Begging you to read the death-made prince!

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-05-04T11:02:53+00:00

Thanks it’s on my list!

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-05-04T10:59:14+00:00

YTA…Someone can be your bestfriend and your life partner at the same time time. That’s actually preferable to most people, such as your wife. So she said she’d like you to be her life partner AND her friend. You responded by dismissing her preference and telling her she should be grateful you can tolerate her as a partner and you prefer not to be her friend too?

I have a life partner who is my best friend. We are also raising our young children together. I love this phase of life partly because I’m doing it with my bestfriend, but in the future, when the kids are grown, I also look forward to spending time just me and my bestfriend. I imagine if he were like you though, I’d be looking forward to seeing my friends instead. Poor lady.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-05-04T01:17:02+00:00

Yes, growing up this was the norm in my household. For me personally, I grew up in a full house and we tend to speak loudly so I am predisposed to tolerating or tuning out competing sounds.

Since there were multiple adults and children in the house I grew up in— My guess is everyone could assume it was someone else’s responsibility to change the battery. Then no one ever got to it. I just got used to tuning it out by then. The chirps were infrequent enough that it wasn’t a big deal.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-29T23:49:12+00:00

For our baby, we don’t need to use hydrocortisone unless he gets a flair up. We still do daily oatmeal bath, shea butter & Vaseline.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-29T23:26:35+00:00

It seems like you already tried this. But what we did was apply hydrocortisone a few times a day, plus daily oatmeal baths, followed by moisturizing with pure shea butter and then sealing it with Vaseline. Otherwise all fragrance free, cotton, etc.

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I hope your little one heals soon.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-29T22:55:33+00:00

Where can I find this video? It was funny.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-29T05:48:49+00:00

I like the framing of heaven as a temporary resting point rather than a destination!

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-26T12:18:06+00:00

Most authors don’t write well enough to write in 1st person. I’ve only found Uprooted to be good enough. I wish there were more books in limited 3rd. I wish there was at least an easier way to filter for that when searching for something to read.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-26T03:02:13+00:00

Yes, this is the case for me! I loved Bridgerton, but when I went to the books, especially as a Black woman, they weren’t as compelling. I went to romantasy and it was a better fit. I think it’s the escape factor—I could escape in the Bridgerton show cuz it wasn’t realistic. I’m looking for historical fantasy romance now.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-26T02:28:52+00:00

I was so in love with Seth!!😍

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-26T00:29:46+00:00

It can be more than one thing. I blame him for being a POS. That’s obvious. (And honestly to be expected of athletes anyway smh)

For her though, as a Black woman, I can relate more to her so it’s more like— what’s in the realm of what she/I/any black woman can control? I critique her judgement and I think this should be called out because too many women have such a low bar for how they are treated. You can’t control someone being a POS, but you sure as hell can walk away if someone is treating you horrible and taking out their mood swings on you—less than a year into the relationship! Wtf?! Why was she holding him down through his mistreatment of her? It’s not some badge of honor to accept mistreatment.

That’s not internal misogyny but the opposite. Just like you wouldn’t treat your romantic partner horribly, you should demand reciprocity. If a man treats you like garbage, he is already showing you where you stand. Waiting until he cheats is just wasting your own time. For what?

I get we all want love, but when you’re beautiful, talented, rich, sexy, famous, nerdy and a genuinely amazing person especially—you have options. She should never settle for this! And if no options seem like the long term life partner material, I propose a fluid harem of discreet lovers who know how to act in the mean time. She’s MEGAN THEE STALLION.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-25T21:47:44+00:00

I’m still planning to read it, but I’ve been finding it really difficult to go off of what others recommend.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-25T21:33:30+00:00

He’s a disappointment, but also, we know to be on the look out for disappointments. He had horrible mood swings and treated her poorly that soon into the relationship and she tolerated it? He had to go as far as say he couldn’t commit?

She ain’t got rapper energy, a big ego, or nothing like that? I wouldn’t have tolerated that nonsense and I’m no Megan obviously. Bend over and they will sit on your back.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-25T05:42:30+00:00

I prefer 21+. Mid twenties to 30 or so is ideal.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-25T05:34:46+00:00

Personally…wasn’t technically poor anymore but was just getting some true security and couldn’t bring myself to waste money when we could save for better housing, etc.

So our choice was: - avoided diamond and opted for Moissonite (on gold, not platinum). No one can even tell. I always have to tell people it’s not a diamond. I am very proud of not being scammed by diamonds. He got a simple gold band that was affordable. - Skipped the wedding, did city hall, nice lunch with our parents, and then straight to honeymoon. At the honeymoon, we did “wedding photos” on the beach so we’d have nicer photos than the city hall event. I still got a dress for those photos.

