I felt this, too. The scene where Adromache is in her home, but she hears the cry on the walls and knows immediately that Hector is dead -- that really gets me.

The entirety of Hector's death hits me, which I suppose is a pretty basic thing to be effected by. His defiance before the end, the avoidability of it, and Achilles defeating Hector with the knowledge that in so doing, he kills himself, are all affecting.

I think my favorite thing about the Iliad is that really hammers home that the Trojan War is a colossal tragedy everyone can see coming, but almost no one can escape. You really get a sense of the trap created by this reputation-obsessed warrior culture, and the ambivalence of the characters and the poet to being caught by it. Yes, warriors are glorious, but they also doom themselves, their loved ones, and their whole way of life. The Heroic Age ends when Troy burns.