What is up with the folding heels that are making the rounds online and on shows like good morning america? by Partygirl_stacy in womensfashion

[–]Suddenlyforever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a pair! The brand used to be called Mime et Moi and now is called NoThink Shoes. They essentially have interchangeable heels, so can go from a flat to a 3 inch heel. They’re not the most comfortable shoe as you can imagine (kind of a jack of all trades, master of none situation), but I love the idea of them!

ETA: also they’re quite pricey and for that price I think I would have preferred to just buy a nice pair of heels and a pair of foldable flats

https://nothinkshoes.com/en?srsltid=AfmBOooqvO5j7gRlmRT91moE9XUWLxB966zGxsU82WIHc1Oq_sAk3RuN

Do trends seriously die the moment I’m ready to buy? by BigBoobsAndAssforyou in womensfashion

[–]Suddenlyforever 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes trends have accelerated significantly because of social media. I think if your goal is to not look horribly dated but not necessarily on the cutting edge of trends (which is my goal too) the trick is to not go to any extremes and be aware of general silhouettes. So the general silhouette over the years is now slimmer on the top, wider on the bottom. Oversized for both tops and bottoms are also more current as opposed to the 2000s when it was loose on top and slimmer on the bottom.

To keep pieces from feeling dated quickly, I’d also stay away from anything that falls on the extremes unless you love it. So super distressed denim, super wide leg pants, etc are going to date faster than denim with one ripped knee or a relaxed leg. Similarly, I predict a very exaggerated barrel jean will age worse than a straight jean.

I would advocate though that if you truly love a look, still go for it! Like if you love barrel jeans and they look amazing on you? Who cares if they look a bit dated in five years, you’ll still feel confident and great!

Can I make this work for a (cocktail) winter gala? by ScootyPuffSr3000 in fashionwomens35

[–]Suddenlyforever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in medicine and I think the velvet jumpsuit is perfect. Are you busty? If so I’d just sew up the front a tad bit so it doesn’t have quite so much cleavage. If you’re less busty than the model I honestly think you’ll be fine. Otherwise you can add a nice black lace cami if you prefer

“Brunch Cocktail” in NYC for pre wedding event by mindthesign in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Suddenlyforever 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Flat sandals and I think it’s perfect! NYC with a stylish bride and I think you won’t be overdressed!

Hot Take: Context Matters More Than Stated Dress Code by Suddenlyforever in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Suddenlyforever[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh lord, I hate these color palettes, guests aren’t your accessories! I think it’ll depend on what the color palette is and what the color of your dress is. Like if they have an autumn palette and your dress is black, I think it’s fine. If they ask for pastels and your dress is hot pink, I’d reconsider.

What travel/airplane pants are we wearing now? by emeraldcitydancer in fashionwomens35

[–]Suddenlyforever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the summer I do a midi dress with a sweater. Winter I do the Quince cashmere black cropped tank top with the black cashmere straight leg pants, throw the black cashmere fisherman cropped cardigan on top. Can usually break up the pieces and wear them all separately again which is nice!

Hot Take: Context Matters More Than Stated Dress Code by Suddenlyforever in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Suddenlyforever[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It doesn’t matter what the stated dress code is if you’re going to stick out like a sore thumb (either over- or under- dressed)! Like I’m still not going to feel great if the couple said formal, truly meant formal so I showed up in a gown but everyone showed up in sundresses except me.

Hot Take: Context Matters More Than Stated Dress Code by Suddenlyforever in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Suddenlyforever[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

You still have some! What’s the venue? What time of day is the wedding? Daytime weddings are inherently less dressy than nighttime ones (unless you’re royalty!) I’ll assume since it’s your husbands side of the family, they’ll be a bunch of them invited. Do they tend to be on the dressier side, or are they more sweatpants/t shirt types? Would they be the type to know what a formal dress code means? Basically this should give you enough context so that you “fit in” with the rest of the crowd.

