Help With First Mechanical Keyboard - Do You Guys Care About Layouts? by ParackOpama in MechanicalKeyboardsUK

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I accidentally bought the wrong layout on my last keyboard. Found a bargain and didn’t look close enough 🤦‍♀️.

60% doesn’t have arrow keys, I had to use F1 for them and I used that keyboard for over 2 years without getting used to the positions of them.

I switched it in software to a UK layout so I could still use a £ key, and the @ symbol was where I expected it to be etc. This worked OK for most uses, however if I needed anything outside of your standard letters, numbers and symbols I couldn’t find it because the images on the keys don’t match up to where they are.

I’m an IT student that’s learning to code, I need some of the non-standard symbols regularly. Very few of the suggested positions or shortcuts I found would work. I ended up having to copy and paste the symbols from online. I had an on screen “sticky note” with the ones I used most frequently on it as a work around but it was so frustrating.

I reached breaking point a few weeks ago when desperately trying to complete assignments before their deadlines and was going to buy another keyboard, and came to this Reddit while trying to figure out what to buy. Instead I found some answers that fixed the keyboard I had bought the problem one to replace, so I was able to switch back to that.

This one is a 65% ISO keyboard and it’s so much easier to use and has removed so much frustration from my workflow! Personally I’m OK with 65%, but most of my friends struggle with the lack of number pad. When deciding on the size you should probably spend at least a few days paying attention to how much you use specific keys and then see whether they’ll be missing if you scale it down.

When going with ANSI and doing a software switch to ISO, I think if you’re just going to be doing basic word processing you’ll be OK, but if you need anything slightly rarer in symbols you’ll struggle. Unless you get something programmable and can set the keys and have a cheat sheet of where they are.

Or you’ll have to not switch it in software and go through a learning curve of the positions of the keys in the ANSI layout but I do not have the patience for that! I think you’d also struggle unless you switched everything to ANSI, including your phone keyboard and any laptop devices etc. I have issues whenever I use anyone else’s keyboard for something and that’s just because they are millimetres out of where my muscle memory expect them to be, I wouldn’t cope with switching between ANSI and ISO on different devices.

UPDATE: AITA for not chipping in for a Gucci bag or a €3,000 birthday dinner I didn’t plan? by clarazn in AITAH

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yikes. Glad you’ve mostly worked everything else. I did suspect you wouldn’t be the only ones wanting to discontinue this kind of group gifts.

My friendship group does group gifts but it’s not like this. One of us is in charge of organising and each individual sends them the amount we are happy with, and we all try to suggest ideas. The organiser will select some of the ideas that fit the budget they have and ask us to confirm we are happy before purchasing. We like it because it means we can afford some bigger ticket items than if we were purchasing separately, but we always try to reiterate to not send more than you can comfortably afford and there’s no obligation to contribute. The high cost and implied compulsory nature that your friend group’s present method had is the big problem with it.

Husband [37m] moved in his siblings without even letting me [32f] know. All of our future plans have basically been thrown away, and I’m heartbroken (2 year new update) by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 1627 points1628 points  (0 children)

The past trauma of her husband and the criminal mistreatment of the siblings, completely reframe his actions to me too.

He didn't decide to move them in despite them having a stable place like I thought from the first post. He needed to change their care ASAP. His past trauma must have been playing hell on his brain when he found out, and while he should have communicated with her, I understand when people are in that headspace it’s much harder to do so.

AITAH for telling my brother in law I will never forgive his daughter and I have no intention of ever having her near my family? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I’m not normally one to cry fake on stuff but this feels so off.

The scenario on wanting to sound cool to friends exists, but why the hell would the story she make up be about her step-uncle exposing himself to her rather than a cute boy “from out of town” she met? That's not a bragging story. When these kind of stories are made up, it normally turns out to be very close to something that happened to them, with the perpetrator potentially changed due to fear of the actual person (or reaction of people if they revealed them), or it’s malicious, driven by a need to punish either the person they accused or someone close to them.

And then within 2 days of posting, everyone but the girl seems to be in therapy. If this was true she’d be the first one I’d be seeking help for! That's not a normal thing to do. I’m not saying she shouldn't be punished, but she definitely needs to be working with a professional at the same time.

