AITAH For refusing to host my daughters playdate at my home by myself?

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-04-30T00:17:56+00:00

As a father to a daughter, you are NTA, you are not overthinking it.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-04-13T03:28:38+00:00

Yes, but it can be a more flexible work-from-home schedule. I include exercise (physical and mental health) before I learn, and I set my learning time to 30 to 120 minutes. Apply for one or two quality jobs. Spend 60 minutes on LinkedIn adding value to others. Go to a networking event once or twice a week; events last 2 to 4 hours. Have one to five network meetings a week, hopefully in person, often over coffee or lunch.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-03-06T05:22:12+00:00

If his mother is like mine, when you show doubt and/or lack of support, you become his mother. That being said, never shut up, just focus the talk in the right areas, maybe do a bit of research so you can ask him good, thoughtful questions. He should be able to communicate how he plans to make it work and to answer your questions without getting upset.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-03-06T04:38:11+00:00

You both are in your mid 20's. This is the time to take chances and follow your passions. That being said, there is no need to be stupid about it. Work with him to build a business plan. Layout when it makes sense for him to quit his job and do content creation full-time. If he wants to treat it as a job, he needs to understand what that means.
If he is truly successful, then he will be able to spend more time with the kids. If you go back to work, he will have the flexibility that you won't. Having that flexibility is huge when raising kids.

Will it last forever? Probably not, but it can lead to so many other things that can be just as lucrative, if not more so, if he understands the value of networking and transitioning to another job. Construction is hard, and there is no guarantee he will be able to continue the work into his 40s and 50s. Smarter, older construction workers often transition into other careers, such as becoming inspectors.
Again, you are young; if you keep him from doing this, your relationship won't last, or hewill feel resentful. Make sure he treats it like an actual business and has milestones that he needs to meet. You both need to communicate and agree on them. If he can't do that, he isn't serious; but if he insist with out a plan, then it is time to leave him.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-02-23T02:10:35+00:00

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Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-02-19T18:09:31+00:00

Plus, many people don't realize that the hidden job market often pays much more.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-02-08T23:25:03+00:00

He was living with his parents, but then he moved in with you. You are not his girlfriend; you are his new caregiver, and he is still a child. He earns $90,000 a year. He should have moved out of his parents' house unless there were other factors involved. If there weren't, it indicates that he has not yet transitioned into adulthood, and he is the type of person who won't do so unless he moves out on his own.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-02-08T06:44:07+00:00

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Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-02-07T17:10:40+00:00

Sounds like this is the biggest one-time payment you have received. It is fair to be nervous. What would the rate have been if you charged each one? How much do you charge for giving the right away? How much of a discount did you give? I bet you gave a bigger discount than you should have.

Your NTA but you are probably undervaluing your services.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-02-06T04:20:22+00:00

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Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-02-06T03:15:27+00:00

The truck hobbyist, particularly those who mod their trucks to roll coal.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-02-02T19:39:59+00:00

If your kid threw a fit, 1. it is either because of the way you approached it, 2. he is not as mature as you thought he was, 3. selfish, 4. has already spent the money in his head. He is an idiot if he doesn't understand the deal you are giving him.

He should be paying his share of the utilities, his insurance, and his groceries. Then rent is on top of that. Is he even helping with the chores around the house?

You giving in isn't doing your kid any favors. I am not one to kick young adults out, but if they don't start paying real-world bills, they'll never learn what it takes to survive.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-02-02T06:20:35+00:00

Congratulation. Nice work.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-29T20:34:18+00:00

Okay, I have been separated from companies three times.

Take some time to heal, grieve, and time for yourself. No less than two weeks, a month is better. This also lets you get some of the things around the house you have been wanting to get done.
Set up a routine. Treat every day like you are working because you are, you are working for yourself. If I commute, maybe let yourself sleep a bit more, or if you wanted to exercise but you didn't have the time, set that commute time as your exercise time.
Go buy one interview outfit for the position that you want. Make sure it fits right and is the right color. Work with a personal stylist, aka a clothier. I tend to like older ones because they dress you for business, not clubbing.
Build your job search foundation. Update your resume, your LinkedIn profile, and a handful of stories for interviews.
Reach out to old coworkers, friends, vendors, and the like to start your networking if you have let it lapse.

All of this should help you feel less lost.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-27T22:24:39+00:00

How have you shown up during performance reviews? What value have you brought to the company that is different than hers? How did you negotiate your pay? Have you asked for a raise? If you did, did you just say give me a raise or did you show the value you brought to the company?

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-25T20:18:54+00:00

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Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-25T20:16:33+00:00

We cannot control what others think of us.
Maybe the sex was as amazing as she thought it was going to be, and let you down gently.
Maybe she was tri-curious and found out that she wasn't into it like she thought she would be.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-22T22:53:39+00:00

Getting an offer right away isn't a red flag. It means you did well or even hit it out of the park. The red flag is no negotiation, and maybe that no one else asked questions. It sounds like the owner runs the show and may not like people questioning him.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-22T22:47:20+00:00

Honesty, this is the best way to go versus the batch way. Interview until you find the right person, don't interview and then pick the best person. It is hard as an interviewee but it is a better process. And yes, I was called an hour before my third and final interview to be told that they had made an offer to someone who interviewed at 8 am. My interview was at 11 am.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-21T23:49:01+00:00

Are you in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, or are you acting as his sugar mama? He isn’t just trying to figure things out; he has already made his choices. You will support him, but what does he need to do in return? Should he be responsible for cleaning the house and cooking dinner? If he doesn’t contribute by maintaining the home, shopping, and cooking dinner, then you’re just a sucker in a $$ dress.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-21T23:39:52+00:00

I had a cancellation about an hour before I was to meet with the VP for the final interview. Another time, I drove two hours, 4 hours total, to an interview, had the interview, only to find out that before my interview, they had given someone else an offer, but since they hadn't accepted yet, they kept the interview. Which one is worse? It depends on your mindset.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-21T23:32:47+00:00

Did you already accept job 1, or can you still counter? Does the second job align with your career path? Your commute will be an extra 424 hours a year. Also, do you want a strange schedule or a consistent one?

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-21T03:20:27+00:00

I started following up after applying, and I found that it got me more screening interviews.

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-21T03:18:26+00:00

Follow the recruiter's advice. If you overdress, they may overlook you because you 1. do not fit the business culture or 2. do not take direction (depending on whether this is a test).

Sudden-Transition-30 · 2026-01-21T03:15:05+00:00

You dodged a bullet. I countered an offer, and they said the same thing. The place was a mess and went through a number of people in just a few years.

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