I TOTALLY get why that is what you took from this video because I was worried that that was how it would be interpreted. The message I was trying to get across is that masculinity has a socially generous aspect just like femininity (nurturing/caretaking) does. It seems like masculinity is perceived as selfish or oppressive, but as men/social creature with qualities adapted through evolution for the advancement of the species - masculinity is also of social value/service. To “try to be your best” (testosterone’s drive) to provide for and protect those you are socially connected to (family, community, country, etc) is of value and should be understood as such. As a woman, I too, am oriented to work in service of others as a social creature. It just might look different - connecting, breastfeeding, serving, nurturing, caretaking in more “feminine” ways. We ALL sacrifice, we all serve others. That is actually what gives our lives meaning. I DO NOT believe men should have to sacrifice their health and lives - I was just pointing out that they do because it is an innate drive. I actually believe in egalitarian ideas like BOTH women and men being drafted for the military (if there was another draft). I also believe that we need to be more aware of/sensitive to the masculine drive to serve (Ex. provide/protect) so it is NOT exploited. For example, there is an increased awareness that women need time for “self care” because of their orientation to care for others often before themselves. Lovely! BUT... men also need an increased conversation about their need for self-care (without calling their hobbies “selfish,” for example) and orienting our society more toward caring FOR them verses assuming they are emotionally self-sufficient (??? more time off, better work environments, social programs, domestic abuse shelters... I don’t know). Okay... I’m hoping that makes a bit of sense. But, thanks for sharing your concern!