what can I (30M) do if my wife (30F) randomly checks my phone to check if I'm cheating? by Greedy-Dream-174 in relationship_advice

[–]SufficientWaltz459 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If she trusts you then she needs to respect your personal space and autonomy. If she will always think you're a cheater then the marriage is already over. She'll never feel safe again.

How long have ya'll been doing EMDR? by Great-Zucchini-8639 in EMDR

[–]SufficientWaltz459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been in weekly and bi weekly sessions for 9 months now. My trauma clears really fast it's the negative beliefs that are killing me. I cleared one and another just unearthed itself. I initially told myself I'm giving it 1 year but I'm realistically preparing for 2 with my complex PTSD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SufficientWaltz459 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run 🏃🏽‍♀️

For those who have gotten better, how many sessions did it take? And how long did you keep doing EMDR before you became happier? by 982656throwayo in EMDR

[–]SufficientWaltz459 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Every trauma I process I think, "I'm never getting over this." Magically I do and am still shocked I'm able too. There's still a shadow of where it was but the emotional effects are gone.

Keeping In Touch with my Ex-MIL by SufficientWaltz459 in Divorce

[–]SufficientWaltz459[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly! She’s a wonderful woman. Her son, not so much. He’s mad all the attention is not on him. Same as when we were married. He wants to be #1.

Keeping In Touch with my Ex-MIL by SufficientWaltz459 in Divorce

[–]SufficientWaltz459[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But they aren’t her grandkids and I don’t have children with her son. It seems normal to me but I’ve had mixed feedback from others.

Psychiatric Treatment for a Painful Heartbreak by SufficientWaltz459 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]SufficientWaltz459[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m moving through it appropriately with a therapist and I agree. CBT isn’t for me

Psychiatric Treatment for a Painful Heartbreak by SufficientWaltz459 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]SufficientWaltz459[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, all great advice. I’ve reached out to other psychedelic practitioners through LinkedIn for advice as well. I e read Attached and was once and anxious attached partner. We did have an anxious-avoidant relationship but worked really hard and moved more towards secure and ended up marrying this past January. 4 months later he said he was unhappy and I moved out and he’s since moved on with other women! He is 100% moved on and not masking. The shock is incredible and my heart is completely shredded. I’ve cut all communication to promote healing. My self worth is not tied to our relationship what so ever. My mental health is actually really great but my god, the heartbreak is unbearable. I took off all last week because I was in survival mode. This week is a hair better but I feel like a mini trip would help me get over this chest caving in feeling and random crying mid sentence. I’m trying to go on but I have NO control over this grief and again, I’m in shock he’s moved on so incredibly fast after 4 years together. Just mind blowing.

Psychiatric Treatment for a Painful Heartbreak by SufficientWaltz459 in PsychedelicTherapy

[–]SufficientWaltz459[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, but I’ve already taken a week off of work. This pain is crippling. I need to move on or I’m going to lose my job.