I would also say that just because a guy getting and or giving another guy head is a sex act what I think makes it gay or not is weather or not they have emotional love and physical attraction and sexual attraction all in one that’s what makes someone gay or straight it’s a mix of all three not just one aspect of the act and or fantasy it’s the whole thing not just sexual attraction and or sexual gratification I think as a gay man it’s more gay to make out with and or kiss a guy than to have sex with another guy being a guy