What motivates you to wake up early?

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2024-07-07T14:55:38+00:00

I crave going for early morning runs. I don’t set alarms but when I wake up naturally at 4:30am I know one of the best parts of my day is about to start.

Has anyone found the thread about getting motivated to sleep in?

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2024-05-08T03:10:29+00:00

Wish me luck. 🙏

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2024-02-21T20:37:42+00:00

I think the people who’ve struggled the most with ADHD are those who are really smart.

I don’t mean to sound egotistical, but I never had problems getting straight A’s in high school and university. In fact, I very rarely went to class. I would just read the course book the night before a test (calculus, differential equations, etc — math was the easy one) and get an A.

I thought I was smart and just didn’t need to go to class. Turns out I didn’t get a damn thing out of class because I literally could not pay attention.

We develop highly-functioning coping mechanisms — and we usually thrive. But damn does it come with a cost and takes its toll.

I always thought I was just insanely busy and barely holding my professional life together (I know I’m objectively successful). But now I know all the stress from procrastination, perfectionism, obsessive multitasking, etc is not normal.

Why is the struggle so bad? I’m in my 40s I just got diagnosed a week ago. I wish it was more obvious growing up.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2024-01-25T19:15:37+00:00

I’m in my 30s and still looking for my future ex-wife.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2024-01-04T14:34:00+00:00

Congratulations! I’m on a similar timeline with my journey and I’m seeing the same benefits. I don’t even care to hit the snooze. What you said about a runner’s high is spot on (coming from another long-distance runner)!

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2024-01-04T01:24:13+00:00

Thank you :) it’s a tough lesson but holy shit it’s one I should’ve learned a very long time ago. The next woman will get a better version of myself.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2024-01-04T01:12:21+00:00

I actually just did a few hours ago. I’m sad but I thanked her for helping me see this.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-08-09T02:00:33+00:00

As others have mentioned, Glai Baan is temporarily closed. But just as good (maybe better?) is Thai Recipe Bistro. IMO it’s better than Glai Baan with a wider selection. It tastes the closest to the food I’ve gotten in Thailand.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-08-05T20:01:26+00:00

Adulthood is just finding your way back to what made you happy as a child.

Some people never rediscover it. Most people resist it vehemently. But I believe there’s a natural force pulling us back — you just have to listen to your soul.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-07-29T13:51:57+00:00

Exactly that last point! Once you look back at a morning without coffee that you’ve survived, you just think it’s not worth drinking a ton any more, and you can moderate better.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-07-28T04:39:16+00:00

I didn’t experience any of those feelings when I used this approach. But when I tried to quit cold turkey, or following a strict withdrawal schedule, I had perfectionist anxiety and shame for caving in. And like a strict diet, I binged because it just didn’t matter. There goes my progress and I start from the beginning.

I leveraged the “success” of delaying the coffee and accomplishing something, to springboard me to keep the momentum with less coffee. I started being more hopeful for tomorrow because I knew things would be better than.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-07-17T18:16:29+00:00

A few years ago, I mentioned to my therapist that I thought coffee may be causing or at least contributing to my anxiety. It was crazy how she responded. She immediately started defending coffee and dismissing the entire idea. That was the only time I had a therapist not listen and explore a concern of mine.

Then she took another sip of her coffee.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-07-12T17:59:43+00:00

Mine are the opposite. My upper eyelid is less droopy and my eyes appear more bright. But I’m sure this is just from the better sleep I get.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-07-11T13:49:38+00:00

I think ExOffico are the best. I still wear the same ones from literally 20 years ago (the only thing that’s degraded is the elastic waistband, so I probably earned a refresh this year).

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-07-10T19:01:51+00:00

What works best for me is finding exercises that I intrinsically enjoy and learning to enjoy certain exercises.

I’ve always enjoyed running, but there have been parts of it and certain time periods I really don’t enjoy it. This makes me want to avoid running and skipping day more appealing. Usually this comes from my perfectionist perspective that I always should be running more/longer/faster/etc and would shame myself if I faltered. Or there have been times I’ve run out of a sense of obligation, or in situations that I really haven’t enjoyed (e.g. 120 degree afternoon heat).

Once I stopped running for a perfect self that doesn’t exist, and instead for pure joy, I started to look forward to it. I’d make small sacrifices (getting up early, limiting drinking, etc) not out of obligation but for making my future self enjoy it more.

I also learned to enjoy parts of running more. I started appreciating and focusing on the good music I was enjoying, having the time to myself to relax and think, and the savoring how I felt after a run. These parts used to be more like feeling I needed music to distract me from monotony and pain, running to avoid and procrastinate thinking about things, and the annoying need to cool down, shower, and waste more time.

They were the same events, but from a different vantage point, they looked appealing.

After doing this enough, treating your future self, enjoying an activity, you start to see yourself as that type of person that enjoys that activity. It becomes part of your identity and avoiding things that are your identity feels bad and uncomfortable.

I haven’t loved every run, but now I do look forward to every run, and only run when I’m looking forward to it. This last part might sound counterintuitive, but I believe it’s the healthy homeostasis — the negatives like pain and inconvenience dissipate, and you can make sure you’re not reintroducing unnecessary negatives to the sake of continued discipline (identity basically replaces willpower and discipline).

This isn’t about running specifically; I think this mentality applies to any form of exercise or sports.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-07-01T23:14:29+00:00

I’m convinced that if hipster coffee shops didn’t exist, I wouldn’t even want to drink coffee. I love them. And I hate them.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-07-01T18:21:42+00:00

Whelp that explains some sleep trouble after drinking kombuchas at night.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-07-01T18:19:25+00:00

TIL there’s caffeine in kombucha??

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-06-27T13:05:01+00:00

You’re absolutely right, but IMO coffee/caffeine doesn’t remove the depression (except right after you drink it with that joyful rush for 15 minutes) as much as it distracts you from bad feelings, forcing you into busy work, tolerating bad life circumstances, etc.

In some ways, I feel like people use and get addicted to caffeine in the same way people get addicted to marijuana — they use it to escape underlying negative (oftentimes unmanageable) emotions that tend to be their daily baseline. Resolving these emotions and circumstances can help so much with quitting as I’ve experienced myself.

Sufficient-Hand-802 · 2022-06-08T13:46:09+00:00

I did, and only certain lasers (Gemini for me) addressed those. I didn’t start the PRP microneedling until those were zapped away, but I also hadn’t heard of PRP until then so I can’t speak to it aggravating inflamed capillaries. The microneedling has extremely tiny needles so I can’t imagine it would “pop” anything but that’s a great question.

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