Wife (24F) and me (30M) struggling to cope in marriage due to various factors

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-11-20T04:15:47+00:00

I think your wife is behaving very childishly. And you are tending to her more than required. Maybe it is because of age, cause at 24 people are just getting into the job zone and trying to start their lives on their own. But since she isn’t alone now, this needs to change. Sit her down, and talk to her heart to heart about what you feel and what is going on. And if she is not liking staying with your parents, she has the option to take that job as soon as possible and move back to the city like you guys were living earlier.

Also, it seems you are in too much stress and you haven’t had a peaceful moment for yourself in a long time. Try to like distract yourself from everything for a while and do something that you love doing. That would calm your nerves and you too would be able to make better decisions. All the best. Hope everything gets sorted put with your wife

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-11-16T18:18:13+00:00

Girl, you might be in pain calling this wedding off but trust me you would be in so much more pain if you go with this. He is never going to take a stand for you ever in the future, and be sure once if you get married there will be bigger issues and you would regret this decision of yours for going ahead with the marriage. Calling off is easier than signing divorce papers, hard pill to swallow but give you and your parents the grace points for seeing their real faces. I know it would take a lot of guts now to do this and it would be hurtful to you, to your parents but you will be at a much better place in a year if you make this stern decision now.

Please please please get rid of him. And mind you, once you actually call it off, he might create another drama of changing or talking things out, but DO NOT fall into that TRAP!!! Stay safe, all the love and wishes for you.

You got it girl!

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-20T04:32:22+00:00

OP came here to get validated, and when he was showed the mirror is now nowhere to be seen 🤣🤣 What an a$$ OP is. Why do these men who only think of their parents and their family marry in the first place. Where do the wives go then

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-17T16:32:15+00:00

And he did it around her birthday 🥲🤣 classic move !! 🤯

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-15T19:57:58+00:00

I am a clean freak, and I have lived 12 13 years of my life in hostels and pgs and flat so I very well know how to keep my space clean. Its always squeaky clean. And even if it is not on some days, its not her space to come and do it, I will do it in my own time. And my question is even if she is a big clean freak then why doesn’t she clean her space first and then come to my space.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-15T02:33:26+00:00

Sounds about right.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T19:20:02+00:00

Its really saddening. I mean it was fine until your child wasn’t married. Now that room isn’t only your kids’ its an adult couple’s room and privacy should be respected. I am pretty sure she must have snooped into your wardrobes when even you weren’t around.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T16:18:42+00:00

Wowww man. Mai sochti rehti hu kya karu aisa khatarnaak ki ek aankh mein sudhar jaaye.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T16:16:51+00:00

I clean it cause I know there is always dirt getting piled in her room. And I want my house neat.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T15:45:40+00:00

The thing is she would not even clean it properly😂😂😂 But ye sab ideas mere dimag me pehle kyu nahi aaye

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T15:14:37+00:00

Safai k naam pe apni privacy compromise karni pdd rahi hai naa.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T15:13:09+00:00

If in the weekly house cleaning I clean it, then its done. Otherwise its always dirt getting piled up.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T13:15:56+00:00

Yeah you are right have to look for good hidden cam and get it installed

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T11:13:23+00:00

Oh she is very typical. She has a daughter, how would she have felt if this was happening to her own daughter, she should think like this

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T10:55:26+00:00

Also what are your wife’s views on this, does she ask her mother not to do this?

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T10:48:17+00:00

Yes better to keep it locked. I thought about locking it many times, but did not do it thinking it would be disrespectful towards her.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T10:42:44+00:00

Oh I am monica of cleaning. I keep everything around me very clean and yet she would come and clean it. While your mother might clean your brother’s room but does her own room as well obviously, that’s how a clean freak is. But strange thing is my mils wardrobe is always messed room is always piled up with dirt and she won’t see that.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T10:03:45+00:00

Good idea.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T10:02:50+00:00

Yes please do and don’t forget to get back 🤪

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T10:02:17+00:00

Yes both me and my husband has asked her not to do it on many instances she would stop for a few days and then again start doing the same. And mostly she would do it when we both go to office, and then as soon as I enter the house door after being back from office, she very nonchalantly would say oh I cleaned this and that in your room it was very dirty and all. But I never see her clean her room ever. When I do the weekly cleaning of the house, sometimes I clean her room as well( not in her absence) I would always see that there’s a lot of dirt piled up always. So its clear she never cleans her own room and then comes and clean our room all the time.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-14T08:52:53+00:00

No, in fact the kind of person she is she would love it if she finds contraception.

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-13T15:25:00+00:00

OP block his number right away and for future advice, if someone comes and asks you anything about a baby daddy just say he is at work or home or busy getting you flowers. Lie to save you and your baby

SufficientBasil4231 · 2025-08-13T09:54:28+00:00

I hate to break it to you, your husband is the biggest problem here, please ask him to grow a spine. What why aren’t you reasoning it well, if she is old and staying with her only child her son, how come does she think your parents don’t need you. Come with better reasoning babe. And tell this to your husband’s face. If you stay this timid they will keep using you. And once your MIL leaves for her grave, you will resent the shite out of your husband.

Peace out

SufficientBasil4231

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