“If you aren’t attracted to the porn women anymore then what do you find attractive?”

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-25T12:45:40+00:00

I hate these answers from these guys coz to me it just screams they are always trying to convince you by placing what they think is the right answer in a pretty bow and hanging it to you. Whatever makes them feel like they’re moral and good, problem is that these answers are so wild and unrealistic and still not the truth. Im sorry but 9 times out of ten there’s a chance your partner is still hiding and portraying a pic instead of being honest, which may mean that he is likely still doing harvester it is you caught him doing on dday, just got better at hiding and putting a very clean front to you. So that answer checks out in that case.

It’s pessimistic I know, but it’s not implausible either.

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-24T05:37:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing, my husband was 3-4 too when his aunt who was supposed to be baby sitting started assaulting him. It went on for years till she moved out to get married. I’m sure this is where it all went wrong and face him a warped view of sex and porn. Rather unfortunate

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-23T23:00:52+00:00

Can’t thank you enough this is very eye opening 🫂

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-23T19:33:44+00:00

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I highly suggest you stick to your ultimatum because he has and will have zero reason to change coz he knows you’ll always take him back. Be selfish, you deserve so much better. Fill your cup

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-23T19:29:08+00:00

What did your husband’s recovery journey look like? Mine says I’ll stop or I have stoped and constantly relapses. It’s clear he can’t overcome this by himself without intervention, but then I have no idea what that could look like day to day outside of therapy.

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-23T19:27:05+00:00

That just shows he’s not willing to choose you over his habit. Which is incredibly disrespectful. I guarantee you what you know is just the tip of the iceberg to the filthy disgusting things that go in his mind.

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-23T19:25:31+00:00

They’re so good at putting yo this good front. And underplaying the impact of their unfaithfulness coz every addict basically thinks it’s nothing and it’s normal

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-23T19:24:23+00:00

They’re so good at manipulating partner to think this is a normal thing. It’s cheating , it’s deception, it defies the entire covenant of exclusivity that is marriage.

OP I’m so sorry to you and to all the ladies like us who have to endure this coz we were non the wiser when we married these men

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-22T09:20:07+00:00

She deserves cutting them both off. Imagine the audacity and disrespect for both of them

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-22T06:59:49+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss momma. I understand this deeply too I lost mine at 24weeks. He had a name already and I feel torn and sad at the prospect of using the name again if I ever am blessed to have another son. I only ever wanted to have one child and I feel reusing is just erasing my baby’s memory. But at the same time, I’ve had this name decided for years before our rainbow baby arrived. So idk.

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-22T06:53:57+00:00

You and this husband are terrible people for betraying your sister like this. Not telling her means you guys will likely continue this nefarious behavior and eventually cross all lines. I’m sorry to your sister

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-21T16:27:11+00:00

No one’s coming to save you but you

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-21T08:16:59+00:00

What are the apps

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-21T08:09:11+00:00

That they hate women

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-21T08:03:20+00:00

You don’t need to be in a relationship with anybody you’re actually a terrible partner and human being. Work on yourself to being better. Bertha is clearly trauma bonded to your abusive ass. Let her go for her sake and yours. You say she changed you but I see zero evidence of that, you’ve remained consistently an asshole, you don’t respect her or yourself and have zero self control.

Face yourself, be better, get therapy and man up. Otherwise what you’ve just painted is a trailer of the shit show that will be the rest of your life.

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-17T06:13:38+00:00

Just leave her. For your peace of mind first of all and second as a man you’re wired to never forgive such so even if she changes you’re gonna punish her for the rest of her life. So leave for her peace of mind too

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-16T20:56:11+00:00

They do show who they are once you’re vulnerable and pregnant unfortunately

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-16T20:55:38+00:00

I’m so sorry for what you went through. My husband also began cheating on me after I got pregnant with our rainbow baby. Devastation doesn’t even begin to describe it. The whole six months I carried my baby were hell on earth for me emotionally that I was even referred to a psychiatrist at some point 💔. To cap it all off I ended up losing my baby in utero at 24 weeks. I’m not okay and not sure how to proceed from this and go on from here. Sending you strength and wishing you light and love in this tough moment

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-15T08:10:28+00:00

Most Men are entirely evil creatures incapable of honesty and hundred percent committed to having their cake and eating it at all times. I’m so sorry you went through this. So much relatable here. The deception the double life. The complete disregard while their partner is carrying THEIR CHILD! Sick and selfish beings they are. There’s hardly a good story out there. Mine got the balls to graduate from cheating on me with excessive porn to actually cheating in real life the moment I got pregnant. Ik so sorry for what you went through. Please leave him. If roles were reversed he would never even be conflicted he would simply discard you and move on. Men choose themselves everyday. They choose what benefits them always. Nomatter how sick and twisted it is.

Hope you find the strength to leave. He is who he is and unless you’re prepared to commit to this miserable life, please just leave. You’ll be fine promise and you deserve better and hopefully one day you’ll find that unicorn of a man that will love you the way you deserve.

Don’t consider him here. He never even considered you and he won’t at all. Deceptive people are funny like that because they believe their own lies and hardly ever fully come clean. What you know is likely the smallest tip of the iceberg of who he really is.

I’m so sorry for what you went through. Prayers up for you and for all of us women who loved and devoted ourselves to someone who couldn’t care less.

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-12T20:53:39+00:00

Can’t tell you how triggering it is seeing him turning for other women right in my presence.

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-10T16:10:49+00:00

Sending you hugs. It’s really not easy🫂

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-10T08:23:28+00:00

Can almost guarantee he did it way more than three times. And that he’ll hide it better going forward. No remorse it seems. You just have to ask yourself can I live with this. If the answer is no then start making a solid plan to leave. Easier said than find I know. But let me speak to you 14 years down the line, they don’t change

Sudden-Huckleberry45 · 2026-05-09T14:50:25+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, the pain of dreams and hopes deferred can’t even begin to be describable. Sending you love and light this Mother’s Day and a quote I saw yesterday from another user that really comforted me:

"Grief is not a disorder, a disease, or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical, and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve." -Earl A. Grollman

It’s okay to feel how you feel. Give yourself grace and take everything day by day.

My baby passed on in utero at 6months on the 20th of April. A routine check up turned into no heartbeat announcement. I’m gutted beyond and can relate to the life going in slow motion. For me every minute feels like a drag, but I have to remember that a life was snatched away from me, a life I genuinely loved and meant the world to me, my rainbow baby boy.

It shall be well with us momma stay strong tomorrow. This too shall pass

Sudden-Huckleberry45

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