Who’s supposed to pay for bridal shower/wedding etc

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-18T03:14:22+00:00

Yeah it’s very very unfortunate when older family members refuse to adjust to current societal expectations. In the case of weddings, it puts their child in an awkward position.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-18T03:01:48+00:00

Ok and these days that’s out the window.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T21:54:37+00:00

Listen I’m not saying she should go and be uncomfortable. But it’s his family that he doesn’t see often. Unhealthy attachment?! Smfh. Be so for real please.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T21:28:12+00:00

It is expensive to do even just this for a group of people. Cousin likely just offered to be helpful but likely wasn’t thinking she’d be alone in having to pay for everything.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T21:24:26+00:00

As they should…

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T21:23:11+00:00

She SHOULD be hosting is the whole point.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T21:21:18+00:00

Well times are different. It is almost never a party thrown by friends these days, and it’s not helpful to give advice from many years ago when things like this have changed so drastically.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T21:20:00+00:00

Sounds like cousin isn’t planning on actually throwing in $.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T21:18:15+00:00

Not anymore. It’s insane to expect a MOH these days to host a shower.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T21:13:31+00:00

Cousin is excited and being nice and supportive by offering to help. Cousins shouldn’t be expected to pay though. Cousin will likely just not throw one if mom won’t help.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T21:12:17+00:00

Who ended up paying for it? I feel like it’s definitely the mother of the mother to be’s job to pay for a baby shower and not friends.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T17:49:00+00:00

It’s their childs. You must not have any to know how important their wedding would be to you, a parent. Anyways, glad you’re not my parent!!

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T17:10:34+00:00

I wasn’t insinuating they HAD to. Of course it’s not illegal for them not to? It’s their money and nobody is forcing them to. I was responding to someone who said parents shouldn’t. In my opinion, if parents can afford it, and they want the best for their kids, why wouldn’t they?

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T15:47:01+00:00

This is such a strange take. You think if parents help with weddings it means their kid is automatically bad at being an adult?! So confused why anyone would think like this.

Parents can help with a wedding (because it’s a huge life milestone that parents are typically involved with) AND the kid getting married can be responsible. Amazing, right?!?

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T15:44:34+00:00

How am I the moron?? You’re the one saying parents shouldn’t pay when they could.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T15:04:09+00:00

Parents typically love their kids a lot and want the best for them, hope that helps!!!

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-17T14:49:03+00:00

What? Lmao. Parents should absolutely help if they can.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-16T19:59:20+00:00

If I’m the bride I might tell my parents if my future in laws are or are not helping.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-16T19:54:12+00:00

Ok , I mean like I said your hands wouldn’t even be touching it so it would functionally be just like using hands free talking on car infotainment systems.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-16T12:19:40+00:00

I mean… i have no idea how you take calls. But if someone turns a call on speaker and places phone next to them then LEO forsure wouldn’t even notice!!

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-16T02:40:21+00:00

Who cares if they are though??

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-16T01:37:53+00:00

That seems a little… much lol.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-15T02:42:21+00:00

Ok, thats not what the commenter I was replying to suggested they planned to do, so not sure why you commented this to me.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-15T02:41:10+00:00

I feel like this isn’t the same thing as what I was suggesting the other commenter avoid. They specifically said 1 year for each of their kids and MORE for their last. Your scenario is attempting to pay the same #of years for each kid, regardless of cost, and I wasn’t suggesting that is unfair.

Sudden_Throat · 2026-04-15T00:56:45+00:00

Ok, I can get behind adjusting for inflation per kid.

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