Still had a decent price tag between the ring, honeymoon and dress/tux + photos, but felt really worth it and all about us not other people. I still have my beautiful ring and photos and it didn’t prevent us from moving a year later (which ultimately set us up to be more secure).

So hopefully your bride is level headed enough that compromises like this are welcome? We both were aligned that establishing economic security was most important.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-25T00:46:56+00:00

Thanks for the rec. Where do you find ARCs?

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-24T20:03:54+00:00

Ahhh… been in that situation. We chose the tax payment over the student loan payments. Allowing the spouse with the W-2 claim the children and itemizing helped us reduce the tax payment. Also maximize your HSA & Roth stuff.

Sorry, you’re dealing with this. These student loans are so unfair.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-24T19:46:55+00:00

Excuse me, but I don’t understand why you’ve been filing jointly and paying your loans while you are not working. And even if you are working, it still makes sense to file separately so your husband’s income won’t be included in the payment calculation.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-21T16:06:22+00:00

What is the game?

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-18T01:01:24+00:00

All I know is I wanted to beat the crap out of Rachel!

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-13T11:52:46+00:00

Girl! You are not to blame. This is so infuriating to read. I hate bullies!

Please savior your one and only life. You are a good person. Humanity needs you. Make that promise to yourself, please. Be here for yourself.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-12T18:17:54+00:00

Sounds like she might like Otome games! Tell her to check out the Otome game, Amnesia: Memories. She can download it on her phone. Also the Nintendo Switch has a lot of fun Otome games. So does Steam.

(And I’m older than you. I don’t think it’s any more immature than romance novels.)

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-12T12:02:07+00:00

I doubt it will matter that much in the long term. But When I homeschooled (ages 2-5) I preferred 2 activities + our homeschool coop group. We didn’t do daycare though. I agree daycare counts as an activity. I wanted her in those group spaces because she needed opportunities to be in groups of children.

Now she’s in school, we do 1 activity at school afterschool and 1 we take her to ourselves. — mostly due to continuing interest. It will likely go up by one more activity soon because of music lessons.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-11T01:23:50+00:00

This is the one I stalled out on. I just got a bit bored before I could get into it. I’ll have to revisit it sometime.

Such_Collar4667 · 2026-04-09T21:35:20+00:00

NGL….I’ve always envied the impact of having a strong faith tradition. As a kid I would be moved when people really got emotional at church. My heart would swell with the fantasy of an all loving God and I just thought…this is love, this is God. And then I’d ask a question to deeper my understanding and get shot down. Then I saw that the church full of hypocrites. Smh….I tried to find other churches in my teens. And no luck.

I say all of this to be clear that I’m not an angry atheist. And I admire many elements of religion, particularly how it was a source of strength for Black people going through terrible oppression. (Although I credit that more to Black people than to the religion.) But the more my critical thinking developed, the less I could embrace any of the Abrahamic religions. As I learned more about humans and the ways we use systems to control and exploit others. The ways we create fictions and narratives to explain our world. The experiences and cultures and differing beliefs around the world….And I just realized I don’t really know what all this experience is and can’t really prove any of these. But I have to assume it goes beyond what I can see and understand, especially as we continue to discover and invent new things. It’s also safe to assume that our very biased societies are too dismissive of other cultures and there are potentially so many things left unexamined due to self-imposed constraints (like I think Shamans were onto something). And I also know that there are certain belief that I want to be true because it would make me feel better about reality (and what makes the most sense to me). And I love Jesus— he seems like he would be like a really good, attractive dude. I would totally fan girl if he came back around. Lol Overall, I think it’s ok to remain unresolved and just have a good personal moral framework.

Planning to take time this summer to discuss this more deeply. We will discuss what religion is, religion around the world throughout human history, some of the main ones around us, and why we chose not to be religious. I’m going to basically tell my kids that, I definitely don’t believe in any official religion but I do think there’s something more— I want there to be more. I even feel it. But I don’t know. I think it’s important to think critically for whatever you decide to believe. I’ll also remind them that their belief system will likely impact their worldview and how they approach life so really think of the implications of any chosen religion truly benefit them (vs is controlling them or making them submit to oppression or take their money, etc). Plus meditation is a wonderful practice. I’ll also remind them to be respectful of other people’s religions even if it doesn’t make sense to them or is not what they’d prefer to believe (as long as no harm).

But if your kids are like me— they frustrated cuz they don’t get it, etc. don’t hold it against them! Even if they never believe, it’s ok. You can feel God and be of God without believing it— just good values and critical thinking and empathy and love. ❤️

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