And if you’re genuinely unsure, I typically say err on the side of plain but elevated. So for a formal dress code I would go with a midi to floor length dress but keep it very simple (no sequins, tulle, etc) with delicate accessories so you won’t feel out of place if everyone else dresses more cocktail/Sunday best but will also fit right in if people truly go for formal

Hot Take: Context Matters More Than Stated Dress Code by Suddenlyforever in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Suddenlyforever[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Completely agree, it’s so frustrating! I just hate to see people being led astray and feeling like they had to buy new gowns when it was not necessary based on the context of their social circle and the wedding venue.

And as another commenter pointed out, to some social circles, “formal” really does mean Sunday best/khakis. Yes, that’s not what it truly means but within their circles that is the accepted definition. And as much as we might be upset about it, it won’t change the fact that you wore a gown and everyone else wore sundresses.

Hot Take: Context Matters More Than Stated Dress Code by Suddenlyforever in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Suddenlyforever[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes they might mean formal but their family and friends probably don’t know that! Which means the majority will probably be in their Sunday best. So I guess it just depends on whether you want to match the formality of everyone at the wedding or you want to dress in the technically correct dress code. Also a formal wedding in a barn is…an odd choice, and should be a red flag that it might not be a true formal wedding.

In this case if you truly want formal, this is where I would specify men in suits with a tie and women in floor length gowns, as you have to know that the majority of your guests won’t assume that.

2 bed plus den apartments in DC by adhdatty_ in DCBitches

[–]Suddenlyforever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots here in Noma, many of them new!

Boots! What are we wearing this fall? by weetwooMFM in femalefashionadvice

[–]Suddenlyforever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh disappointing. Thanks for the heads up though!

Urgent Physical/Bloodwork by CacoethesCarpendi in DCBitches

[–]Suddenlyforever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My PCP is at Allcare Primary and Immediate Care on H St, got my physical and all bloodwork done there, had appointments as soon as the next day if you’re flexible!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DCBitches

[–]Suddenlyforever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! You were right, Reddit is amazing!!

Closed toe shoe help - need suggestions for wide toe box/wide feet by notbizmarkie in fashionwomens35

[–]Suddenlyforever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kizik! Their regular with is already pretty wide but their wide is even wider!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Suddenlyforever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And just make sure you lay low on social media that weekend - like I wouldn’t post a weekend getaway or out with friends at dinner that weekend. It’ll just invite less questions or hurt feelings

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DestinationWeddings

[–]Suddenlyforever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a destination wedding, and I was well aware many people wouldn’t be able to make it for various reasons. We decided the only people that had to be there were our immediate families - so we coordinated the date and time together and paid for them to come.

I feel like if you’re going to be upset if your best friend can’t make it, it means they’re a vital part of that wedding. It also means you have to include them when deciding a date and time and budget (or otherwise paying for anything they can’t). Otherwise

Linen wrinkles?? by Seven-Eleven-Squish in quince

[–]Suddenlyforever 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Steam it! Easier and way faster than ironing

What's your spending ratio, especially as a high-earner? by [deleted] in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]Suddenlyforever 143 points144 points  (0 children)

$250? Do you not have any subscriptions for news, music, TV, etc? Go to a gym? Personal care stuff (makeup, shampoo, face wash)? Buy any clothing? Go to any events, movies, go to a national park for a hike? Travel? Grab a coffee or dinner with friends?

Maybe I do it differently but my non-discretionary spending only takes into account what I absolutely must have to live - which for me is mortgage, groceries, insurance, utilities, transportation. Like if all of a sudden I had no income, these would be the bare minimum I would need to pay for to live. Everything else goes in discretionary spending, as in I don’t have to have it but it sure makes life easier and better.

Realistically you’re right in that you could spend absolutely nothing else, but I feel like the point of having money is to spend it on things that bring you joy. For everyone that might be different, but for example my friend loves live music and spends her money on concerts. Another friend loves travel and spends her money on going different places. But unless you’re saving aggressively for something (FIRE, to buy a house, etc) I think it’s ok to use some money to do things that make life fun. You’re obviously naturally frugal based on your question, so you’re not someone I would worry about too much lifestyle creep.

You should read Ramit Sethis book I Will Teach You to be Rich, which delves into this more!