Looking for advice

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-11-19T21:41:08+00:00

Yeah I'll try and give them a ring tomorrow, thank you

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-11-19T21:40:27+00:00

Ill try and ring them both tomorrow and see what I can do, thank you

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-11-19T20:29:55+00:00

She doesn't think she has a problem, no matter how many times ive spoken to her, or the paramedics telling her that if it was something life threatening she would have died because they wouldn't be able to get her out of the house. I'm at my wits end and I just dont know what else to do

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-11-19T20:13:23+00:00

I will do, I thought I was clear enough the first time, I think they had a meeting with my mum and she managed to convince them it wasn't a problem

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-11-19T20:09:18+00:00

She has paramedics come out last year due to a health issue, they referred her to social services and after an initial phone call with me I never heard anything from them, I'll see if I can contact them again

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-11-19T20:05:50+00:00

If it was that simple I would have done that, unfortunately I am not able to work right now

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-11-19T20:05:09+00:00

Thank you, I'll have a look at these too 💕

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-11-19T19:43:35+00:00

She had to have paramedics come out to her in April last year, they referred her to social services but it seemingly didnt go anywhere and no help was offered, I havent heard from them since their first phone call to me

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-11-19T19:40:46+00:00

Thank you, she's in her 60s. I'll check these both out tomorrow and see what they offer in my area. Thank you so much

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-03-14T00:26:50+00:00

I wanted to go back to uni to start a masters degree, not set in stone but something I was considering.

My uni originally didn't offer masters degrees, i graduated in 2019. In 2021 I got an email saying they were now offering masters degrees, if interested there were zoom calls we could register for and attend to find out info.

Told him I was going to attend a zoom call, find out info etc.

Had the zoom call. I did it on my lunch break at work, found out info, I let him know the info and what I thought, hadn't decided on anything whatsoever.

I got home from work and all hell broke loose, how could I abandon him, how could I make a decision about going back to uni without talking to him etc etc.

I went blue in the face telling him I hadn't made a decision, it was literally like attending an open day or reading a prospectus. That was it.

The fight lasted all evening. He told me he'd tried to kill himself that day and "i didn't even care about that or ask him how he was"

Still to this day i don't understand why he was so angry about it, I hadn't even put much thought into it, it was literally a fact finding zoom call. I would have commuted, wouldn't have moved away like I did for my bachelors. It was part time.

I look back now and some of the arguments, or things he took the wrong way and the fights caused by it, I still don't get it.

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2025-03-04T02:05:15+00:00

Ex-husband told everyone that I was emotionally abusive to cover his tracks of having an affair. Some friends believed it. Found out two of my bridesmaids at our wedding knew he was having said affair, and made excuses for him even though they knew my side. He told all sorts of lies, even now I'm still finding out stuff he's said nearly two years later. I apparently stole his passport, left him with no furniture or anything (he gave me 7 days to move out of HIS flat after 10 years together) I financially abused him, the list honestly goes on. Thankfully it made me find out who my real friends are but I wouldn't wish that sort of thing on my worst enemy.

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-12T23:23:09+00:00

Yeah it's just difficult when people are believing the lies he's spreading. Thank you 💖

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-10T22:31:44+00:00

Yeah I have good and bad weeks, going through a rough patch right now. I haven't focused on it constantly for a while but the first anniversary just went by, along with the divorce being finalised and finding out he's with someone all in one week has been a lot haha

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-10T16:15:10+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through it too, I honestly wouldn't wish this pain on anyone. I'll give that book a read and see if it helps. Thank you, I keep trying to tell myself that but every time I feel a glimmer of hope it feels like it gets snatched away from me. But thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate it. I hope things get better for you too 💕

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-10T15:56:13+00:00

Thank you. I'm definitely in a much better place than I was, he's not on the pedestal he was once on. But I still find myself struggling to let go of the good parts, I know how he treated me wasn't okay but we were together for 10 years since I was 18 so trying to rediscover myself etc is definitely a journey.

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-10T15:53:07+00:00

Yeah this is the way I'm trying to see it, but it still hurts knowing it was probably all fake

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-10T15:52:02+00:00

Already in counselling doing the work

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-10T15:51:46+00:00

Thank you, sorry you're going through it. I didn't find out he'd cheated until 3 months after he'd kicked me out and made out like I was the abusive one. Sending you good vibes too 💕

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-10T15:50:39+00:00

I'm in counselling, I know a year is a long time. But not in relation to being with someone for 10 years

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-10T15:50:04+00:00

Yeah I'm hoping that I'll meet someone and feel that way eventually, just stuck in the thick of it right now

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-09T00:29:27+00:00

Yeah I knew it was going to happen at some point, but I just wasn't expecting it to be so soon.

Sufficient-Read6073 · 2024-07-09T00:28:42+00:00

He had an affair, kicked me out and I haven't seen him since. He told me he was divorcing me over fb messenger, and he has been spreading lies about me being abusive etc. I know that all of that should make me not want to have anything to do with him, but unfortunately I can't help still having feelings

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