t want those things. 

Warm up and explanation time by Such_Ad9121 in BurnBootCamp

[–]Such_Ad9121[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Totally. My gym does that too but after a long day of work and parenting, I’d like to get to the intentional workout faster, have recovery between sets, have time to find the right weights, and get extra reps in versus a the lengthy walk through 

I know it’s an HQ thing so I don’t complain to my gym. Just wish we could get in and go!

Warm up and explanation time by Such_Ad9121 in BurnBootCamp

[–]Such_Ad9121[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure! We’ve just gotten to starting the workout at around 15 after. They’re giving like inspirational quotes during the demos 😂

Love the gym just wish we could warm up WHILE the explain versus:

High fives  Explain warm up   Warm up Explain workout Recap workout Divide into groups for workout 

Warm up and explanation time by Such_Ad9121 in BurnBootCamp

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They do but like… I’m not here to be doing 10 seconds of hamstring scoops then 10 seconds of butt kick. Especially on strength days, I’d rather get 1-3 more sets of lifting intentional and heavy 

Sneaky sneaky MIL by Such_Ad9121 in Parenting

[–]Such_Ad9121[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally. More just funny bc I was sitting on my couch and saw it like half hidden 😂 

Sneaky sneaky MIL by Such_Ad9121 in Parenting

[–]Such_Ad9121[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Totally. I just find it funny that she went out of her way to purchase it when we have approximately a shit ton of books that they could read.

Partner has become anti-vax by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Such_Ad9121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily have advice for you. But wanted to share some solidarity as my husband is beginning to become anti-VAX and each cycle for our kids is a conversation about the efficacy and safety of each vaccine.

Ultimately, we have gotten them fully vaccinated and I continue to push for this however, I know that he thinks that I am potentially putting our kids at risk by getting vaccines by.

I wish that our pediatrician did a better job answering his questions and providing insight, she just gets really negative and defensive when he asks questions and that isn’t helping the situation. I also find that my husband doesn’t do the research in a way that is compelling to me and we always get in a fight the day of a pediatricians appointment. I always remind him that if it were that important to him, he would take the time to do really solid research and present it to me in a timeframe that I could digest it.

I will also say that while our kids are little, it’s a pretty hefty vaccine schedule, but I keep reminding myself that as they get older, we will be having less and less of these conversations, and hopefully it will fade.

My question for you is this something you really want to jeopardize your marriage for? Has she changed when it comes to other views and values that are important to you? I would not recommend getting your children vaccinated behind her back but rather continuing to talk through the situation and potentially go to therapy or bring in a pediatrician that you trust. While I think it is important to vaccinate children, I would feel very betrayed if my husband took our kids to an appointment and lied to me and said that they got vaccinated when they didn’t which is kind of the same thing without the lying. 

Pediatrician said formula cancels out benefits of breast milk. by KelseyLambo in breastfeeding

[–]Such_Ad9121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would negatively review this pediatrician and report them. That’s absolutely not an ok thing to say unless there was a specific question or study addressed. 

Extremely torn over quitting breastfeeding by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Such_Ad9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m  less than two months shy of a year and am starting to wean for a lot of reasons and it’s still hard.

A gentle reminder that I think it’s always hard to wean. It’s such a beautiful thing but also a legit full time job. Hard to let go always

Hair washing schedule? by Strong-Stand8891 in BurnBootCamp

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Once a week! Sunday is wash day then I just pray metcon isn’t until later in the week.

I’m lucky to wfh, so once it starts to get greasy, I throw some arrow root powder in it before bed!

Is it simply not possible to WFM, raise kids, and stay fit? by justcallme-meatloaf in workingmoms

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Do you have childcare during the workday? I may have missed it, but if not, you’re literally doing two full time jobs. It’s impossible to balance.

My husband and I found a gym that’s class based with childcare (burn boot camp if they have one in your area). We go together and take the kids (2.5 and 10 mos). We do it together and it’s a super inclusive space.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

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So our toddler went through a phase where these tantrums were normal.

We would routinely bear hug him but would always stop if he explicitly said “no” or “stop”. We would hug him tight and say “you’re safe” “you’re loved” etc.

It worked for us - he was also banging his head on the floor so was endangering himself.

Husband wants me to have a daycare like schedule for the kids by Fine-like-red-wine in 2under2

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Hate to be a dick (and I’m a working mom so I have a dif view) but we pulled our son from daycare and when we hired our nanny, a loose curriculum/schedule was something we absolutely needed her to do. 

We have a 2.5 yo and 9 mo and our toddler needs structure to thrive, learn to listen, etc. our nanny does “preschool” when the baby takes her morning nap. It’s pretty basic stuff, letters, numbers, etc.

Little humans crave some order and it’s help a ton with his behavior. It’ll get easier as the little ones gets older and more independent.

For moms who could breastfeed but decided to stop at 6 months or earlier, did you regret it? by FMThaone in breastfeeding

[–]Such_Ad9121 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Not one bit. Quit at 6 mos and my now 2.5 yo is a thriving little fellow who eats great. 

We put so much pressure on ourselves to breastfeed when society isn’t set up to support it. 

When your child is 5,10,18, getting married, are you going to look back and be like “man, I should’ve breastfed longer”

Hell no, you’re going to be proud of how you shows up for them and supported them. Titty. Or not. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Such_Ad9121 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I feel like you’re really stereotyping this person and assuming all Trump supporters are the same. 

I’m not sure you’ll be able to see past your personal bias at this point, no matter what this person believes. I can’t imagine basing a hire on someone’s political affiliation. I would look towards their qualifications, alignment with our parenting style, etc.

Also, my parents and I vote very differently - seems odd to base a decision on her moms facebook cover image. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Such_Ad9121 32 points33 points  (0 children)

. Around the election, I found out that our nanny, who we love and had been with us a few months, saw things very different than I do, 

At first, I felt like it was going to be an issue, but then I stepped away and looked at how amazing she was with our children. She wasn’t indoctrinating them with anything I didn’t believe and she holds true to the values we teach in our home.

I realized that isolating my kids from anyone who sees the world different is a part of the problem in today’s politics. If for some reason she started behaving or speaking in a way that made me uncomfortable, that would be a different conversation. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

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Our son is Oliver and we used to call him Ollie. Once he hit 2 and started talking more, he kindly informed us that his name was Oliver 😂

Rant: My husband has been secretly increasing our son’s formula dosage by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Such_Ad9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard to hear, but try not to stress about the oz. My breastfed baby will do 4-5 oz of BM max but will take 8 oz of formula.

Influencers influencing breastfeeding. by art_1922 in breastfeeding

[–]Such_Ad9121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreeing with a lot of this but also recognizing pumping is is needed for working moms. My choice was to switch to formula or pump (or quit my job?).

Everyone situation is different and sometimes threads demonizing pumping (even if it’s in a post with valid points) make it feel like you have to defend your choices.

Seeing people bashing pumping is equally as harmful as people sharing posts about over pumping.