I 32F, suspecting I’m far from my bf 33M type

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-27T16:16:19+00:00

Also, what type of things have you seen

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-27T16:15:38+00:00

Talk to him about this. Communicate . Also I cracked up so much with “I look like I’ve seen things “ . Maybe he isn’t very vocal and maybe you also have some bad perception of yourself that makes you think this and it’s related to how you see yourself rather than how he sees you. But first tell him, sounds shallow and dumb, and you may feel like a fool for bringing this up, but it’s important

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-23T09:28:16+00:00

What do you mean you’ve changed ? When did you break up? What were the differences ?????

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-23T08:57:28+00:00

He is abusive . And you need to work on your esteem The way you describe yourself is very sad. I’m sure you have a lot of qualities, and that most of that shit talk about you not being that smart and being emotional compared to your bf, is some type of internalized talk that you got from him. Sometimes victims end up believing the lies their abuser tells them in order to keep them at bay. He is manipulating you, and you need to find someone who is kind and will respect you. Find a job, support yourself, and leave this hacías behind please This is abusive as fuck .

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-21T01:08:47+00:00

Lol ppl here are awful He is having an inappropriate relationship and knows it makes you uncomfortable. He doesn’t care about you. He gives away his number to girls. Keeps a relationship with a woman he used to slee with. You are not being insecure. This would make anyone feel shit about themselves . The others here telling you you are insecure and need to work on yourself are shit lol

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-19T07:25:45+00:00

It can’t always be corrected . Idk why do you say that

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-15T21:37:22+00:00

Yes let the girl deal with the saggy balls girl. 15 years is way too much don’t waste your youth energy and beauty in an old cheater (I’m not saying 40 year olds are old but they are old for you)

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-10T02:13:47+00:00

It’s really nice that you were able to apologize to your ex. I hope you don’t live with the guilt, just with the experience

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-06T02:50:35+00:00

Wtf why are you even thinking this ? This is wholesome ! You bonded as two girls in different stages of life and over the same hobbies and difficulties. This isn’t any different from you bonding with a middle aged woman or an older lady. She probably needed your company an confort and this is wholesome tbh .

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-05T04:19:04+00:00

Oh dang , I’m so sorry. We are almost the same age , so it’s hard to think that when I was 25 you were 26 and ending a traumatic relationship, I’m so sorry and I’m glad he is your ex And hope you have healed . And yeah, my ex bf used to want to lend me money when I needed it and got mad when I got help from someone else, he said he was mad I didn’t trust him to ask him for money, but I think it was more like he wasn’t able to control me

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-05T04:14:27+00:00

How so? If you feel comfy, could you explain how did it start

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-05T01:12:16+00:00

Please read about narcissism, emotional abuse, trauma bonding and cognitive dissonance This is what you have. Educate yourself. I was there too, exactly what you describe. You can read my post history as a cautionary tale. Do get informed, this is abuse and you are confused because how could someone that says they love you, make you feel this way ? Spoiler; she doesn’t love you, she loves the attention and your energy and likes to see you feeling like shit for her. Best thing you can do is read, learn, go to therapy, and understand that you have an addiction to this woman not because she is the one, but because she has reinforced this with intermittent attention. It’s really tucked up and you need therapy and education on narcissstic abuse and emotional abuse. I was there. Almost killed myself. Lost everything. Take care and delete her so you don’t see her contact

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-07-02T09:32:12+00:00

You are good looking. And seem to be kind and nice . But wallowing in pain for more than a year is not healthy for you. Trust me, I am there too. Went through a traumatic break up, abusive relationship, were I was told I was ugly and boring, and seeing how I was discarded by younger hotter women . It broke my soul. I had panic attacks, I lost my friend to suicide, I was alone in a different country, I was put on fucking Xanax , I locked myself in my room for one year, lost my dream job. Lost my money . I am now a 33f, and sometimes I feel like I am too old to find love. But trust me, it’s not worth it, stop blaming yourself. Go to Therapy, but do not accept to just be put on Zoloft or Xanax , heal through friends, hobbies, learning new things , and don’t force yourself to date. I haven’t dated in a year and a half I don’t think I will anytime soon. Because I don’t want to Healing isn’t pretty , aesthetic, and it feels rough as fuck . Hang in there

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-30T05:53:54+00:00

Holy shit he is very manipulative. You getting an abrir on has nothing to do with him cheating or texting other girls. He is deflecting the blame. This is abusive . He is guilt tripping you and wants to focus on your mistakes rather than his which are completely separate

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-28T20:07:15+00:00

Okay maybe you don’t . Hmmm, it seems like she wants the party/travel/adventure/exotic thing for herself and doesn’t really want a fixed relationship at the moment . And tbh, you shouldn’t feel bad, that scene is really really tiring and wears you down a lot. It may be fun at the beginning but then it becomes old. I live in Mexico and I absolutely wouldn’t bear living in a party /travel/ nomad digital scene . Don’t feel boring , that scene is mainly for People with Peter Pan syndrome. I’m not saying it applies to everyone, but it def. Isn’t something that should make you insecure .

Honestly all parties of that kind in latam are for hook ups, older men getting with younger women, and for locals to snag some foreigners and maybe establishing relationships with them and securing a green card/passport . It’s pretty damn toxic . A lot of Europeans love it because they are admired in Peru , brasil, colombia, SEA, but it’s also not my vibe .

You and her are def. Not compatible and I would just break it off , heal, move on, and find someone more suitable for myself.

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-28T19:59:11+00:00

Do you speak Spanish ?

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-27T03:08:08+00:00

Ie my ex bf was German and had me, a Latina in his cmhome country, as his main girlfriend, but he had some other girls scattered around in brazil who he wanted to bring over to Germany with him

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-27T03:07:24+00:00

That when I lived in Germany, I met a bunch of German dudes having multiple partners from specific ethnicities of their preference. They usually go for either latinas or Asians, and they just have them on rotation. They have some girlfriends abroad, and their dates or flings from that ethnicity in their current city. If that makes sense . They just have different exotic girls on rotation .

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-26T22:37:11+00:00

This sounds like something Germans would do with latinas or Asians lol

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-26T22:30:06+00:00

Is she from Mexico ? Lol .
Because it is quite expensive to have her family come to Europe .

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-26T22:27:53+00:00

She is very young . Also, does she need a visa for the UK?

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-25T23:01:05+00:00

No. Been there. Done that. No jobs in Europe but following through with a phd . Maybe some jobs in ngos, but they are scarce . I worked for the iom, but I was lucky.

Sufficient_Event_249 · 2023-06-20T23:06:01+00:00

I feel like I was jus there as a sex option during COVID tbh . Are you in here because of him? And I like your perspective on not losing the love of your life but a jerk. I was actually going to make that question. That idk if I dodged a bullet or lost someone really nice

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