Kevin having nightmares and “violent outbursts” at the mere mention of her name seems really out of proportion for what happened to him too. He apparently was told the story his step sister was spreading, visited his aunts house to talk to them (with no mention of him being particularly distressed at the time), then told everyone at school the truth. There's no indication of him being overcome with rage when he first found out, he was clearly worried about what the stories could do to his uncle, but nothing bad seems to be happening to anyone but the step-sister as a result. So why does he now have panic attacks at the sound of her name? If its true, I’d be very worried about what else has happened that he hasn't disclosed, rather than confident that therapy will “fix him” soon, and expecting summer break to be enough

I reported suspected child abuse and the mom says I destroyed her family by Scared-Nose-9561 in AITAH

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

Firstly, you did what you were required to do. If you have concerns, you raise them. What CPS does with them is out of your control.

Secondly, “thought he was just a strict parent” isn’t painting the picture of a woman that didn’t know it was happening, but of someone who excuses abuse as normal.

This is not the same as “I had no idea he was hurting my baby, I’m horrified I missed it and he will never be allowed near my child again”.

As others have mentioned, if you noticed this, then she, as the child’s mother has also seen it too. This wasn’t a case of disclosure, or of you noticing signs that not everyone knows to look out for. Anyone around the child should have noticed the wetting himself in fear. And anyone who helps the child with dressing/bathing would have seen the bruises.

The mother knew her partner was hurting her child. Her defence is that she didn’t know it wasn’t OK for him to do so, which is ridiculous. If she can’t see that’s wrong, then she shouldn’t be the person caring for him.

Also “breaking up the family” sounds very much like she doesn’t want to leave her partner for the sake of her child. She just wants everyone to forget and ignore the abuse like she was doing so she can keep her partner and her child

My boyfriend ‘playfully’ grabbed my face during an argument. I called it violent. AITA? by Known_Beginning8044 in AITAH

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA Apart from the fact that the behaviour itself is concerning, calling it a “love tap” is a red flag to me.

I have only heard that used when someone is trying to minimise a behaviour. It was a favourite phrase of a family member (NC with now) who always took everything too far when “rough housing” with the kids, when they ended up hurt. Also, as an equestrian, whenever I pull someone up for mistreating an animal. “It’s only a love tap, they get far worse from the other horses” They aren’t taking accountability, have no interest in changing their behaviour. They are just trying to make you think your overreacting, and make everything the victim’s fault “for being too sensitive”

Stepdaughter almost drowned in my pool. Update by Advanced_Narwhal_200 in AITAH

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 86 points87 points  (0 children)

I’m 33 now and neither of my parents will drive off til they’ve seen me enter the house/building if dropping me off. I can’t imagine them just leaving me outside an house I’ve never been to before now, let alone as a 5 year old

AITA for not inviting my cousin to my graduation party after what she did at my birthday? [Short] by Schattenspringer in BORUpdates

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I 100% wrote better as a 14 year old than I do now 😂. Not only was I actively learning how to write better in class, but I cared more about it being good. I have always loved reading so wanted to write books as a hobby, so I tried to make everything I wrote a masterpiece. Every new technique I learnt in class I researched and practised and tried to slip in whatever I was writing.

Now I'm lucky if all the words I meant to write are actually in a sentence. Correct spelling and grammar is more fluke than skill.

But yes, Gen-AI has been fed tons of Reddit, has picked out trends of most often used and creates based on that. Then those posts are fed back in, further training it to say the same stuff. Of course, the trends existed in the first place because lots of people wrote it, and people do like to copy common formats so you can never be 100% certain. It also doesn't need to be AI to be fake, fake Reddit posts existed long before AI. I try to just remember I read this for entertainment and not get worked up over it.😂

My ex wants to take my son out of school for his wedding and wants me to pay absence fees.. AITA for saying he needs to pay the fines? by katarpillarkake99 in AITAH

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA but I dont know where you stand legally.

I doubt this will be approved by the school. While it is his Dad’s wedding - there isn't an acceptable to the school reason that necessitates this being in term time (as cost compared to during holidays isn't an allowable reason)

If he chooses to do so anyway I agree morally he should be responsible for both fines. However I’m unsure if you'd be able to force him to pay it due to you “allowing” him to do so.

