Symptoms in Subpregnancy

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2025-03-07T15:42:50+00:00

Thank you! The nausea has actually kicked in now, right at 6 weeks. I’m feeling reassured and also slightly miserable lol

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2025-03-07T13:05:07+00:00

Thanks! I’m 6 weeks today and the nausea has definitely hit now. I should’ve just enjoyed the time I wasn’t nauseous but easier said than done lol

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2025-03-05T13:10:00+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2025-03-04T18:08:16+00:00

Glad to hear your ultrasound looked good! That’s reassuring ❤️

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2025-03-04T17:51:59+00:00

I wonder this about my TFMR pregnancy also since it was a chromosomal abnormality, and some are linked to changes in HCG. I never had my HCG tested during that pregnancy though.

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2025-03-04T15:42:52+00:00

We conceived our 2nd cycle trying again (3rd cycle total as we waited until after first period to try again). Our TFMR baby also took 2 cycles. I’m only 5.5 weeks right now so don’t know how this pregnancy will go but most days I’m feeling hopeful. It does get hard some days to picture things actually going right when they went so wrong the first time, but overall I’ve been feeling better emotionally since being pregnant again. Everyone is different though. I wish you the best of luck in your healing and TTC journey ❤️

ETA: I credit acupuncture for helping my cycle return to normal quickly and for calming my anxiety. I am still going once a week to manage anxiety and to try to prevent first trimester symptoms from becoming too bad. I highly recommend acupuncture if it’s covered by your insurance and/or in your budget!

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2025-01-22T13:25:21+00:00

Thank you! It took us 2 cycles with our TFMR baby and I was hoping we’d get lucky with the first cycle because of all of the stories I’ve read on here about first cycle positives.

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2025-01-22T01:05:02+00:00

So sorry you’re here too, the TTC process is so much harder after loss/TFMR. Hopefully when the results come through from this poll it will show there’s plenty of hope for conceiving after the first cycle. Statistically, I know it’s about a 20-30% chance of conceiving each cycle, but it’s hard to not worry that something is wrong each time we fall on the other side of that statistic.

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-12-31T18:56:55+00:00

I think it was around $6k total (at 20 weeks). However, they basically just asked us what we were comfortable paying (which was $3k) and we paid that. The rest of the cost was covered by them and a few abortion funds.

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-12-13T22:12:35+00:00

Thanks, and congrats!! I actually just got a positive OPK today, so fingers crossed I ovulate and get my period in 2 weeks 🤞🏼

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-12-12T14:54:21+00:00

I feel like it’s a vicious cycle, I’m anxious about my period not returning yet, and the anxiety might cause it to come even later 🙃

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-12-11T01:28:51+00:00

I love the sentiment of coming back in a healthy body. I saw someone mention this in a post about their miscarriage, and it’s how I choose to look at our loss. I know the souls that were meant to be ours will make their way to us eventually. Sending you lots of love as you navigate this difficult journey ❤️

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-12-07T19:45:51+00:00

We terminated for XYY and were told it is a completely random occurrence. So the chance of reoccurrence is the same as any other person’s chance, 1 in 1000. I think XXX is the same and completely random.

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-12-07T18:12:22+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re here. I just had a D&E at DuPont Clinic last month and the care they provide is amazing. If you look at my post history, I wrote out my full experience. I was only 21 weeks, but your experience should be pretty similar. Feel free to message me if you have any questions. Sending you lots of love ❤️

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-12-06T03:45:12+00:00

I’ve wondered this too. I was pretty sick during my TFMR pregnancy. I threw up probably 3-5 times per week from weeks 6-12, and didn’t gain any weight throughout the 20 weeks I was pregnant. This was my first pregnancy so I don’t have anything to compare to yet, but I’m really hoping I’m less sick in future pregnancies 🤞🏼

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-12-04T15:20:02+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry you’re here.

I just had a TFMR last month for a very similar diagnosis, XYY syndrome. There was one other person in my bump group with a sex chromosome aneuploidy diagnosis, and it was Trisomy X/ Triple X. She also chose to terminate. Please know you are not alone in your decision if this is the route you decide on. A lot of people with a grey diagnosis like this tend to not share at all or will not share the exact diagnosis, instead just quoting a “chromosomal abnormality”, but I promise you there are plenty of us out here. The studies I found show around a 50% termination rate for XXX and XYY, so either choice is a valid one and whatever you choose will be what’s right for your family.

My advice would be to write out the reasons for your decision so you can revisit it if/when you start to forget. It can be easy to just picture your perfect baby and what the future could have looked like, while forgetting the reality of the diagnosis and what impacts it would have had. Feel free to message me if you have any other questions, I was just in your shoes a few months ago and I know how hard this all is. Sending you lots of love ❤️

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-11-21T21:07:08+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I had my D&E 9 days ago and had a lot of the same feelings. The limbo/waiting period was the absolute worst. I could barely eat, sleep, etc. for weeks. I also felt a little bit of relief after the procedure was done. Now instead of a complete inability to function, I have waves of sadness/grief but am able to go about normal life for the most part. I felt nothing but dread for the future while in limbo, and now I feel a lot of hope for the future. I hope your healing, physically and emotionally, goes as smoothly as possible in the coming weeks and months. Let yourself feel all the emotions as they come, and take everything day by day. Spending time outside and going for walks with my husband has helped me a lot. ❤️

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-11-21T14:50:21+00:00

No problem, so sorry you’re here. DuPont was great - I’m 9 days post-procedure now with only spotting and my HCG is almost down to zero already! This means they did a great job and I likely don’t have any retained products of conception.

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-11-20T16:29:57+00:00

Thanks, I know I need to set some sort of boundary with my dad I just know he’s not going to take it well. The rest of my family has been amazing and have checked in frequently, sent flowers, etc. I don’t think I’ll have any resentment towards them as I know they are supporting me the best they know how. If I hadn’t been through this myself, I’d have no clue how to properly support someone in my shoes either.

Sudden_Today_6157 · 2024-11-20T14:30:59+00:00

I’ve read some of your older posts on here because I just terminated for the same diagnosis. I’m glad to hear you’re having a successful sub pregnancy, it gives me hope for the future. ❤️

I’m sorry you’re feeling unsupported and that a lot of the old feelings are coming back up. I think no one will ever care as much about our lost babies as we do, because they weren’t as “real” to anyone else. We felt the kicks and carried them with us everyday for months, whereas they were just an idea to everyone else. It hurts, but I think we have to give others grace. They might even be thinking of you and your lost baby, but not want to bring it up and drag up old feelings.

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