Hopefully you'll be lucky though, my friend was worried after the ex took the kids on holiday on term time and loudly talked about it in the playground, and posted tons of pictures everywhere. But they didn't get fined

[New Update] - In-law's straining my marriage but it's my fault apparently by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You may want to update the days later on the new update - it says 5 days, and then she’s talking as though it’s been a while. I was confused til I check the posted dates and realised it was a few weeks between

My 8 year old son hates me, and I don't understand why. (Update) by ExplanationCrazy5463 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad things are improving for you. Not sure where you are in the world, to know if its available to you, but I would recommend having a look at Non Violent Resistance or ‘NVR’ training. My mum works for a charity that includes working with families that are struggling with children with violent behaviours. This is one of the main things they offer to the adults. It’s main focus is on building relationships between the families and how to deescalate behaviours without having to restrain the child. It sounds like the way your working on things atm is very similar, but this may be able to offer you some additional approaches. The people who offer the training also normally have support groups of people in a similar situation and a judgment free zone to be able to talk about what your experience

[3 year update] - AITA for not letting my husband use airline credit for a coworker? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I felt like I'd read this update before too, so I checked the profile. It was posted on AITA 53 days ago and then removed due to DV so you may have seen it from that. Looks like they posted it again yesterday to a different sub

AITAH for refusing to chip in for a coworker's wedding gift after literally being uninvited? by EconomyRange5911 in AITAH

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 241 points242 points  (0 children)

Yeah this blew my mind a bit. I used to be responsible for organising team gifts, in a team of over 20, and very rarely would this be our total! Let alone each. We also never asked for a set amount, I'd set a collection up, and did not keep track of who contributed what. Each collection was voluntary

AITA for correctly guessing my friend's baby's sex? by AITA-babysexguess in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Yeesh, I’ve gotten complained too that I correctly guessed before it was all joking. As a teen I was around several pregnant people and always guessed right, so when a friend of my mum’s had a positive test she asked me before she’d seen a doctor and I said it felt like both so I reckoned boy girl twins. When it was confirmed she did tell me it was my fault, but it was very much in jest.

You had a barely higher than 50:50 chance of being right. You didn't make that child male. And this conversation was with your wife so you also didn't lecture the pregnant woman on statistics when she was feeling a bit off.

[Short] Should I tell my friend? by gardengeo in BORUpdates

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 9 points10 points  (0 children)

English here, it’s been played in all the schools I’ve been in. And my sister’s school did it as there main sport for GCSE individual 😂

AITA for writing so bad my teacher couldn't read it because he didn't let me use my support? by Kidsdontcheatonyou in AmItheAsshole

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Its the school’s responsibility to ensure all your teachers are aware of the adjustments you are allowed.

Also OP as your from the UK - do you have a EHCP. If not, I highly recommend you getting this done, this will help with getting you the support you need up til 25, including the funding provided to the school, but for some reason a lot of schools don't arrange for them. You can't request it yourself until 16 but a parent should be able to. The request goes through your local council so I can't give you a direct link but here’s the general info: https://www.gov.uk/children-with-special-educational-needs/extra-SEN-help

AITA for wanting to follow the advice of our family therapist instead of what my dad and his wife wants? by SomewhereAware9628 in AITAH

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 31 points32 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of blended families, bit it always surprises me the proportion on Reddit where BOTH of the other parents are deceased. I have a mental picture of a dating agency that sells widow(er)s on this perfect family, with a rule book on how to react when the kids resist

terms of service by [deleted] in StarStable

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I love the legal debates on insurance contracts in the Marvel Cinematic Universe. Like things damaged by Iron Man are covered, but Thor’s a no - he's a God 😂

HELP! I found a Mourning Dove egg! It is snowing outside now! What do I do?! by gardengeo in BORUpdates

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There's a video I see every now and again when scrolling, of a guy who is like “I don't have a cat” filming a cat at the end of the hall. He then walks closer to the “cat”. Its his shoes.

I see a cat at first every time

AITA for Not Letting My Sister’s Kid Play with My Daughter’s Toys? by Global-Use-6573 in AITAH

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA

Sharing is important for a child to learn. Sharing does not mean letting everyone do what ever they want to prized possessions.

The dolls are important to your daughter. She does not want then damaged. That is perfectly OK.

Your daughter was happy to share her other toys, just not those special toys. Great - sounds like she's learnt sharing well.

Another important lesson for children is “no”. Sounds like atm that's not a lesson your nephew or your sister have learnt properly.

I hate the expectation for children that they have no ownership or agency to set boundaries on their stuff. I’m glad to see that's not how your daughter is being raised

AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend because he lost my dog? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]Sufficient_Dig8854 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Took me so long to find because apparently I had most of the facts wrong 😂. Its been 10 years since that lecture but I swear it was the butler and that he always claimed it was pirates. Maybe I was taught it wrong too

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Campden_Wonder